Aibu about these photos?

[Isitbedtimeyet101]

Mil keeps giving us photos in frames presumably to put up in our house.

The photos are of dh when he was a baby. Dh winning a trophy when he was about 12. Dh at a festival when he was about 18 before I knew him. Sil (dh’s sister) wedding photos.

Aibu to think this is very weird and not want to put these photos up in our house? I only want phones of my own children, me and dh. Dh wants to put his baby photos up.

Another thing, dh mum gave him a box of his old baby/childhood stuff and there is an old child’s character blanket from when he was a kid. He wants to put it on our bed instead of the throw.

Well if she gives them to you, they are yours to do what you want with.
If the frames are decent reuse the frames. If they are 1970s numbers ditch!

I’m so sorry @Isitbedtimeyet101 but the thought of your face on Christmas morning made me laugh 🤣🙈 Definitely stick them behind things (your primary school photo blown up to A2?) and as for the Thomas the Tank Engine sex blanket…. NOPE!!

I love seeing my MIL's photos of when my DH was tiny.

I love the idea of a small shrine type display in a spare room. Is your DH partly trying to wind you up when he says he wants a houseful of his baby photos on display?

It is his photos and home as well if he wants to display. What’s your issue with that? Also if he wants the blanket on the bed why can’t he have It? Why are you the boss of everything in the home?
surely a blanket that is sentimental has far more relevance than a generic throw ?

I don’t like any photos up in the house, unless they’re really arty ones, I find them cringey. Dh’s sister is always giving him photos of the two of them, he’s allowed to put them up in his office or on the stairs wall leading up to his office (which is the loft).

I am not a very sentimental person.

YANBU but it is quite sweet of MIL, not sure about the blanket though! My DH has one (in the cupboard) that I can't get rid of 😆

Make them into a photo book so they can be looked at but not on display. You are definitely being unreasonable though in saying your DH cant choose what pics he has in his own house.

I think she's offloading stuff. I have all sorts of my kids' stuff I don't really need. I can't wait until they have settled homes so I can carefully take it round so it can go in their lofts rather than mine.

My parents have been doing this with glee for many years. I don’t even know where they find the things they bring round.

She’s maybe starting to do her version of death cleaning and passing on things now that she has found precious - I think it would do no harm at to have some of the pictures on display , it’s his home too

The best of it is mil doesn’t even have her own children's baby photos up in her own house.

She has literally got sils wedding photo and a couple of her and fil.

Her own house is very minimalist, my ds bought her a small house plant once and she turned her nose up at it.

Perhaps I’ll start giving her some framed photos of me as a baby for Christmas 🤣

PLEASE do this @Isitbedtimeyet101 🤣

I’ve not read the whole thread so sorry if I’m repeating but I was thinking recently about getting a digital frame so I can have lots of old photos randomly appear without them all on display all the time, I love looking at old photos from my childhood and my husbands.
Maybe that’s a compromise for you OP.
And get a little bear made of the blanket ( not my thing but if he loves it so much it’s better than as a throw on your bed).

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Clearly I'm a right weirdo judging by this thread, but I honestly can't see any issue with having photos of yourself as a child around the house? I have a couple of me with my grandparents in our bedroom and I'd honestly be really upset if DH said he didn't want them around.

I also still have my baby blanket and often use it on the sofa as it's soft and cosy.

When I visit my parents they have all sorts of photos up - pictures of them as children, of me as a child, of them with their parents/my grandparents, wedding photos of me and DH, even some photos of my dog

We have some photos of us as kids around the house, why wouldn't we? The kids like seeing them too, it's where they came from. History, heritage etc etc.

Blanket I would take and put in a memory box type thing.

I have photos of myself as a small child in frames in our house. I dont understand why people find it strange?

To be fair I think most people have said it’s not strange. I do take this on board.

I love old photos but I don’t want to look at photos of my husband as a baby in a nappy or in the bath with his sister on my mantlepiece, or have his baby blanket on our bed.

It gives me the complete and utter ick.

But I do accept I am in the minority.

If my DH wanted his old Thomas the Tank Engine throw on our marital bed, then Thomas Tank is all he’d be getting in future!
Urrgghhhhh!! What a turn off!

But I do accept I am in the minority.

I don't think you are though. Every house i have ever visited has never had photos of the adults as babies - unless they've been hidden away in the marital bedroom I suppose. Having baby photos of your own child dotted about then yes, although most are school photos.

Think the problem is it’s not all about you and what you want
I’m not a picture person and have no family photos up wife have some of hers up and tbh irritates the arse off me but at the end of the day it as much her home as mine so it’s not really down to me my preferences and choices

This. It's his house too.

Have them laminated and stick on the underside of the loo seat....

I love old photos but I don’t want to look at photos of my husband as a baby in a nappy or in the bath with his sister on my mantlepiece, or have his baby blanket on our bed.

But your husband would like those things. Why do your wishes trump his? How would you feel if you couldn't have something sentimental to you on display because it "gave him the ick"?

Well I agree. I have never been in anyone’s house where the adults have got baby photos of themselves. Even mil doesn’t. She doesn’t even have dhs baby photos!