How to handle child swearing for attention

[cloudywithstars]

My 7 year old daughter has been swearing a lot over the last week or so, normal loss of privilege has not had any affect.
she is currently swearing repeatedly while chatting to her sister and I’m just ignoring her so not to reward her with the attention she is trying to get, she’s not angry she’s just smugly swearing more and more for a reaction and now almost every other word is fucking or fuck even to the point she’s singing it to get me to react.
I have taken her Nintendo and began extending the days she lost it but she’s not phased.
She is swearing louder and louder and seems very confused at my lack of reaction, I am calmly thinking of a consequence to give but I’m looking for suggestions.

What do you mean by she seems to enjoy it or get a thrill from being defiant? What are you interpreting from her beheviour to suggest this. Often when children behave this way they are actuslly incredibly anxious. And given you are des ribjng what sounds like a perfect child at school who explodes at home, that suggests masking and anxiety

It also could well be verbal stim or tic. Especially as its come on suddenly and age sats she doesn't know why she does it and punishment is not working.

She absolutely loves it, big smile on her face, repeats rude things to make sure you heard, callls her sister vile names and is still swearing away now.
her sister asked her why she keeps swearing and she says because I like it.
she isn’t anxious at all, she’s just bold, hyper and daring, she’s constantly talking, doesn’t stop for breath and she finds her behaviour hilarious.

What you are describing is how anxiety can present. I think do some research into ND and non typical presentations esp for girls. She sounds a bit hyper with constantly talking as an adhd female that is how I presented as a child. She may well be trying to connect even though it seems like she is being defiant.

Look at PACE.

Ross Greens books and plan b methods.

Get curious

I like this. Utterly horrid speaking like that. Give her a massive telling off. She’s 7yo and fully capable of knowing this is unacceptable. Sending her to her room is wet parenting, so is ignoring it. If she was 3/4 then ignoring would be the way to go.
I would really judge you if I heard your 7yo speak so vulgar language.

Oh fgs, some kids are just naughty. Not everything needs a diagnosis. Op knows her child better than you and she says she isn’t anxious at all.

So you take her back up every time.

🙄 swearing/unwanted behaviour for attention is a perfectly normal phase nothing to do with neurodivergent children