To not let 10yo wear football kit to pub lunch?

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Not super fancy but nice pub for lunch with family, AIBU to tell him to take his football kit off and put something a bit smarter on?

Or is that just snobbery?

It’s an all black smart ish kit if that makes any difference…

Is it a normal sort of pub with no dress code?

It's not just about the pub, imo. It's a compliment to the people you'll be with to wear something a bit smarter. It shows you think they're worth making a bit of an effort for.

Here we go with that awful C word again.
Horrible word.

Jeans are never smart!

This was my thought too, pubs are often no football colours. I thought this was what the thread was going to be about!

Not something that I would worry about. I'm going for lunch in the pub today and have a football shirt on!

Strongly agree with you OP

I’d let him wear a replica club shirt with jeans and smart trainers. Not a full kit, and not the team shirt he actually plays in.

For a pub lunch? This wouldn't be an issue for me. He could wear his football kit provided that it was clean and not inches thick in caked on mud from the football pitch.

I might ask him to change later for the Italian meal with auntie and uncle if appropriate.

Our child no.1 would wear football kit everywhere. Or a football and a short skirt. All sorts really in every colour - matching or not.

But she was happy. Now at just off 40 she jokes, when looking at old photos -"Why did you let me go out like that?!"

There are more important things in life, better battles to fight.

She said last week that she'd had a happy and relaxed childhood.

What more do you want.

Teaching children to dress for sn occasion is a good skill. I see so many adults who look really scruffy in restaurants.

Football kits are for playing or watching sports or being in the garden. I might be snob but I think they look very chavvy when worn to go out in.

I have been to a funeral where the family and friends of the deceased wore the football strip of his favourite football team. 😃 So it can be acceptable if specified. 😃

Those of us unable to do that were to come casually dressed, with jeans and t-shirts also perfectly acceptable.

I agree. In fact I'd have marked the distinction between a pub lunch and being taken out to an Italian restaurant by specifically telling him to wear more casual clothes eg the football kit for the pub lunch, and then to get changed into something smarter for the evening meal. He could spill sauce or something on his 'smart' clothes at lunchtime then have to get changed again anyway.

Dresses in a pub????

Agree. Don’t let him fall into sloppy habits.

Yes, people have forgotten how to dress up these days. I don't mean something really fancy, just not casual wear. I'm surprised that my friend finds no issue in going to a restaurant in leggings and a hoodie. I once wore running clothes after a run and it felt very wrong and disrespectful. To the owners and also to the other people who may only be able to afford a meal out occasionally and I look dishevelled.

We’re talking about a pub not an elegant restaurant.

I'm confused at why people would be offended by what someone else wears in a pub, especially a child.

Dirty kit he’s been playing in - not OK

Clean kit - fine .

Well yes - there’s a huge difference in wearing a clean hoody and leggings to clothes you’ve just worn to run in. That is a bit yuk.

This is people pleasing to an extreme degree. Who cares if your outfit upsets and offends the eyes of someone on another table at a restaurant?
Boohoo they can only afford to fine dine occasionally, that is not your problem wear what you want.

I don't dress for other people. I dress for myself

Exactly. Pure snobbery.

Ugh.

So much for the social contract.

we were in a nice, dressy London restaurant the other night and the captain turned away a loud, sloppy couple in leggings, cargo shorts, hoodies, trainers, and cheap caps.

All the other patrons were in suits, dresses and nice shoes/jewelry, but these clods took the hump and couldn’t understand why they were not welcome. It was mildly entertaining.

If you know, you know.

Uphold your standards, OP. It will serve your son well.

Depends on how much of a battle it will be. Wouldn’t ruin a nice day out if they would fight me on it. If they don’t mind I’d say go put something nice on. I’m not bothered enough by a kid in a football kit to cause any upset over it

I would assume it's a bit of a rough family if I saw the football kit tbh.