To not let 10yo wear football kit to pub lunch?

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Not super fancy but nice pub for lunch with family, AIBU to tell him to take his football kit off and put something a bit smarter on?

Or is that just snobbery?

It’s an all black smart ish kit if that makes any difference…

YANBU. Will it be dirty from playing football?

Just follow your usual parenting style, would you normally allow casual dress at a lunch out? It’s just a basic parenting choice.

I’m with you. I never allowed mine to wear football shirts out. Ghastly!

Is it clean? If yes of course he can wear it to a casual lunch. No different from eating at lunch or with friends.

I agree with you.

To my kind it just looks chavvy wearing a football kit out and about.

Not snobbery no. I do excatly the same. I often say to my girls no leggings/tracksuits/hoodies. It s perfevtly reasonable they need to learn how to dress appropriately for an event/venue/ etc

Depends what the general dress code is - t shirts and jeans - then I can’t see what’s wrong with it, but if it’s smarter then no.

(I’m assuming it’s clean and he hasn’t just been playing in it, if he has then no either way)

A nice, well fitted matching football kit with clean trainers can look smart. A ill fitting, dirty, over washed non matching kit with scruffy trainers looks the pits.

If it’s just a nice pub lunch and it’s smart I’d pick your battles personally.

Yanbu
Clean jeans and t shirt? Fine
Nice polo shirt? Fine

Football kit- no

Happy child in clean clothes - that would make a better family lunch than a miserable child forced to wear clothes that he doesn’t want to.

It's a pub lunch and I'm presuming the kit is clean so this just feels like you're causing an argument for arguments sake. It's just clothing at the end of the day.

Clean? No problem.

Sportswear is for sport

YANBU

Pre-children I would have said, yes, absolutely make them change, but my 9 year old is autistic, and I personally don’t think it’s worth the subsequent meltdown that it would induce in him. If your child is more amenable, then I’d suggest it certainly.

It’s a pub lunch not a smart restaurant. What would you wear? I’d be in either jeans and a T-shirt or leggings and an oversized hoodie, dependent on the weather.

And I put it to you that casual clothing - including football kit - is perfectly acceptable for a nice pub for lunch with family, as long as it is clean, not torn or stained or covered in offensive or naff slogans.

Does it really matter, as long as he's clean?
You're not going to a wedding or important event, pick your battles and decide if its worth the fight.

What's everyone else wearing?

Is Dad in a t-shirt or polo top?
If Dads in a t-shirt then I wouldn't fight over the football strip.

As long as he hasn't just been playing football in it I don't see the issue.
It's only a t shirt and shorts. Plenty of children and adults wear football shirts as t shirts
It is just snobbery to say its chavvy as PP did.
I hate the word chavvy anyway but a child wearing a football shirt signifies nothing other than the child likes football!

Kit is clean. Clean clothes are just about the only non negotiable in this house! I’ve told him to change because I’ve remembered he’s also due to be taken out to an Italian for dinner with aunt and uncle this evening so saves him changing later.

I let him wear football kit nearly everywhere so long as it’s clean because he prefers it but as sports wear often isn’t allowed in restaurants etc when you’re a grown up feel like it might be better to draw the line somewhere now.

Interesting range of opinions.

I’d pick my battles this isn’t something I’d get worked up about, as long as it’s clean! Nobody is going to be looking at your DC they’ll be enjoying their meal.

Well i beg to differ. you know everyone is different?

jean shirt or teeshirt and a knit or sweatshirt fine. Tracksuits leggings hoodie or football kit for a lunch in a restaurant (gastro pub or reataurant) NO.

if pub lunch booked after a hike / walk lunch in your walking hiking gear YES.

my opinion is mine. You dont have to agree.

the OP was asking if she was reasonable, in my opinion she is.

What's the pub's policy on football shirts? A significant number ban them - and will not differentiate between an adult and a child in refusing entry.

Might be an easier way to get the desired outcome.

I don't see why a clean, football kit or clean leggings and a hoodie is not appropriate clothing for a pub lunch!
I think anyone dressing more formally for a pub lunch would be dressed inappropriately.

Dad will be in button down shirt and smart jeans. Girls will be in dresses.

He fairly easily agreed to put on a polo shirt and jeans of his choosing.