To not let 10yo wear football kit to pub lunch?

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Not super fancy but nice pub for lunch with family, AIBU to tell him to take his football kit off and put something a bit smarter on?

Or is that just snobbery?

It’s an all black smart ish kit if that makes any difference…

It's a pub lunch not the Ritz. Of course he can wear his football kit if it's clean.

If the girls are in dresses I'd draw the line on the footie kit.

No footie kit for an adult but a10 year-old can wear anything in my book, particularly for a pub lunch

I’d let him wear it.

Exactly this.

Trousers/jeans/smart shorts and clean t-shirt/shirt are the non negotiables for meals out here.

Oh I think this is tricky, I’m all for everyone wearing what they feel comfortable in actually and not being people pleasers.
I would say along the lines of “it’s going to be fairly smart, we’re all wearing xyz and other people will probably be smart too. Do you still want to wear your kit or choose something a bit smarter?”

I'd go 50/50 - footy top with jeans (or whatever trousers he usually wears).

Is he clean? Is it a normal sort of pub with no dress code? Then of course it’s OK.

Sounds like you generally let him wear whatever he wants, so it's not unreasonable to say that on some occasions you want him to wear slightly smarter clothes. He can go back to wearing what he wants the next day.

Quite right. Football kit is for football. It looks awful to see kids wearing sports kit at other times.

For a 10 year old this would be acceptable I think.(not a fully grown man though!) I doubt anyone will notice in the Italian Restaurant either .Just go with it if it is clean and tidy then OK .Went to M and C say they have a strict dress code ,but when there people in Jeans and t shirts!

That would be a no from me too. Sports kits are for playing sports, possibly sitting around at home. This is why I hate that young boys clothes are almost exclusively jogging bottoms, they look so scruffy I refuse to buy them.

At age 10, my ds pretty much lived in football kit...it was a phase and important to him at the time. As long as it's clean, then I think it's fine. It's only a pub...even if it's a nice one..no one will bat an eyelid at a primary aged boy in a football kit.

This is not a hill to die on.

I would say fine for a pub lunch. I don't understand why people make a thing of dressing up. I can't stand the idea of little girls should be in dresses if that is not what they want to wear and the same with boys, if he is wearing a clean kit and not what he has been playing in then to me that is absolutely fine.

Maybe not to a funeral or christening but although I personally think it should stay at the football I am not the person wearing it and don't see it as extension of me so why would I need to have that much control

No it doesn't. Loads of boys that age love football live and let live you're only young once and it isn't a big deal.

What does look chavvy is tracksuits but that doesn't seem to stop almost everyone dressing their children in them

For a pub lunch?
No problem.

My 10 year old lives in a football kit unless we're going somewhere that would require something smarter.

A pub lunch around here would be pretty casual.

Even a casual pub lunch?

Depends in the pub and the occassion and the lunch type.
If it was just us four, casual sunday and popping out for lunch after a walk then it would be fine if it was clean on.
If it was a birthday or something a bit more sit down for an occassion and it had proper pub dining then we would go more formal.

Yes DS1 is autistic and the rules have to be the rules otherwise that way madness lies.

To your kind? Wow 😂.

I assumed she meant mind lol. But how is a football kit chavvy?
When everyone else is dressing their kids in tracksuits which actually does look chavvy.

Yikes, no. I’d not let my child go out to lunch in a football kit. Clean or otherwise.

I am in the minority I think but for me there are bigger hills to die on! Clean, fresh football top is fine for a casual pub lunch.