Should you ask another mums permission before giving their Dc sweets/cakes?

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Just curious about this.

Recently planned a nice activity for children I know, it included a sweet treat in it, children were happy. Should I have asked the Dc’s parent if they could have the treat? It was small.

I have neighbours we know and friends bringing my Dc chocolate or sweets and i’m okay with it and encourage the children to say thank you and be grateful as it’s a nice thought behind it.

I would ask as it depends what the treat is.

Yes I'd ask just in case of allergies, diabetes or other health conditions.

Good idea to check in case of allergies, diabetes, if they’re vegan etc

Chocolate

Nah, it’s fine.

I’ve seen them have it before

Then no, I wouldn't. I'd probably give them only a small amount though.

I would ask if they’re in the vicinity but if I was caring for a child alone I wouldn’t bother. If they have dietary requirements surely they’d have discussed that with you before you took care of their child?!

Dairy allergies, nut allergies could be an issue with chocolate. Diabetic or Vegetarian?

Depends on the age of the children. If it is small, a one off, and the children are old enough to have an awareness of their own health needs (older primary age upwards ISH) then I wouldn't necessarily worry about getting permission. If they are toddlers I'd absolutely ask permission.

Given by the parent?
Probably okay then.

My nut allergic child can only eat certain brands/types of chocolate though.

Yes at the house

Kids are 6 upwards

If I knew the child and parents. Know there isn't an allergy etc. I give treats, sometimes a very big treat and always let the parents know at pick up or drop off and of course I apologise for filling them full of sugar and e numbers. They do the same back.

It's not an every day thing and when kids are together doing stuff it's nice to go out of the ordinary.

I didn’t mean in case of allergies, but parents who wouldn’t want them having chocolate
For me with my Dd it’s not an issue as I see it as a thoughtful thing

Please ask 😁. Dd2 has severe allergies and this is a nightmare when people hand her food as she's too young to check it herself

Allergies are more dangerous though. They’ll get over the other.

I’ve seen them have it before

Yes, they don’t have allergies

Needs to be exactly the same type of chocolate though, if you’re unsure re allergies.

For example, Cadbury’s buttons are safe for my allergic child but Cadbury’s Dairy Milk is not. (They’re manufactured in different places.)

Were you looking after them? If so, I wouldn't again if a parent got snotty over a bit of chocolate.

If I was in charge of someone else’s children I’d ask about allergies/dietaries but would then give them the same as I have my own children, including sweets etc. would assume they’d tell me when I asked about dietary requirements if there was anything they didn’t want them to have

Yes I would check with parents.

When my son was a toddler he was given irn -bru at the nursery he went to 2 afternoons a week. We had never given him fizzy drinks or sweets or chocolate and I hadn't wanted him to have these so I was really quite annoyed.

They’re much older and def not fizzy drinks

I’d ask for allergies but I can’t say anyone has ever asked what they can feed my child on a play date and I’ve never asked any parents. I took my dd and her friend out today and gave them ice cream and let them buy sweets and it didn’t occur to me to ask parents first, other parents have done similar (age 8 but for the last year or two when play dates have been without parents).

Told the children to only eat a bit of it, in front of me, didn’t look very happy. I just felt a bit embarrassed as was trying to do a nice thing and really didn’t have to