Should you ask another mums permission before giving their Dc sweets/cakes?

[Goinglocodowninacapulcoo]

Just curious about this.

Recently planned a nice activity for children I know, it included a sweet treat in it, children were happy. Should I have asked the Dc’s parent if they could have the treat? It was small.

I have neighbours we know and friends bringing my Dc chocolate or sweets and i’m okay with it and encourage the children to say thank you and be grateful as it’s a nice thought behind it.

Really? okay, if that's true, then yes, that's crazy. Certainly, around here, if the parent is there they're always asked first. It can get irritating smetimes with the pre-warning about snacksa fter school for birthday, the requests at pick up, the follow up etc!

I hate it when parents do this to be honest. For DD in particular if she has chocolate or cake she won’t eat her normal meals very well and DS is at the age where a lot of ‘treats’ are sneaking in. I think it’s really rude.

This was after dinner

A whole almond???

Steady on now

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This is one theory/method, not everyone subscribes to it.

Personally I think it's counterintuitive when our bodies, via the means of taste, smell and through blood sugar responses, do tell us when we like something a lot.

I think it works a lot better to learn to moderate by listening to your body's response - satiety, etc.

I wouldn’t check but I’d mention
it if it came up in conversation.

If a parent was sending their child off with me I’d expect them inform me of any allergies or diabetes or dietary needs if they existed. And any sensible
parent would be telling you. Especially if they have insulin or EpiPen etc!

I think if the children are being left in your care, it's parents' responsibility to tell you anyhting thay can't have. If the parent was there I'd ask.

Have the parents of the child/children been funny with you about giving them a treat? If so then I would not be looking after them again. If they specifically did not want their child having certain things then they should have said beforehand. If nothing has been said then why are you even questioning it?

You’ve decided it’s okay because it was after dinner, no allergies and in your eyes it was doing a nice thing. You’re still putting another parent in a position where they can’t really say no.

Yes, always check with the parents if any food or drink is offered.

It wasn’t in a situation where I was looking after them as such

I genuinely didn’t think of it in that much depth, perhaps I should have, I just saw it as a fun thing

You really didn't need to either @Goinglocodowninacapulcoo

If parents are going to be that precious, then they need to not let their dc out of their sight.
They will obviously also have to deal with the way their own dc respond to being deprived of things other dc have, but that is their choice.

You've done nothing wrong at all.

The other parent, if she continues to treat people hosting her dc like that, will soon find her dc doesn't get invited to many places.

No.

If I’m looking after someone else’s child then I assume they trust me enough to allow me to make decisions, obviously if there are allergies or diet restrictions I’ll adhere to those but would expect to be told in advance. The same applies if someone’s looking after my child, I accept that they’ll eat what the other parent decides is suitable.

I think the parent was there?

If I’m present, supervising, I wouldn’t necessarily think to say my child has allergies, or I don’t want them eating a certain food. Might get a bit awkward if the other adult hands them a snack all right.

But I think most people would realise OP was just trying to be kind.