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Sunbed Shock

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SansaStark90 · 16/04/2025 17:09

I’ve been really stupid and gone on the sunbed for twenty minutes and the burns I’ve got - I’ve never seen skin as red. I’ve got like indents to my skin as though I’ve woken to stretch marks on my chest. Will these disappear? I’m in agony. I’ve never burnt and so didn’t know it could cause this kind of pain. I’m shaking shivering. I did this yesterday. Can someone reassure my health anxiety that these indents will all calm down?

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TemporaryName123 · 18/04/2025 06:31

OP you sound quite ill and being delirious is not a symptom to be ignored with the level of burn you seem to have. I really hope you have got to a&e and are being looked after

ToutesetBonne · 18/04/2025 07:35

An A&E receptionist would be at risk of losing their job if they gave any medical advice.

BloominNora · 18/04/2025 07:52

@abs12 and @bfc1980

I am not minimising anything at all.

And yes - I researched the statistics but didn't just Google and quote the first numbers I saw - I went into depth on the cancer research site to properly understand what the baseline was and therefore what the increased risk meant in reality to try and cut through the hyperbole and fear mongering from people who were making up numbers to scare an already worried OP.

I work with data every day to support decision making in an area which can have a massive impact on thousands of lives and cost millions. Properly using data to understand risk and impact is absolutely crucial to deciding what action needs to be taken - whether it is a multi-million pound decision, what factor suncream to use or whether or not to eat bacon.

I'm not saying there is no risk and everyone should crack on and use sunbeds or sunbathe until they go mahogany.

I'm just trying to put the risks into context so people can make informed choices.

I am fully aware that melanoma is brutal. Of the four people I know who have had it, one is dead from secondary cancer years after their original stage 2 melanoma was successfully treated, two are immediate relatives and I'm married to the other. Two of the three I'm related to were stage 2 and have significant scarring and ongoing issues from the cutaway biopsies.

I also know, because I've taken the time to properly understand the risk factors, that having had two immediate relatives who've developed it, suffered a lot of sunburn when I was younger AND that I have a lot of moles, that my persobal risk for it is increased making me very aware of the signs to look for. I have already had one (thankfully benign) biopsy on a suspicious mole and fully suspect I will need more in the future.

My kids also have increased risk factors due to the genetic link, and obviously DH having already had it, so we are also very very careful about using suncream in our household.

I don't know what my personal risk % is exactly but it is higher than that of someone who doesn't have those same factors so a 50% increase for me would be more significant than a 50% increase for someone who has no genetic factors, has never been burned by the sun but has used sunbeds a couple of times.

Scientific peer reviewed is exactly where the data that I used came from and it is so important to put it into context.

For example - @abs12 you said that getting sunburned under 5 doubles the risk of melanoma. That is true but what does it mean for a worried parent, with health anxiety, whose child burnt their shoulders while playing in the garden? It could really cause them to panic, feel guilty, become hypervigilant without context.

What you didn't say is it is specifically blistering sunburn that doubles the risk not a mild burn that goes within a day or two. You also didn't say what it doubles the risk from and to? Doubling of a 0.5% risk is very different to doubling a 20% risk and understing personal risk factors is vital in that regard.

In the case of our hypothetical parent above re-assurance that they shouldnt worry and don't need to inspect every mole on their child's body for the next 10 years and gentle advice to cover up / keep topped up with suncream is much more relevant and helpful than talking % increases in risk.

Hyperbole around health statistics is a massive problem. Constant media headlines which scream about common, everyday things doubling or tripling risks to cancer without stating what that means in reality desensitises people to the point where they don't take any notice - even when a real and significant risk comes along.

BloominNora · 18/04/2025 08:06

bfc1980 · 18/04/2025 02:56

Your post which seems to play down the risk of melanoma is extremely dangerous and quite frankly stupid.
NOBODY SHOULD LISTN TO YOU!

The overall survival rate is around 94% which is relatively high. However that's only because it's the easiest cancer to detect at it's early stages. Changes to moles etc that are visible. Once it's at stage 3 or 4, it spreads rapidly and is difficult to treat. Even at stage 2, the wide area excision can be large and even with skin grafts, you're still left with scars.

These are what I'm left with after being diagnosed with stage 2 melanoma and then stage 0 in a different place.

That looks nasty and I hope you are in full remission now.

DH didn't have to have a skin graft but he has a massive scar on his back and still suffers from pain under his arm where they took a lymph node for biopsy.

Hopefully you won't have to go through it again!

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 18/04/2025 08:18

You poor thing. I can’t believe people are giving you a hard time. We all make mistakes. How are you feeling today?

TeaRoseTallulah · 18/04/2025 08:33

Booboobagins · 18/04/2025 00:19

Eat loads of tomatoes. Put aloe vera and/or olive oil all over your skin. Drink plenty of fluids - if you have hydrating salts add them to your water. Keep warm - and dock and bay towel may be good if you have one. It keeps off the chill without overheating you.

Call 111. You have 2nd degree burns.

Good luck.

The shop should be reported tbh but you've enough on without doing that right now.

Do NOT put anything over burns especially not oil. The advice on this thread is shocking.

BodenCardiganNot · 18/04/2025 09:34

At this stage I think MN should delete this thread. There is so much ill-informed information.

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2025 09:52

BodenCardiganNot · 18/04/2025 09:34

At this stage I think MN should delete this thread. There is so much ill-informed information.

I agree, anything that promotes sunbed use should be removed.
To be fair there HAS been some decent advice on here as well but too many comments saying how to use them safely, you can't, they are inherently unsafe

SansaStark90 · 18/04/2025 09:57

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2025 09:52

I agree, anything that promotes sunbed use should be removed.
To be fair there HAS been some decent advice on here as well but too many comments saying how to use them safely, you can't, they are inherently unsafe

I will delete. That wasn’t my aim, I wanted reassurance. I would hope this puts anyone off using one though as never mind the long term damage I have done, I thought I was a tough cookie and this has floored me. Maybe the worst experience I’ve had

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XelaM · 18/04/2025 09:58

Please go back to A&E

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2025 09:59

SansaStark90 · 18/04/2025 09:57

I will delete. That wasn’t my aim, I wanted reassurance. I would hope this puts anyone off using one though as never mind the long term damage I have done, I thought I was a tough cookie and this has floored me. Maybe the worst experience I’ve had

Please don't think I was criticising you OP, I wasn't and I know that you wanted advice and hopefully you got it and you are OK

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/04/2025 09:59

SansaStark90 · 18/04/2025 09:57

I will delete. That wasn’t my aim, I wanted reassurance. I would hope this puts anyone off using one though as never mind the long term damage I have done, I thought I was a tough cookie and this has floored me. Maybe the worst experience I’ve had

Did you go back to A&E?

crumblingschools · 18/04/2025 10:02

What treatment have you ended up with. Surely MNHQ just delete the seriously wrong suggestions and the thread can stay up

CheeseAndHamToastieAndCrisps · 18/04/2025 10:04

But have you been back to a&e?

Threads like this drive me to despair, there is always so much misinformation it’s no wonder people treat any number of medical problems incorrectly. Every burn/rash/temperature/chicken pox thread is the same.

SansaStark90 · 18/04/2025 10:06

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2025 09:59

Please don't think I was criticising you OP, I wasn't and I know that you wanted advice and hopefully you got it and you are OK

No I didn’t take it that way that you were. Yes I came back and have been on fluids, pain relief which has really taken the edge off and for the blisters, which has only been on my chest.

I know you weren’t criticising but I will delete as this is a very critical forum I’m realising and I’m not the brightest, but there is bad advice. I would never complain about a receptionist who was listening to what I had done and offered some advice. Im an adult. It’s on me if I listen. And she said she was thinking about going on one and I had firmly put her off.

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KimberleyClark · 18/04/2025 10:07

Glad you’re feeling better OP.

NewAgeNewMe · 18/04/2025 10:11

Good you are being seen. 💐💐

B1anche · 18/04/2025 10:12

Good luck OP, hope you feel better soon. Stop beating yourself up and calling yourself 'stupid' and referring to your burns as 'self-inflicted'. It was a mistake and the salon staff should not have allowed it to happen. I wouldn't have a clue what the right amount of time to spend on a sunbed is either. This wasn't your fault.

Blueskiesandrainbows · 18/04/2025 10:13

I think you’ve had a very useful thread OP so please don’t feel down about it. You could well have saved someone from the same horrible events, so that can only be for the good. Ignore the unkind posters, some people just love to pull others down, they are insignificant.
I do think the sun bed shop should be taking some of responsibility for what happened, but I understand if you don’t want the hassle of pursuing it.
I hope you get better soon.

Gettingacoffee · 18/04/2025 10:15

I would go back to the salon to tell them what happened. They shouldn’t have allowed you go on so long. It might stop the same happening to someone else.

justasking111 · 18/04/2025 10:15

@SansaStark90 your message is important. Mumsnetters are used to daft advice. Anyone can burn in the sun. Especially near/on water or as pp said near the equater which I'd never thought about. The blame is on the sunbed shop employee in this instance.

My son spent six years in the Caribbean twenty years later he had a dodgy mole removed thanks to an observant wife.

Spray tan or pale and interesting from now on.

WinterBones · 18/04/2025 10:15

SansaStark90 · 18/04/2025 10:06

No I didn’t take it that way that you were. Yes I came back and have been on fluids, pain relief which has really taken the edge off and for the blisters, which has only been on my chest.

I know you weren’t criticising but I will delete as this is a very critical forum I’m realising and I’m not the brightest, but there is bad advice. I would never complain about a receptionist who was listening to what I had done and offered some advice. Im an adult. It’s on me if I listen. And she said she was thinking about going on one and I had firmly put her off.

I know you won't report, but just think for a second.

Someone like you who is seriously poorly, in need of help and medical attention turns up to A&E but its stupid busy, there is a queue out the door, the place is full.. and when you report to the receptionist on check-in they casually give you a home remedy that they or a friend used or heard about someone who used it and it worked for them... and because its busy, or like in your case the dr is dismissive, so you go home, think.. oh i'll give that a try.. and they end up worse, doing more damage, have a serious allergic reaction, or potentially killing themselves, get an infection from it and go into sepsis because home remedies have the potential to be VERY dangerous.

You were lucky, the next person she does that to might not be.

A receptionist is there to check the patients in, not to give unsolicited, potentially lethal advice. They absolutely 100% shouldn't be doing it.

LittlerCharlotte · 18/04/2025 10:20

I'm so glad you have updated us OP.. Please don't feel bad, stupid or anything else.. We've been worried about you. I'm glad the blistering wasn't too bad. You WILL recover from this and feel better soon.

Please report the salon.

Jc2001 · 18/04/2025 10:21

SansaStark90 · 16/04/2025 22:47

Why are you so nasty? I have admitted I’ve been stupid. But do you drink alcohol, eat junk food. I’m a human who has made a mistake. Suffering!!

Don't worry about it. Some people with very small lives try to make themselves feel better by acting superior over complete strangers on the internet.

XelaM · 18/04/2025 10:25

Please complain about the Sunbed establishment as they should never have allowed you to go on for 20 minutes! That's so dangerous. I've been on sunbeds as a teenager but I couldn't just pick the length of time - it was all centrally controlled and they did not allow me more than a few minutes at a time.

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