To ask if anyone's ever made fun of your appearance?

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With the current media interest around the poor actress whose teeth have been mocked in a SNL skit, it got me thinking about my own situation.

I have had braces a couple of times now and have straight and healthy teeth. However when I was younger I had a very large gap in my front teeth, and very crowded bottom teeth.
I got a couple of negative comments, I remember when we were 17 a friend told me that 'I'd be so pretty if only I fixed my teeth!'.

Fortunately they didn't put most men off and one even said they liked my gap, for the record I think gaps are great, but mine was enormous and also my teeth tilted inwards.

I used to have a large bump in my nose, and an ex told me he liked my 'big nose'. I'd never said that, he just took it upon himself. I got another couple of comments about my nose.

Have since had the bump straightened and nobody ever comments on it.

Had another ex tell me I had flabby arms, even though I was a size 6-8 and exercised which was upsetting.

I never get any negative comments on my looks anymore. Now that I'm older with more self confidence, if anyone dared to, they'd regret it.
However I've just been thinking about how cruel people can be, and the fact is they're usually unhappy in themselves. Has anyone else had their appearance mocked?

I had acne as a teenager and one particular boy at school was obsessed with it, kept telling me to buy clearasil and asking what I ate and if I ate loads of chocolate and things, he made it very clear he was disgusted/fascinated with my skin. I told him matter of factly that I'd tried products which hadn't worked and he decided I was "probably doing too much then" It makes me so annoyed thinking about it now. Should have just told him to f off.

Yes, when I was in my teens, always by men. For being 'too tall'. For having curly hair. For wearing Doc Martens. I mean, one of those was a choice, the other two, not so much. I'm 50 now and look back with amusement at the pathetic comments from insecure men, but at the time, it stung.

I had thick hairy eyebrows that met in the middle and in the 70s when i was at primary school i was teased about them. If only they had been in fashion then ! anyway in the 80s i had regular waxing but kept them strong and now people are envious of my eyebrows as they are a good shape with little maintenance.

Yup. For wearing glasses, having crooked teeth, having a broken tooth removed which left a gap at the front, having acne, being petite, being too skinny and ironically a few years later for being overweight.

I really couldn't care less anymore, but it was awful up until my mid 20s. I very nearly went for leg lengthening surgery until my friends and family managed to talk me out of it, which I'm extremely grateful for.

Mean people will always find something to be mean about.

I can recall being told that I'd be so pretty if I lost weight, by someone at school who actually thought she was being nice. I remember it, but I can't say I was upset by it - I knew I needed to lose some weight.
Nowadays my grown up sons call me 'short arse' when I can't reach something ( quite often, I appear to be shrinking) but again, I can't say it bothers me. I do remind them not make personal comments, and they wouldn't to anyone else, but they are quite insulting to each other and seem to find it funny. I do occasionally remind them that's what bullies say, but they have an understanding with each other.

Not to sound egotistical but yes and I always found it funny.

I'm not supermodel but I'm pretty decent looking, tangoed chavs that looked like Donald Trump had had a sex change use to mock me but I honestly I just couldn't take their opinions serious. I would never in a million years want to look like them so them not approving didn't matter.

The would call me pale (goff, vampire, corpse, Casper the ghost etc...), flat chested, skinny bitch etc... just didn't really matter. I loved being pale and I'm pretty sure the skinny comment came from jealousy and I loved my tiny titties too (wish I still had them but 3 kids later they are not so tiny and bras and backache are awful).

Never made me want a tan or boob job etc...

I think people are susceptible to their own worries, I use to dress to cover my scars from an accident as a child. No one even noticed them, it was one of the things I wasn't bullied for but I remained hyper conscious of it. My DH says people can't even see them unless pointed out but I 'look for them' because I know they are there. If bullies had picked up on that I probably would have been far more upset rather than then picking on stuff I was completely happy and comfortable with.

Up until I became invisible (approx aged 42) I had comments about my breasts. When I was younger (from around 15 to 30) it was daily, from people I knew as well as strangers.

Now I know and always have known that I have large breasts. I didn't get implants, I had no control over their size. The comments were awful, the stares too.

Mostly men, occasionally other girls or women, would comment on them as though my chest showed me as a slut, tart, desperate for a bit of it, stupid, asking for it (because I must have made my breasts bigger intentionally), and variations on that theme.

I hated the fact that people, mostly men, felt like they could comment on me and grab me when they wanted. Just because of how I looked.

It made me incredibly self conscious, affected how I felt about myself, what I wore, when and where I exercised. All over something I couldn't help bit other people absolutely could have helped by not being so aggressively rude and judgemental about me.

The comments on Amy Lou wood is brutal.

for some reason it seems to be almost exclusively from Americans.

the whole “British teeth” thing
that somehow she couldn’t afford dental care which makes her poor/trailer trash equivalent.
that now she’s a successful actress she should be paying to have them fixed.

i’ve also seen detailed “treatment plans” - on what they’d and how they’d “fix” her teeth and whole jaw.

basically using her to sell their business. She should be billing them.

I’ve yet to see a British dentist posting similar.

Yes, worst culprit was/is my own mother. She loves to list out all my physical imperfections triumphantly. I dont know why because she's said it all so many times so I'm well aware that she thinks my nose is too big, hair "a mess", awful skin, small boobs short legs etc. It hardly needs repeating.

I'm actually fairly good looking, just not beautiful and i have a few imperfections like the vast majority of people. I didn't choose them!

I had a couple of boyfriends in the past who seemed almost angry about my big nose, saying things like "you would be really good looking if it wasn't for your nose". I'm not sure what they expected me to do - in my teens I hardly had the funds for plastic surgery even if I'd wanted it. I suppose it's that thing of some men thinking you "owe them pretty".

At a lesser scale there have been numerous people who like to casually point out that I have a spot, or have put on a few pounds or look tired. Just why???

I was called fat when I was at secondary school and I have had lots of operations on my leg and I limped a bit so obviously that got mentioned. I did try not to let it bother me but it was hard. The worst perpetrators have done nothing with their lives, they were pathetic then and are still pathetic now.

I’m 4 foot 11 and people mention it like I’ve never realised. My old manager was terrible for it, every time I saw her (worked in a different office) she laughed every single time over her “joke”

I get that at times and I'm 5 foot frigging 3. Sometimes people are just looking for something to say

Yes
But I have developed a can do attitude

Some people assume some things about me, which are not true

Not so much appearance but I was mocked for walking funny when I was newly diagnosed with arthritis in my early 20s. Bizarrely by two female colleagues in the lunch room of a big law firm. I wish I could remember their names as 20 years on I think I could have some fun getting them back. It really upset me and knocked my confidence massively as I was already aware of my limp.

I’ve got melasma/ sun marks on my face. I don’t love them but it doesn’t bother me too much. Once I was walking through a shopping centre and a woman on a skincare stand called out to me “come and look at my cream, it will get those ugly marks off your face!” I was just astounded she thought this was a good selling technique 😁

One or two comments over the years about a facial feature. My sibling had surgery to correct the same issue but soon starting thinking her face looked weird after and wanted lip fillers etc. After that I learned to embrace my quirkiness and lots of people have said I wouldn’t be me without it.
Dont get me wrong, I have my days but I’m much more accepting of myself now and realise confidence is an inside job

Also as a kid I got nasty remarks about having freckles and a strong jawline both of which are fashionable now. Ive even asked where I have my jaw filler! I’ve always liked both but kids can be mean. Another one was boys co old be mean about my small boobs but again I loved having smaller boobs (still do!) so wasn’t arsed
My parent would often tell my sister she was beautiful and had her features etc because they look more alike. She obviously didn’t approve of my looks and I always got hand down clothes and was really badly turned out. I grew up with a lot of baggage but I’m now an adult and really glad to be me

I have a lot of scars on my face from reconstruction. I’ve had a lot of strangers make quite horrible passing comments.

Yes. I was bullied all the way through my childhood because of my overbite (from sucking my fingers whilst sleeping as a child). My teeth are exactly like Aimee Lou’s and my life was utter hell because of it. People would call me Bugs (Bunny), Bucky, Buck etc
It was always the first thing people picked on. Even now I’m too self conscious to smile open mouthed. They are too far to be fixed with braces, I had retainers and train tracks as a teen but would need my jaw broken to make them completely straight and I just thought that was so extreme just for straight teeth so never had it done.
I even fell out with a went NC with my three oldest friends after they also started using my teeth as an insult whilst ‘joking’ with me even though they knew how it affected me. Bitches.
The ironic thing is, apart from my teeth, I’m alright looking. Size 10, nice figure, big lips and long legs and have never been short of male attention so now I’m an adult, looking back it was probably fuelled by jealousy 🤷🏼‍♀️ still leaves its mark mentally though

I've had loads. Piggy eyes, witch nose, big ears, ugly/goofy teeth, fat. I've had my teeth fixed but I'm still extremely ugly.

My boobs were always being commented on because im big chested. Even the best man at my brothers wedding made a comment about the bridesmaids in wonderbras in his speech. I was 16!! I was size 8 with GG cup size. I was humiliated.

Quite a bit when I was younger. I was in an accident as a toddler which caused facial scarring.

You can't see it very well these days so I haven't had it my whole adult life. But I will never forget how people used to treat me.

I’ve been fat since primary school. From year 5 through to GCSE I was The Fat Controller, Fat Pig …… you get the gist.

from about age 14 through to now I have had random drunk people on a night out calling me a fat bitch, men shouting out of car/van windows as I walked down the street at any time of the day or night, when I made the mistake of trying to get fitter by jogging in the park that was apparently an invitation for men to heckle the Fat Cow who jiggled when she ran…..

I could give hundreds of examples, life has taught me that people are horrible.

Ive lost 4 stone in the last 6 months, besides wearing a smaller size of clothes I am exactly the same person as I always have been, but people are so much nicer to me. People are horrible.

Yes I had really big hair at school in the days before straighteners and people used to comment quite unfortunately. It’s trendy now but sadly this came too late for me!

Then I developed quite early and have spent most of my life as a size 6 with eye catching FF breasts so have had endless comments from men and women. The only really hurtful comment I can remember since becoming an adult was a man telling me I’d be a 10 if it wasn’t for my teeth. They admittedly aren’t perfect turkey style pearlies but they’re ok. Looking back with the wisdom of an older woman, I think he fancied his chances and was trying to neg me but it felt quite cruel at the time.

I have really big boobs which have been a constant source of merriment to others since I was a teenager (30 plus years ago).