To ask if anyone's ever made fun of your appearance?

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With the current media interest around the poor actress whose teeth have been mocked in a SNL skit, it got me thinking about my own situation.

I have had braces a couple of times now and have straight and healthy teeth. However when I was younger I had a very large gap in my front teeth, and very crowded bottom teeth.
I got a couple of negative comments, I remember when we were 17 a friend told me that 'I'd be so pretty if only I fixed my teeth!'.

Fortunately they didn't put most men off and one even said they liked my gap, for the record I think gaps are great, but mine was enormous and also my teeth tilted inwards.

I used to have a large bump in my nose, and an ex told me he liked my 'big nose'. I'd never said that, he just took it upon himself. I got another couple of comments about my nose.

Have since had the bump straightened and nobody ever comments on it.

Had another ex tell me I had flabby arms, even though I was a size 6-8 and exercised which was upsetting.

I never get any negative comments on my looks anymore. Now that I'm older with more self confidence, if anyone dared to, they'd regret it.
However I've just been thinking about how cruel people can be, and the fact is they're usually unhappy in themselves. Has anyone else had their appearance mocked?

Yes, when I was growing up I had SO many comments about my eyebrows. They were thick and dark (they still are) but from the ages of about 9 - 16 I was bullied relentlessly.

I remember going from primary school to high school thinking with a larger school maybe the bullying will be left behind, only for on my first day after the long holidays, a boy who'd also come to the same high school from my primary school said "I see you haven't sorted your eyebrows out yet Ellie!" much to everyone's amusement. I cried and cried and cried.

I'm 29 now and my eyebrows are my pride and joy, and have been for a fair few years now. I wish I could go back and give little me a hug and tell her to own her eyebrows cause they'd come back in fashion when you leave highschool!

I remember a colleague turning to another and saying “Misorchid” looks feminine but has arms like a man”.
We never forget these comments do we? Well I don’t.

I'm losing weight, and if I go out jogging there's this woman I see occasionally who invariably says something along the lines of 'at least you're getting out of the house' whilst looking me up and down.

I have a very round face and some kids in my class at primary school went through a phase of calling me Moonface. 🙄

Various ignorant weight-related comments in my younger days when I was heavier than I am now.

An ex used to have this dandy little habit of squeezing my spare tyre (which is always there to some extent regardless of my overall size), sometimes in public, and sometimes during sex. Which usually put a fairly swift stop to the sex, you'd think he'd have learned really... 🙄

Oh, and another ex once grabbed my bingo wings in bed and flapped them, it was almost curtains for us right there and then. My bingo wings are awful due to years of yo-yo dieting, and it's a very sensitive topic for me.

(I would just like to point out that I have raised my bar as far as men are concerned, DH has never mocked my weight or body, nor would I tolerate it now. )

Yes. My face is covered in freckles, I’ve had lots and lots of comments throughout my life. Picked on in primary school, bullied at secondary school.
When I hit my 20’s, the comments turned more complimentary, from women as well as men, and it amazed me that people (men) found them sexy and a turn on, as comments throughout my childhood had been so horrible.
I’m turning 50 this year, and they’ve nearly faded away, and to my surprise I miss them, and after hating them for many years I look at old photos now & realise they were beautiful & unique.

I was bullied about my appearance at school. Told I was ugly, no one would ever want me etc. They even said my dad died of a heart attack because he looked at me and realised what he'd inflicted on the world. It was horrible and vicious and set me up for years of self esteem issues and being used by people who could see I was desperate to be accepted. Even now although I know the bullies were just being horrible (and one of them has since admitted this) I am very critical of my appearance and struggle to make friends as I am basically used to people either not liking me or using me. I don't let people in really as a self defence mechanism.

Yep, for being ‘SO pale’ happens every single year without fail in summer time or anytime I dare show a bit of skin. I was called Casper at school for years.

Yes. Used to get called Concorde at school due to my nose.

Yes, loads. When I was 18 I was in a club. There was a guy on stage because there was some sort of event. He said that they had Chewbacka in the audience and pointed to me. I’m 6’ tall. Almost 30 years later I still feel mortified.

I’ve had loads of other comments. I’m paranoid about looking masculine because of my height.

My ex used to comment on my weight and tell me when I’d put it on. He refused to ever pay me a compliment (even when I was slim).

Yes, wearing glasses, the colour of my hair, I also had a gap between my teeth, my nose...loads of comments from social inadequates over the years.

I remember in secondary school wearing the lovely PE knickers we all had to wear for gym based PE sessions and the lads teasing me and saying I had a 'fat juicy fanny'

All these years later it has stuck with me and made me feel so self conscious of it for years.

Yes definitely, lots of people have made fun of my freckles throughout my childhood, and teens, right up to my twenties. Same with my blushing/red face. To the point they were just pointing and laughing and taking pictures of me without my consent because they foudn it funny. Put me off from doing any exercise.

Yep I had terrible acne for a time in adolescence and remember one time when two boys on bikes shouted ‘look, pizza face’ at me. I was mortified and cried for ages after that .

It started at 5 and continued until I was about 15 and went full grunge. Largely the same kids (mainly boys) who were in my primary then on the same bus to high school.
My hair wouldn't grow, so I was teased for looking like a boy.
Then it was my glasses.
Then my height.
Then my pale skin.
Then my general ugliness.

It makes me so angry when I look back at pictures of myself as a little kid. I don't look any better or worse than any of the others!

Took me a long time to get over being tall and I still feel ugly in glasses today.

See username and take a guess. I've also been called "zip face, " Frankenstein's monster" and a whole lot of other things besides.

Wore glasses? I was a nerd
grew big boobs? I was a slut

people are assholes

The boys (and the cliquey girls) used to call me “bush-pig” at secondary school. I’m no oil painting tbf!

Boyfriend’s scrawny bitch-ass mother used to constantly make digs about my weight when I was 17, ooh it’s lucky you like something to hold onto son, etc. I was a size 10!

I’ve become pretty feral since perimenopause, and would snap and snarl much more these days.

Yes, loads of times. All when I was younger though.

When I was a teenager until my early twenties I was very skinny. I frequently had people comment on how skinny I was. I once had a mother and daughter sat behind me on the bus, discussing my weight and wondering if I had an eating disorder. I didn't, I was just naturally very slim.

I used to have a friend years ago, who on many occasions told me that I was very pretty but I have a strange nose because it's narrow but bulbous on the end. Same friend also used to tell me I had boggly eyes.

I don't tend to wear my hair up in public because my ears stick out. They're normal size, but do stick out prominently. The last time I wore my hair up in public was around 2005 and I had to blokes in van shout something about the FA cup at me. They thought it was hilarious.

I also had two lads make fun out of my ironing board chest in the queue for a nightclub.

I had horrendous cystic acne caused by pregnancy hormones, which got worse post-partum. Took a year of oral antibiotics to get rid of it. I wouldn't say people "made fun of" me but there I did get a lot of staring and unpleasant comments including
"You should wash your face more".
"I thought pregnancy was meant to be good for your skin".
"It's such a shame, you'd be so pretty if you sorted your skin out".
I also noticed a massive difference in the way strangers treated me, compared to before I had the acne and after it cleared. People are friendlier and more likely to chat, smile, hold doors open etc, and you get better customer service in shops and restaurants when you're generally considered nice to look at.

Gosh I just remembered another time in high school - I have thick dark hair, which also means darker body hair. We were in Biology, and the teacher was discussing why your hair stands on end. He said "boys, and those hairier women amongst us - Ellie! - if you look at your arms" etc. I was mortified! I have shaved, waxed, epilated and lasered my arms since and that was 16 years ago!

I'm pretty sure everyone has had negative comments on their appearance at some point in their lives - particularly when we were kids / teenagers, when peers can be incredibly cruel (or just tactless).

A horrible, negging boyfriend I had when was 18 - 20 told me, the first time I ever met him, that I had 'very hairy arms, for a girl, like a werewolf'. It made me properly paranoid and I actually shaved my arms for about 10 years after that. When I stopped shaving them, the hair grew back and I realised that I do not, in fact, have very hairy arms at all.

I was bullied for being fugly and fat!

All through my teenage years and twenties used to get told I was skinny all the time- ooh you’re all skin and bones, have you got an eating disorder? Do you actually eat anything?
yes I was on the lower side of the bmi but always considered a healthy weight.
And I ate loads, just “lucky” now in my forties I’m not so lucky and am finding it very difficult to stop eating so much😂

Not a negative, but I was told that I was too nice looking for people to take me seriously in my career. 🙃 kind of key that people do take me seriously in the role that I do. That’s actually bothered me more than any insult I’ve received 😂

I am only 4ft 11 3/4 so yes my entire life I have been mocked for being so short.