Partner’s revealing phone call with best friend

[AnimalLover25]

I went on a couples evening out last night for some drinks (nothing wild, it started and ended early!)

My partners best friend (who we went with) called him earlier. I was pottering around doing chores and I don’t think my partner realised I was in earshot. Anyway, he asked his friend what they did when they got back as they were on about getting a takeaway. He must have asked my partner the same question as I heard him say ‘gave the missus a good seeing to then went to bed’

We were intimate, and he’s told his friend. I don’t want to say anything incase he thinks I was knowingly listening in, but at the same time I want to tell him I’d rather he didn’t speak to his friend about me like that.

Would you bring this up?

I mean personally it wouldn’t bother me if my partner said it. But it does you, so tell him you overheard and would rather he didn’t say that.

I’d say I’d overheard and was unimpressed. Totally inappropriate to talk about you like that. I’d want an apology and an acknowledgment it shouldn’t have been said and it won’t happen again.

This wouldn't bother me, unless it was part of a wider pattern of similar behaviour that I was concerned about.

I probably would have loudly shouted “he couldn’t even get it up!”. He’d never be able to speak about your sex life again without being teased by his friends.

In all seriousness, yes talk to him.

says a lot about the calibre of the man and his respect for you. I wouldn’t be with this type of man. How old and how long together?

I wouldn't, but next time the nest friend is around I'd drop something embarrassing in like "nice to see you, now off you go, I want to go up and give my husband a good seeing to - its his turn tonight"

Followed by

• Well you say things to him like that, why can't I?

Why are you worrying he’ll know you listened? You feel disrespected. Don’t bottle it up

I mean it’s a bit crude, but this is his best friend, who presumably knows you have sex. I don’t think I’d be that bothered personally. But absolutely, if you find it embarrassing you should say you don’t appreciate him discussing your sex life with his mates.

We are both in our late 30’s and have been together over a year now.

I couldn’t get worked up about this op to be honest.

I wouldn't keep quiet if I heard DH say something I didn't like. I'd laugh if my DH said what yours said. Maybe your DH doesn't realise that you would be offended by this so it's definitely worth letting him know what you heard and how it made you feel, that way he has the opportunity to change.

This. Or to quote our late queen, Recollections may vary 😂

I wouldn't like this, as I'm quite a private person. And my husband knows this, and he knows me well enough to understand that I'd be upset. I also wouldn't talk to other people about our sex life.

But I find it strange that you overheard him talk about you and can't even tell him. You can't help what you overhear!

I'd be telling him I overheard and I wasn't happy that he was sharing details about our sex life. If he apologised and said he didn't realise how I felt about it I'd be absolutely fine. But if he doubled down and passed it off as 'banter ans minimised my feelings I'd be reconsidering everything to be honest

I would have laughed and shouted "It wasn't a good seeing to, it was average at best!" so his friend could hear 😂

Shouldnt be eaves dropping.
Would you want everything you said to you friend in confidence to be listened to?

Aside from that comment is his behaviour towards you generally ok or are there other issues

meh. Wouldn’t bother me atall tbh

I wouldn’t like it (the tone). I think it’s totally fine to say you overheard and let him know you’re not ok with being spoken about like that. I don’t think you can prohibit him from mentioning to friends that you had sex though. (Just my opinion – I think it’s normal to talk about your sex life with friends as long as it’s in a respectful way).

Well I can only imagine what other details of your sex life that your partner shares with his pal. I think you'll find his pal know as much about you and what goes on in your bedroom as your partner does.

Disgusting.

You can imagine all you like, but this is all pure speculation.

What OP heard wasn't imagination
A man who talks about " giving his missus a seeing to" is hardly going to hold back on other details if he has so little respect for her.

Or, that may well be the full extent of his descriptions. It’s impossible to tell from the information provided.

I mean, you married a man who refers to you as "the missus" so of course he's going to say stuff like that. 🤷‍♀️

Ew.

That’s just so ewwww!

Why is he like this? Why the need to speak like this? Why the need to divulge like this?

I would be really disappointed in my partner.

Just read that you're not married and have only been together about a year.

Perhaps someone a bit more refined might suit you better?