Partner’s revealing phone call with best friend

[AnimalLover25]

I went on a couples evening out last night for some drinks (nothing wild, it started and ended early!)

My partners best friend (who we went with) called him earlier. I was pottering around doing chores and I don’t think my partner realised I was in earshot. Anyway, he asked his friend what they did when they got back as they were on about getting a takeaway. He must have asked my partner the same question as I heard him say ‘gave the missus a good seeing to then went to bed’

We were intimate, and he’s told his friend. I don’t want to say anything incase he thinks I was knowingly listening in, but at the same time I want to tell him I’d rather he didn’t speak to his friend about me like that.

Would you bring this up?

I thought you were going to say you were super young. Late 30s and talking like this? Gross.

I very much doubt, if this is his best pal he has known for years, he all of a sudden, out of the blue, comes out with " I gave the missus a good seeing too"!

Why would he?

And he must have been pretty sure his pal wouldn't be shocked by him talking about his partner in such an offensive way or he wouldn't have casually dropped this nugget of extraneous information into the conversation.

Wouldn't overly bother me. As other posters have said, I probably would have said something there and then to take the wind out of his sails.

That would annoy me more tbh. Especially since you're not even married. But I hate 'missus' and 'her indoors', etc.

I hate his language , gave the missus a good seeing to , what a jerk when you talk about being intimate . You sound like chalk and cheese .

I guess it depends if you share private details about your sex life to your friends. I certainly know several women who do.

Lots of posts recently where women find out their partners have told their friends about their sex lives.

i know precisely zero men who would phone their male friend a day after meeting up and tell them how the rest of the evening was.

I would feel disgusted and humiliated, OP. Surprised others on here are so blasé about it!

I don't think I would even bat an eyelid if my DH said this. It's not something that would bother me in the slightest. But if you have an issue raise it with him

It's a bit grim. Firstly for sharing the info, and secondly the phrasing. The missus? Grim. A good seeing to? Grim.

It was banter..
I am sure his mates know you have sex.
Unless he was saying it was crap sex just leave it be...

It would bother me to be honest. The mate will be imagining yous on the job thanks to him saying that! He might’ve been trying to show off to be cool or something though. Pull him up.

This sums up perfectly how I would feel
about this also

You best not watch the inbetweeners. Although maybe by 30 odd he should have learned a bit of discretion. I'm actually more taken by how many posters react to "missis". I use it all the time, see it as a part of my Yorkshire-ness, and certainly don't have a disrepectful intent behind it. Perhaps i should knock in on the head.

His friend probably replied with a jokey comment taking the piss out of him.

I wouldn't be bothered by this as he's not actually revealing something personal e.g. favourite position or something particular that you enjoy. But if it bothers you just tell him.

Jay from the Inbetweeners has got married.

He sounds like a sitcom character. What the fuck?

Telling his friend we’d had sex wouldn’t really bother me as long as there was no details.

I wouldn’t be with someone who would use that language though, even as a joke. I’m going to sound like a snob now but it’s just rough and too laddy for me. Not my thing at all.

Oh - of course. You know no men that would do this.

Therefore no men would do this.

I’m an older generation but find this revolting in its casual misogyny. I wouldn’t like being referred to as a thing that a man uses. And the expression ‘a good seeing too’ - which he finds comedic presumably - I find aggressive and demeaning and kind of ‘porny’ as it is all about the man doing something to the object. It gives the women no agency.

If women were not routinely demeaned and abused, I might have more of a sense of humour about it.

I would be unimpressed, but I also wouldn’t date the kind of man who referred to partners as ‘the missus’ or sex ‘a good seeing to’. The cheeky lad banter men are really not my type.

I probably wouldn’t mind if my partner jokingly referenced having a shag, just not in those terms and not if he just dropped it into conversation for no reason like that.

I know my partner and I have both joked to friends about being on-call for our respective jobs (press officers for emergency services, at the time) and being interrupted mid-shag by phone calls from journalists, having to stop to have a phone conversation with someone from BBC regional news while naked and in a state of high arousal.

Exactly this. Grim.

Yes, is he 14?

There is a difference between overhearing because he didn't bother to check if anyone's in earshot and deliberately eavesdropping

Is your partner Sid James?