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Partner’s revealing phone call with best friend

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AnimalLover25 · 12/04/2025 18:53

I went on a couples evening out last night for some drinks (nothing wild, it started and ended early!)

My partners best friend (who we went with) called him earlier. I was pottering around doing chores and I don’t think my partner realised I was in earshot. Anyway, he asked his friend what they did when they got back as they were on about getting a takeaway. He must have asked my partner the same question as I heard him say ‘gave the missus a good seeing to then went to bed’

We were intimate, and he’s told his friend. I don’t want to say anything incase he thinks I was knowingly listening in, but at the same time I want to tell him I’d rather he didn’t speak to his friend about me like that.

Would you bring this up?

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FartfulCodger · 13/04/2025 13:56

JHound · 13/04/2025 12:53

Oh - of course. You know no men that would do this.

Therefore no men would do this.

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I’m glad you agree.

JHound · 13/04/2025 17:58

ItGhoul · 13/04/2025 13:41

I would be unimpressed, but I also wouldn’t date the kind of man who referred to partners as ‘the missus’ or sex ‘a good seeing to’. The cheeky lad banter men are really not my type.

I probably wouldn’t mind if my partner jokingly referenced having a shag, just not in those terms and not if he just dropped it into conversation for no reason like that.

I know my partner and I have both joked to friends about being on-call for our respective jobs (press officers for emergency services, at the time) and being interrupted mid-shag by phone calls from journalists, having to stop to have a phone conversation with someone from BBC regional news while naked and in a state of high arousal.

Same. It’s not so much the reference to sex but the way he talks about it.

Sounds like he would be a sexist “laddish banter” type.

In the bins

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 18:18

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 12/04/2025 20:58

That would annoy me more tbh. Especially since you're not even married. But I hate 'missus' and 'her indoors', etc.

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Me too. So common.

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