To be annoyed my husband told his work colleagues about my operation

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Basically I had to go in and have an op. I get he had to tell his manager why but then proceeded to set up a group chat and tell others about me. He's also told everyone the worst case scenario. I only know cos a cake came from them which I thought was weird. Even then he's says it's probably an Easter gift (they've never done that before in fact I've hardly met them) I then said has his manager told them as he isn't allowed. In the end my husband showed me the group chat where he told them. He said he had to tell them in case they wondered where he was.
The kicker is he hasn't told his family and said he doesn't want to.
I haven't even told some of my family but these randoms know. He also said when we found out about my op that he wouldn't tell work cos gossip goes through like wild fire. His boss is already trying to find out where it was. When I called in sick for my work I made a point of saying they aren't allowed to tell my colleagues. He thinks I'm being ridiculous as he wouldn't care if it was him

It would annoy me and sounds like attention seeking on his part. He’s making this all about his upset and worry rather than about you.

Totally inappropriate and attention seeking on your DH's part. It's your private medical information and now these total strangers have access, could also be sharing with their family and someone might know someone who will be working where you're having the op.
Sometimes schools ask for unnecessary details for a child's sickness and their privacy rights is put on a back burner. Lots of over sharing and no benefits to the actual person.

It sounds like attention seeking behaviour

He’s been dumb and inconsiderate, you are right to feel upset/annoyed.

I had recent surgery and my OHs work sent me flowers and a card- I thought that was very sweet.
OH didn't tell his family- just didn't come up in conversation.

I’d be fuming and telling people he had an arsehole boil and several ingrown toenails.

if I were in the group I’d probably be wondering why he felt the need to share the inner workings of his wife’s body too; yanbu

it’s your body, you grew it, you get decide to tell people what’s going on with it. Why should strangers know your medical history just so he can have some sympathy.

I think that's definitely crossed the line. He would most definitely feel differently if it was the other way round. Perhaps in a non-condescending way, try to explain why you feel he has acted inappropriately, and how it has made you feel. Even if he doesn't understand, I'd hope that he could empathise...

YANBU as he had no reason or need to tell anyone. He may have needed to say to a manager something to a manager about needing time off but could have stressed the confidential nature.

Hope you’re recovering well.

Maybe he needed to tell someone though? If he was worried .I have been ill and had to have a hystoeroctomy and Chemo .My DH plays football (hes retired) and told some of his friends there ( he was worried and stressed ).They were very supportive and kind.Your guys sound great getting a cake for you

If he has said himself that he didn't set up a group chat for support, as he doesn't get support from these people then why did he? From a bit of drama and attention? Sounds like it given he isn't supporting you physically at home

He TOLD his friends he didn’t make a group chat to talk specifically about your illness.

When he has his next prostate examination, I'll send out a group text. After all, he's fine with sharing medical information.

I think there can be different layers to it.

A friends husband is prone to building up relatively minor health issues into huge drama, which leaves her really stressed and unable to figure out just how concerned she should be (eg he had to have a suspect mole removed but it was a huge drama that he “might have cancer and had to have surgery”). It is helpful to her to be able to bounce it off of friends for a reality check.

Obviously not saying this is a parallel to OP, but I can see how someone can need some outside perspective.

Sounds like he’s worried about you and is looking for support.

I had to have a hysterectomy more than 10 years ago. My husband and I jointly ran our own business with another couple. I asked my husband to not disclose what my hospital stay was for. Then I found out that after the operation he had told them - because he didn’t think it mattered then!!! I was bloody furious.