To ask how some people making looking so normal so good?

[Upsetbetty]

I’m genuinely baffled, yesterday at work one of the women came in and I was blown away as I am most days. It was Friday so she was dressed a bit more casual. She only had on a pair of mom jeans, and a plain crewneck jumper, but it was to put togetherness that I couldn’t get over. Underneath her jumper, she had a long white sleeve top and the neck of the top could JUST be seen popping up from her jumper, she rolled up her jumper sleeves so you could see the white sleeves underneath, she had a pair of Adidas sambas on. It just looked so perfectly put together and thought out yet so simple at the same time. If I tried to emulate that I would look scruffy!! Just how does she do it? Anyone have any insight? I asked her and she told me where she got said items but I supppse it’s the fit that worked so well.

I used to work with someone like this, always well groomed, well dressed, made it look effortless. The truth was she spent lots of time on Pinterest following style advice, beauty advice etc. Her twins sons had to share a bedroom, despite not wanting to, as the spare room was her wardrobe etc. It takes time and serious attention to detail to make it look effortless, it's not. That carefully messy up do, the bare faced light makeup look achievable only by serious dedication to skin care etc. we are all capable of it if we want to dedicate time to it.

Yeah this woman doesn’t have social media at all. She may have Pinterest but I’ve never heard her talk about it. I dunno, she just looks great.

Is she pretty aswell

I think it's a pretty simple formula tbh.

Firstly and most importantly you have to be slim. You said she's a size 10, that's slim.
(I never look chic or stylish as I'm far too overweight.)

Secondly if someone is naturally attractive that obviously helps.

Thirdly being well groomed; clean well cut hair, tidy (but not overly "done") eyebrows, light and natural make up, clean and tidy nails (not bitten, not fake) with no polish or neutral polish - not chipped.

Lastly, simple clothes that fit properly.

I think is something you are born with, a good eye for detail, and you also have to invest time on it.

100% agree. Ironing clothes changes an outfit.

I think it’s money too, not necessarily for clothes but if you can pay someone else to clean your house and for afterschool club, and for manicures and regular hair cuts then you can keep yourself looking tidier because you’re not running around from place to place.

Well she’s a divorced single parent so that doesn’t apply to her. 50:50 custody though, so she has some time i suppose

Yes she is

That helps a lot

I'd love somebody to design clothes for a 5 foot, size 14 ish 70 year old. All boobs and bum.

As if.

Yep, have to agree. Be slim. That solves 75% of your problems instantly. When I was 3 stones heavier and wore a simple t-shirt, jeans and a nice belt I just looked frumpy. Now as a slender size 10 when I wear a simple t-shirt, jeans and a nice belt it looks chic.

Other than that it's having the spare cash (and free time) to pamper yourself. Now I'm an affluent Empty Nester I am much polished with regular pedicures, waxing, manicures, facials. Back when our DDs were much younger I was more unkempt, tired and time poor.

I love clothes but having bought a lot for the events I don't attend, I made a conscious decision to buy clothes for my real life, now. So I wear jeans and a sweater, pretty much every day. To walk the dog and buy groceries. I wear shorts in summer, and a skirt occasionally. So I spend my clothes budget on the nicest best-fitting jeans. I buy about one pair annually, and expect to get 8 years wear out of each pair, so I don't buy anything radically fashionable. And I buy a jersey each year for the fashionable shape. And while I know this will have many people spitting tacks, I just brought home this year's cashmere sweater, which I bought half price in the sale and paid for over two months, but it still cost most of my month's spending money.

If you're a size 8-10 your bra band size cannot possibly be 34. You're more likely to be a 28 or 30. Use the boob or bust method to measure yourself: https://www.booborbust.com/
Or get measured at Bravissimo.

Honestly, a properly fitted bra will make you look so much better, it's actually slimming, and will transform the look of your tops and dresses.

The only time I’ve ever felt and looked put together is when I was on holiday in hot countries. I always put much more effort into my clothes, I’d accessorise with nice jewellery and my hair had lots of body due to seawater and sun. Once back home I’d be back to my more un-put together look.

I’m just short all over and petite are sometimes still too long 🙈 it was a game changer for me finding a local lady that alter everything for me at a good price. 😆

I’m just short all over 😂 it’s be a game changer for me finding a local lady that alters everything for me a very reasonable price.

Your mum sounds fabulous! My 80 year old neighbour somehow always manages to look much more put together than I do.

For my Aunt's 80th birthday she rocked a full black tulle skirt, worn with a fitted leather jacket and boots. She looked amazing. Probably helps that she was a model in the 1960s and is still 5ft 9 and slender.

Self awareness, finally finding your style and having the same set of outfits that you rotate between and as others have said being confident to pull off what you are wearing.

Slim doesn't always do it though - one of the worst dressed women I ever knew was slim.

A tan always look nice.
No tattoos looks better too

I think I am one of these people - I often get complimented on my outfits or people tell me I look nice. However I probably put a lot more effort into it than you would think, or even than I would like! I go into work about once a week, and plan my outfit a day or two in advance. I get quite anxious about it, and worry if it’s going to be ok (I have ASD and I think it’s one of my obsessions). I try to look current, but also only wear stuff that will suit me rather than trying the latest trend. It helps that I am tall, 5’9”, and relatively slim, a size 12 with a balanced figure. I’ve purged my wardrobe of cheap stuff, my basics are now Whistles, Cos, Massimo Dutti, & Other Stories and similar - this doesn’t have to be expensive, I get most of my stuff from charity shops and Vinted. I also like semi-designer like Claudie Pierlot, Sandro, Ganni, etc, which I think helps you stand out from the crowd. A good bag and pair of shoes does wonders, and classy, simple jewellery. I’ve been lucky in the charity shops and own several Max Mara coats - a great coat really pulls your outfit together. But all this takes effort - I’m in charity shops several times a week and haunt Vinted.

The bane of my life is my hair though! I have utterly crap hair, thin and fine, I’d love a glossy mane, and it can make you look great even when other things are lacking. Perhaps I’m compensating for my hair! It’s usually pulled back in a pony tail as it will look awful approximately ten minutes after blow drying. But I suppose you can’t have everything, and I’m very grateful for what I do have.

Have you heard about Kibbie types? They helped me understand why I look frumpy in flowy, romantic dresses but any turtleneck or boyfriend shirt is perfect.

Exactly this. It's about styling Vs wearing.
I've always been 'well turned out' (apparently!) but, my goodness, I've learned SO much more since Instagram came along.
I now apply pretty much all the aforementioned 'tips' where appropriate and I definitely look even more put together. As they say, the devil is in the detail...