fake confession...... am at a lost how to advice dd

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Personally I always just kept to myself in high school so I have little clue how to advice dd moving forward. So dd (16) has been friendly with a girl in her grade via social media since last year and the girl had always been nice to her, like encouraging her and helping her. The girl is very popular and while my dd has friends, she's not like "in the clique". Because of being friendly with the girl, dd had started to interact with her friends too, and one of them seems to be particularly manipulative.

The manipulative friend texted my dd saying how the girl likes dd romantically and dd was skeptical at first but the friend gave all these details about how the girl is scared dd won't want to kiss her, etc. Dd kind of bought into it and texted the girl about it, and she brushed it off. The friend then said the girl was just nervous. Dd probed the girl one more time and the girl faked a confession, and dd thought it was real because she really trusted the girl. The girl kept probing her and dd got the impression from their group that "dating" within their group means being besties for a while so she eventually said yes for the girl to shut it down.

The friend, however, still continued and their group would call out the girl's name when dd walked past them at lunch. Dd decided to probe with the friend one last time in case she hurt the girl and got a dismissive response saying that she doesn't remember. dd then unadded her and the friend messaged her on another platform saying things like "why did you unadd me I'm in tears". Dd ignored her. She has not heard from the girl since the fake confession.

Dd is pretty much done with the friend but she is conflicted about the girl and also their group. The group sometimes interact with dd and dd has a lot of fun as she is very playful and energetic.

What would you advise her? Thank you

It’s a quote from the movie and anyone questioning could be told as such. It’s a very, very famous movie that people quote all over the internet to this day. In the movie it’s revealed that the very popular girl used to be friends with a more unpopular girl but pushed her away under the guise of “I think she is a lesbian/I think she has a crush on me.” She tries to shame the unpopular girl for this. The unpopular girl reacts in this funny/sarcastic way to mock the popular girl and everyone loves her for being bold. She isn’t a lesbian but she doesn’t care who thinks she is.

It’s widely believed the popular girl may have been the one questioning sexuality and this is why she made a show and pointed fingers and ridicule at the other girl. Perhaps this is true also for your DD’s “friend”

Yes they are bullies! What are you talking about? You don't want her to lose what she has with the girl? Well she already has! The girl is a massive dickhead and a bully. Try to encourage her to find some easy going friends and that being with the popular kids isn't worth it.

No! She is not a keeper. She lied to your daughter.

I searched that up the scene is absolutely hilarious

It's famous for Millennials! Not kids nowadays.

Dd is actually dying to try that

Please just tell your DD to stay away ftom them. Block them. Don't engage. They aren't worth s moment of her time.

Lose what?

People who treat her badly?

She did push the girl a bit and the girl was kind to her like historically, it's just the girl's friend who is the problem here.

Try what? If you mean the sarcastic riposte, do not encourage her to do this. It could, and would backfire spectacularly and she would end up in a worse position and looking very silly. They certainly wouldn't be impressed by her cool. It might have worked in a film but, you know, that was a film.