Guy just doesn’t speak

[Rememberthelittlesthobo]

Would you find it awkward?

A couple of times per week, I go to teach at a house, the child is amazing, dad is nice, but never really speaks to me, aside from to say Hi. He doesn’t engage in the normal social niceties most others do. It doesn’t actually bother me as I don’t love small talk, but will partake in it to be polite.
Is this normal, would you take it personally? I’m wondering if he’s neurodiverse perhaps

Possibly another three years

It probably is weird! I just think he’s either socially awkward/shy or possibly Nd, I see it in the Dd too, but she’s wonderful when she opens up
His ex is very strong, not very nice, quite scary, I sometimes wonder if it beat him down, she scares me. She is gorgeous though and he’s very wealthy, so highly unlikely he’d like me. He seems such a nice guy

No, there’s no way he has seen any interest at all, i’m very professional irl, just divulging it all here!

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He’s not older..we’re the same age. It’s not a recent divorce, he’s not with anyone else.

That's a complication. If it was three months I'd say wait until your last day and then tell him you'd like to meet for coffee.

Yes, exactly

I need this job, he pays very well, I enjoy it, they want to keep me, so I just have to keep it inside and have another three years not being spoken to much lol

He barely talks to you, you have no idea if he has a partner. He’s not married and not living with someone and that’s the most you could possibly know

He isn’t with anyone

How does he seem like a nice guy? You made this thread to say you find him impolite and rude, he has no social skills, and that he ‘mutters‘ a hello to you and you don’t speak beyond that. So how can he be a nice guy?

It’s really strange that you’ve made up this whole tragic tale in your head about his big scary loud angry ex wife beating him down.

None of this makes sense, he doesn't speak to you but you know his relationship arrangements..

You are hired to do a job to tutor his DD, that's all you know if he speaks so little, stay professional for your own businesses sake.

I’ve not made up a whole tragic tale..I know her

I know he’s single as the Dd has mentioned it before

I also believed my dad to be single for years, turned out he did have a special lady in his life, he just never mentioned it.

He doesn’t chat to you so you think he’s neurodiverse ????

Hard eye roll at you thinking he is ‘neurodiverse’ (it’s neurodivergent btw) because he isn’t interested in chatting to you. You are there to do a job, that’s all. Being less chatty does not make a person ND.

Not your business. Leave daddy alone, do your job and go.

But a lot of what you've said is all in your head. You wonder if he's shy, you wonder if he's been beaten down etc. The truth is, you don't know if he's shy or beaten down because you don't know him.

You said that you've worked there twice a week for 3 years already and he's never said much more than hello to you. Never asked about you or anything happening in your life. So he clearly isn't interested in viewing you as anything other than his daughter's tutor.

Parents are often careful not to disclose romantic relationships to their children so as not to create a lot of upheaval in their children's lives. It's only when the relationship is likely turning into a stable, longlasting one that children will be made aware. So the fact the dd thinks he's single doesn't mean he is.

Obviously not just based on that, there are other signs too, I have neurodiversity in my family and I recognise some things.

Thanks for the positive comments, that’s me put in the clear, obviously won’t ever happen