One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Not whilst having a meal she wouldn’t.

Who said the pub was busy? Our local ones arent midweek lunchtime

Many pubs still don't allow it

Not if she is eating a meal (think OP said she was - I lose track after such a long thread)

Maybe so. It’s still incorrect to say that a 17 year old would be underage if they were drinking alcohol in a pub. It’s perfectly legal with a meal.

I was pushed under the pub benches at a few days old in my carry cot. My parents aren’t alcoholic at all but had something booked. Not harmed me in any way, I’m sure new mum and baby will be fine 😊

my friend was so upset that her dd went with her new born to the local pub and it is not a naice pub
i dont think they talk anymore

I was out and about running errands with my DD a few days after she was born. I was too antsy to stay home all day.

she’s now 30 and is doing well, barely been sick possibly cause I exposed her to people and environments early and often

Comprehension fail! I was clearly referring to those who return home and put the drawbridge up for a month or so to be in a bubble with their little family. Al so those who never let their child out of their arms then wonder why the child has 'attachment' issues when going to pre-school etc., a situation that worsens as the child gets older and the parents more clingy. I quite honestly think that parenting styles today contribute to the explosion of problems later in life.

"older mums" lol some of the older mums I know are shooting up heroin whilst pregnant and going out leaving their babies alone.
So because one individual mentioned in the ops post is young you think you can make some kind of point about older mums?
The op herself has said she had her first child at 16 and so did I and wouldn't of been in the pub after one day. Almost like everyone is different no matter their age 🤔

So you are judging her by your own standards- if she is OK to walk then fantastic, you should be happy for her, not writing judgemental post pretending to be all concerned on mumsnet. If oyu were concerned about her, why didt you speak to her? Rather than, you know, a bunch of strangers who dont know the young mum.
Whaty baby advice did you get about going out after hospital actually?

Ok. . it's irrelevant anyway as she wasn't drinking. But you obviously feel the need to be pedantic

Not to mention the fact that article is American and bordering on batshit! 😂

So you berate people for being sarcastic while calling other mothers ridiculous? Sanctimonious much? 😁

There is no explanation needed!!! Wow I'm amazed how people can't live without going to the pub for atkeast the first 5 days. I guess maternal instincts haven't & prob won't kick in. Mother by name not by nature. This is actually a joke amount of people that think it's fine to come straight out of a hospital straight into a pub in a enclosed settings with random people with random germs. You want to get a drink or meal do it at home. Now this baby is your world not about when u going to see so and so when are you going to be about to go down to local pub. Look after your number 1 first she's still vulnerable and more likely to catch something... Before you all have a strop in talking baby first week or 2 these days are vital for their health. Hopefully both baby&mum are doing well.

Woooah, hold on there, Hyacinth Bouquet! What an awful, judegemental post. Clearly empathy has not and prob wont kick in for you either. You make it seem the mum was there as was dying for a drink, and she wasnt even drinking!

Maybe she went to the pub to meet family and friends and it was easier to get everyone seated (and have chairs) than lets say get everyone in a cramped house or sit on the grass in a park and be uncomfortable. The baby was more likely to catch something in the actual hospital.
You are a human being by name, but maybe not by nature- would it be fair to suggest you think?

What are you basing this medical advice on?

Vibes.

You were the one who brought up the supposed illegality- pot, kettle, black spring to mind!

I agree with you!

What a silly response - how on earth would you come to that conclusion because I said I would rather spend that precious time after giving birth with my immediate family, rather than in a pub or any other place?

What on earth has having a fragile head got to do with anything? I’m presuming nobody was swinging the baby round by its feet or using it as a pool cue so it was probably ok…

And animals hide away to protect their young from being eaten. Very little chance of anyone eating op’s neice’s newborn in the local Harvester.

Being in a family bubble for a few weeks will not lead to the issues you describe. It’s quiet time to enable baby and mother to bond in a peaceful environment and enjoy precious moments with the family, which I personally wouldn’t want to share in a pub, restaurant, shop or any other public place.
Neither would I need to stop on the way home to do a supermarket shop, which surely could be arranged by some else, or an online shop.
Some seem to think that the time after birth is just slotted into routine- it’s not- it’s a special time and deserves to be treated as such.

Not everyone can or wants to sit around in a ‘family bubble’ for weeks after the birth. It would have driven me mad, I absolutely hate sitting around doing nothing. I like my normality and that included shopping, doing the school run and socialising with friends. My 4 children are none the worse off for having slotted into our routine.

To be fair, with how long the food takes to come you never know 😂