One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

But she was at a pub restaurant in a safe, snug, loving environment.

JFC. And what about thus who were a more appropriate age for you? I was 32 when I had my first baby, and I am educated to PhD level. I went out for lunch with my baby on day 5. It was a lovely experience all round. My baby snuggled and slept on me, I chatted with my husband and relaxed.

People aren't advised to stay at home.

Interesting. Would you risk your baby's health by taking it home from hospital in a car? That's a statistically riskier thing to do that going for a pub lunch.

The OP would have mentioned if it was heaving.

As do we all, that's pretty standard human behaviour. I protected my fragile new human while out for lunch.

Not boring, just lacking in critical thinking capacity if you can't explain why.

Wow, you sound amazing, you must love your baby so much more than the rest of us do!

But it's the same vibe. There's no reason to hold off going out with your newborn for a few weeks, just like there's no reason to scrub your step.

I “protected my fragile new human” by keeping her warm and safe in a sling, cuddled up to her favorite things-my heartbeat and my breast. She did’t care where the rest of me was!

Sounds great she is celebrating new life!!!

There’s some very sarcastic people on here! No need. I think the majority of us older mums will have wanted just to recover from the trauma of giving birth, hide away in our ‘nest’ and bond with our babies. It’s such a treasured time and a pub would have no part to play in this. Their little heads are so fragile, 24 hours old! Even animals hide away and protect their young. It’s just a maternal instinct but I guess I’ll get slated for saying that

Maybe it’s ok just to mind your own business

Ridiculous

Older mums are more likely to have spent longer in hospital after birth, as the societal trend has gone downwards over the last few decades. Even for those who were out next day in the 70s or similar, it would be wise to reflect that societal trends in postnatal care norms play a part.

I say this as a millennial who's still been enjoying an all expenses NHS stay on Day 1 every time I've given birth!

I think you're very unreasonable for starting a thread on a public forum about another woman, presumably without her knowledge, because of your assumption about whether or not she has soreness in her vagina/perineum. It is literally none of your business to speculate.
Be happy for the gift of new life, and leave it.
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“Older mums”? Count me out then-I was 37 and 41 when I took mine out safely cuddled in a sling at a day old. Because I felt up to it and wanted to. If it made you happy to stay in all day that’s absolutely fine. It made me happy to be out for a couple of hours. I don’t judge you-you don’t judge me.

Not everyone finds giving birth traumatic or something thst needs hiding away to recover from. It never occurred to me to stay inside because I felt fine and wanted to be doing normal things and enjoying all of it. My babies were just protected in my arms or in a sling in a pub, park or cafe as they were in my own lounge.

The halos of those who hibernated for weeks must cause terrible headaches. On MN it's not popular to say one had a fairly straight forward birth but many do. The young mother was doing a pretty normal thing, having a bit of life herself to no detriment of her precious baby. If more parents dumped the 'bubbles' and 'little families' ideas and were not helicoptering for the child's first 30 years there may be fewer children with all kinds of 'issues' because they could cope better with what life presented to them.

I think it's a great way of avoiding PPD. Getting out, seeing friends. It would definitely keep my mind off feeling sore and tired. As long as she remembered to feed the baby, I don't have a problem with it.

Exactly a haemorrhage is a haemorrhage no matter where it happens and I'm sure the mum has been warned of this .

If Parents take their newborns on walks and to relatives houses for a few weeks and not the pub, they’re destined to have issues..?

@BoldAmberDuck

speak for yourself! Plenty of mums “older” or otherwise could think of nothing worse than being stuck indoors for days on end after giving birth.

Some people like to get showered and dressed into some decent clothes, maybe pop a bit of makeup on and get out and about! Especially in weather like this - fab beer garden weather 🥂 🌞 And guess what? It doesn’t make them less good a mother than you!

Do you think she was bonking the baby's head against the table?

She would be underage to drink in the pub anyway