One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

we took dd to a pub for her first outing. She’d have been 5 or 6 days old. Was with family. It was a pub that is mainly used for eating rather than a boozer type joint.
It was very close to home, closest dining venue, and we knew it would be fine. It was..

I was out and about the next day with both of mine, dd1 got loads of silver put in her pram in our local! If she's feeling up to it, why not? We all recover from the birth differently, xh was straight back to work as no paternity leave, I wanted to show new baby off

I know OP, I had my one and only child 48 years ago. I could've no more been down the pub the next day than fly round the moon. I spent a week in a convalescent home run by nuns! I was really bashed up and I was only 19, so normally very healthy. It knocked me for six and I lost a lot of blood. We're all different.

Dd is 23y. Advice was baby could be out and about as soon as I felt able.

As if 😅

I've had a 3rd borderline 4th degree tear which involved going to surgery to be stitched up. Did the school run two days later with 4 year old, 2 year old and newborn.

Not saying that as a 'look how amazing I am' thing, but because some of us do bounce back fast. After all my births, I felt absolutely fine and was up with makeup, dressed and out almost immediately. Other thsn the usual tiredness you'd expect with a newborn, I felt absolutely normal and back to normal life pretty much the second they were out.

Everyone recovers differently. One of my friends had a very normal birth and felt like she'd been hit by a truck. That as absolutely valid that she wanted to cocoon herself away,but don't judge anyone for wanting to be back to normal if they feel like it.

Don't say you weren't judging her cause you absolutely were. People who aren't judging dont make posts on mumsnet asking for pub opinion on other people's business. Fix up.

To be fair I prefer this approach than the newer MN approach if not letting anyone else see you or baby for a few weeks.

That sounds lovely. Was always freezing and lashing rain in the days after having mine!

Who said she was in early labour

I do remember being chided by a supermarket worker when I had DS in a sling at about 3 weeks old, who said “that baby should be safe at home”. I was buying nappies, washing detergent and chocolate and going to the supermarket was the highlight of my day.

What's so unsafe about a supermarket? 😂

My cousin went grocery shopping in Tesco on the way home from hospital. Baby in the baby seat. She shouldn't have been lifting bags but as she said herself, who else is going to do it? Not everyone has a team fussing around them. I think if the Mum is OK then the baby is too. It's only a few hours no doubt she will be exhausted afterwards. Many people who are at home are busy with callers anyhow so it's much the same, maybe she feels she will be left alone for a few days now that everyone has seen baby.

It’s really no wonder rates of PND are so high when women are expected to stay home laying in bed for days on end with their baby with little opportunity for things they enjoy or that bring them a sense of connection with other people besides their baby.

I'd rather have a 1 day old than a 2 yr old in the pub.

Supermarket staff with fucked up opinions and an attitude thats its ok to share them with customers it seems.

I'd like to know which supermarket has the shittest staff.

Already posted but to add, I was in a cafe with my very premature baby the day after discharge so she was 5 days old but still weeks below her true birth date and very weak. My reason was that her twin remained in a neonatal ward and I went to visit but then had to wait for a few hours for a Dr to visit and confirm whether I could take him home that day. There was no where else to wait around and i had a 5 yr old who was hungry. I couldn't leave him home because DH needed to mind them, newborn baby that was discharged wasn't allowed visit the ward where other twin was so we all had to go. Its not something I would have intentionally done but there we were...and it was absolutely fine.

Sit it in a car with a bottle of pop and a bag of crisps. Never did me any harm

My eldest is 18 now we had to move house the day after she was born.
So I went to the pub with her for a meal while everyone did all the heavy lifting.
The younger ones have had to do school run, club drop off etc has soon we out the hospital.

I went for a lovely family meal in our local pub the day after DS2 was born. The extended family wanted to meet him. I was a bit sore but had a nice tasty roast and baby slept in his pram for most of it apart from a quick breastfeed while I was eating sticky toffee pudding

No way in this world would I take a 1 day old baby to a pub. But that is just me.

It's her life and her baby

Keep your nose out

I’m pretty sure newborns are very protected against a lot of viruses/illnesses because they still have protective antibodies from the placenta. So if mum has had her MMR jabs then that protection is passed on to her baby and remains until the baby is a few months old.

What’s wrong with taking a baby into a pub? It’s not as if you can smoke in public places any more, so what harm can it do?

What about a cafe?