One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Its fine as long as the baby is suitably wrapped in protective layer of cotton wool and baby safe clingfilm.

Crikey, I couldn’t stand up! Maybe she’s a bit in shock and it’s not sunk in yet 😂 x

I hated people coming to the house as they always overstayed their welcome, whereas going out somewhere and then being able to leave if you felt tired etc seems like a much better idea to me.

I was in the hospital for a few days with each of mine, but was out about as soon as I could. With my youngest that was the next day as school run etc

If my dad had has his way, I’d have been delivered in the back room of the pub so him and my mum could have a pint the second the cord was cut. I don’t think it’s bad, it’s nice she wants to show baby off. I’d maybe be a bit worried if there was no sober person there or she got absolutely trashed, but to me this seems fine. We took DD to a pub when she was very little because at the time we both worked there and everyone wanted to see the Wetherspoons baby. Came out the womb pouring cheap pints and microwaving curries.

You’re being unreasonable yes. If she feels ok I think it’s great. They do say v young mothers do better in a way as they don’t overthink everything as older mothers do. Perfect example right here!

And what if your other kids need taking to school?

Yes, with my oldest there was a CONSTANT stream of visitor (every man and his bloody dog) and I had no energy for housekeeping and hours of entertaining. I later heard of sip & see parties and frankly think its genius, hire somewhere and then get it all out of the way at once in a nice little celebration.

Talking of celebrations, 'Wetting the Head' has always been a tradition, of course mothers (who did all the work) should get to celebrate too (its not the 1800s) if they physically can so a pub is the traditional place to be.

I don't know if it was because it was our first baby or because we where the first in the friend groups to have a baby but it was exhausting and so privacy invading, luckily no such mad rush happened with baby 2 and 3.

I had my first in a fancy gastropub within the first few days for lunch: never even stirred. They’re pretty robust and portable at this age.
I love that this young lady is so proud of her baby and is embedding the baby in her life.

The day after DS was born I took him blackberry picking, saved me bending to pick the low growing ones. He seemed to really enjoy it.
😉😁😁.

Not good with the amount of airborne infections doing the rounds at the moment. Newborn babies need to be protected, whooping cough, flu , RSV and covid can be very dangerous for young babies.

Yup I think this is old fashioned especially now pubs are nonsmoking, but like you I am amazed she’s managed it 🤣

The baby's needs?! As in, being clean, fed, warm and with it's mum? And having a pram / something to sleep in? Mum obviously feels fine, wants a good hearty meal and, as this was yesterday (Wednesday), I'm assuming the pub was relatively quiet and clearly family friendly? So no different to a cafe or restaurant.

So not sure what exactly the problem is...?

Hopefully most pregnant women are sensible enough to be vaccinated against those illnesses during pregnancy.

My mum had a lot of siblings and so when my Grandparents first got a car (in the 60s / 70s) there wasn't enough room for them all to have seat so the younger kids would travel in the boot 😃

Full of pissed people, germs and smells.

On a Wednesday afternoon??? Not sure where you live but no pub near me is like that ever. Never mind mid week 😂

We went for a meal with DD1 when she was about a month old and we went on a little holiday (an hour away to the coast) and then to a restaurant for a bite to eat about a five minute walk from where we were staying. Took her in the car seat attached to the pushchair base so as not to take up lots of space, and collapsed the base in a corner when we got in, and put DD on a chair next to us.

She slept the whole time and we were probably there about an hour as we were so nervous about her waking up and disturbing anyone.

Someone probably with the mentality of the OP commented loudly that I was "carrying her round like a bag of shopping" - the first of many twatty comments some people feel the need to make towards mums/parents with young children but other than that we had a nice time.

I think it’s time we added expert opinions from doctors and professors.

www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/new-parents-and-newborns-are-visitors-ok

Maybe they just spend a lot of time watching old sitcoms from the 90s where it was all beer mats, busty barmaids and fist fights?! 😂

In reality most pubs these days are (sadly) more like gastropubs / restaurants serving £20 meals and £10 glasses of wine.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/infection-prevention-week/

Babies are uniquely vulnerable, and those bragging that they don’t care and will expose their newborns to anything hours after arrival are quite frankly bloody irresponsible.

My dear friend had this attitude until her baby developed sepsis. Thankfully she pulled through, but df was much more careful after that.

The advice has never changed re the risks of an undeveloped immune system in very young babies is well known. I suggest pp educate themselves on the risks.

Well here is here family member posting a thread hoping for opprobrium, so not a giant leap to me either.

I remember another time I was at a cafe with a few other mums from the NHS post-natal group I went to. A man of about 60 made a loud comment to his dining companion "Bloody feckless single teenage mums, not a dad amongst them."

• Not that it matters, but the youngest among us was about 26 and the oldest in her 40s, I was 30.
• As it was a Wednesday afternoon, the dads were at work.

Mine are 20 and 16 now so a bit late but thankfully they did survive
I didn't go to pubs as they have never been my thing but we were out and about with them from very young, especially with DS as I didn't want to disrupt his older sisters life any more
It was DD's 4th birthday 1 week after DS was born and we had a big party and our house. I hardly saw him all day!

My cousin was born on Christmas Eve and we all went for a big family Christmas Day meal at the local pub where it was absolutely packed and noisy as anything.

He survived.

This, most pubs I’ve been to on a weekday afternoon aren’t much different to visiting a cafe or restaurant. There’s crayons and high chairs and families eating food.

Oh god don't say this!!! You'll have everyone up in arms thinking that you went on a weekend bender with a 4 day old baby 😂