One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Or babycham

I'm more concerned about baby's lack of immune system, than the mum to be honest.
Taking baby in to busy environment with zero immunity is just asking for trouble. You can't give cold medicine to such a tiny baby, so if anyone sneezed at baby, it would get it properly ill with nothing to fight it.
I think it's irresponsible from that point of you. It was always recommended to shield baby for first 6 weeks.

This is the kind of thing that should be entirely decided by the new Mum. If she feels fine and is the one who wants to go out, great. If you think she's being pressured into it before she's ready then I'd support her to stand up to them.

Yes its fine, its not the smokey environment it once was. A couple of days after a gave birth to my second I was taking the baby on the school run, to the supermarket, to a coffeeshop, while supervising my elder child in the park. Nothing drastic happened.

Rubbish, my eldest is nearly 30 we where never advised to shield the baby for 6 weeks. Neither where my parents or my nieces that have had babies in the last 15 years

I don’t think you are soft, I think you are a busy body. What has any of this got to do with you?

after my first i went to the all you can eat Chinese the day after with him

I never felt the need to rest up after I had any of my children. I went to Sainsbury's on the way home from hospital and just carried on with everyday life. We were definitely in the pub for lunch within a day or so. I actually found all the "rest" comments really annoying (Although I appreciate they were well meaning)

It just didn't find giving birth something that I needed time to recover from.

She was having a meal. Well done to her for managing. At 1 day old I would have loved someone cooking a meal for me, think we lived off takeaways for a few weeks 😂

I often see very young newborns in soft plays which shocks me more than seeing them in a pub tbh, given my DD seems to have a cold practically every time we have recently been to one. I know it’s not really comparable to when toddlers are in the ball pit! Even so, I’m going to try to give them a wide berth with my toddler when my second arrives but it’ll be hard to do it for very long.

I also found cluster feeding a nightmare and got very little sleep with a baby in excellent health. Imagine if she had had a cold/congestion too. 🙈

Baby No 2 was going to playgroups on Day 4 because I wanted his 22 month old brother to keep his morning social routine as normal as possible. We were all fine... people brought me cups of tea and chatted with me at the different daily morning groups, lovely.

Everyone is different.

It's no longer recommended to keep baby at home for weeks and weeks.

I took DS to see his siters Nativity play when he was round 8 hours old.
DD's keyworker grabbed him and I didn't see him for the next hour 😁

This was Greece!

I once worked in a pub. We had a couple arrive on their way to the hospital one lunchtime, and the same couple stop in on their way home in the evening with the new baby (same day) so the wife could have half a Guinness to keep her iron up.

It was the 80s. Life was different then 😬

My first two had complex births and we where in hospitals and NICUs for weeks.

My last was discharged the next morning... damn fucking sure I was out and about enjoying freedom and my new baby, stolling around and doing shopping. It was magical, why on earth would you not?

Being stuck in hospital on bed rest, in pain and unable to hold your baby is fucking awful, I would wish that coup up miserable torture on no one. Its not something to be idolised or falsely replicated unnecessarily.

I think it's fine, as pp say, pubs aren't smoky like they used to be. I would be impressed she was up and about so quickly, and probably wanted some normality and to show the baby off. It does sound like she's doing well, feeling ok and hopefully recovering well.

I was in hospital for a few days with both births, but then started going out soon after for short walks etc. It wouldn't be my choice to go somewhere public as I felt really broken and not up to looking presentable for at least a week.

This just feels so contrived and attention seeking even, to me. I have a relative who would do something like this just to put the photos on social media as in “Look at how chilled I am, in early labour in a pub.” I know it wouldn’t have been about this then though - and each to their own!

My ds and I went out to a restaurant the day I was discharged. He was 5 days old - I’d had a Emcs and was kept in and it was abroad. Last day my family were there.

what will probably horrify you more (or MN in general 😂) is that I don’t think I saw him the whole meal. The owners showed him off and took him upstairs to their flat whilst I ate!

Her life, her baby, her choice.

I would’ve loved to have felt well enough to do that the day after so fair play to her I say.

All these people saying to shield and not leave the house for six weeks... thats some PFB shit.

Whose going to look after the other kids while you refuse to let baby leave the house for no good reason?

I had school runs, Dr appointments for my kid, nursery meetings etc... the same week I gave birth, life doesn't magically stop just because you had a baby.

Not something I would do, no, but each to their own. Obviously there are situations you have no choice in, but we are all different. I'm not a pub fan to begin with though.

I took my 18-hour old baby to the supermarket! DC wasn’t my first, but I had had a fantastic birth compared with some of the others and was completely buoyed up by feeling so great after birth.

Of course, the fatigue kicked in about 48 hours after that, but the point is, every birth experience is different, so if she wants to eat out, why not?

Be happy for the new mother and mind your business.

Surely the fact that it was quite obviously, as you say, not for social media then would make you wonder whether it would be now? Lots of things people declare to be ‘just to post on social media’ are nothing of the sort. Because someone puts something on their socials doesn’t mean they only did it so they could do that.