One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

I think it’s fine if the mother is comfortable enough. At 17 she can probably do without judgement of others on what she does.

Well it would be better keeping the baby at home because of risk of catching viruses, but maybe she just wanted to get out of the house and show the baby off, she’s only young so maybe that was important for her wellbeing. The baby isn’t being harmed or neglected so just let it go

It's up to her really. I don't think the baby would get some terrible disease from a pub anymore than they might at someone's home or a cafe/shop. A young single mum would have no choice but to take her very young baby wherever she needed to go. So I wouldn't say it's dangerous?
It's great she felt well enough to be able to do this really. So I think it's fine.

1. She had an episiotomy which can cause significant pain.
2. Only the person that has actually given birth will know if they are in pain, regardless of the type of birth they had.
3. Why do you appear to be offended by my comment?

How long do you think a new born baby should be kept at home due to virus,s?

Who said anything about her being in agony? Some people have easy births. I was 35 when I had my last so certainly not young, and I drove us home less than 12 hours after having her, went out for a coffee the same day and went to the pub a couple of days later. No pain whatsoever, not even any discomfort.

Who are you to judge? And to even go as far as almost shaming her for it on MN? Just because you didn’t feel up to it doesn’t mean no one else should. Jeez

Im not offended, its a forum people have difderent opnions thats how it works 🤷‍♀️

Was in hospital for a week, but even after that couldn't have been in a pub I was trying to establish breastfeeding with a baby with a tongue tie, who liked to dramatically fling his head away from my breast exposing my nipple to anyone in the vicinity.
I did pop into the office to see colleagues when he was ten days old and remember a colleague saying to me, "you've done your hair and you look amazing! I was covered in vomit at 10 days PP!" The first couple of months were probably easier than the next 3 for me when DH went back to work and the sleep deprivation kicked in. Everyone is different. I've not known anyone in real life create a newborn bubble and not allow visitors for a fortnight, but I hear it on here all the time.

ETA I had a 73 hour labour, it was really hard and then an emergency episiotomy because DS got stuck. I still didn't have much pain and was walking around straight away. I wasn't young either, I was 34, people just have different experiences

Nor do I, we have a couple of babies coming to the pub quiz but all they do is sleep, they are useless on the music rounds!
Seriously though, when our first was imminent we were bemoaning to our favourite restaurant owner that our nights out would be curtailed but he said Rubbish, bring him/her in the carrycot and we can find a quiet corner! It would well for about 6 months and she doesn't appear to have suffered.

If anything I'm jealous of how well she must be feeling and how confident to take baby out in public somewhere. I certainly couldn't have done that straight away.

I went to lunch with my mum on the day I was released from hospital on day 4 after my C section.

We are suppose to have children young. A 17 is going to bounce back so so quickly.

I was 18 when I had my 1st child, was in hospital a week due to them being born at 35 weeks, but after we came home I was back at college with baby by my side the week after. Teen mums typically have a lot more energy. I couldn't of done what I did with my 1st (college etc) with either my 2nd or 3rd child because I was alot older and had significantly less energy.

With my 1st I went to my cousin's 18th birthday party 24 hours after giving birth. And yes I was breastfeeding and yes my son was with me.

It's very old fashioned to think mum and baby need to be cooped up at home for weeks.

It isn't all about the Mother.

I think a day old is the perfect time to be out and about. You're still riding high on the adrenaline of having 'done it!' and the sleeplessness hasn't kicked in yet. After a week or so of no sleep and when the blues have started up you often don't feel up to going anywhere.

My baby needed me, my breast, cuddles and to be kept clean and happy. She needed me also to be fed and happy. All this can happen in the pub!

I went out for a lovely lunch with my baby and husband in a beautiful little pub with a lovely view. I can assure you there were no drunk people stumbling around. That same baby is now at school absolutely thriving, eats a healthy diet, has lots of hobbies and friends. She seems to have escaped the after effects of her pub visit thankfully.

I had my first at 23 and I bounced back straight away.

Personally if I had a baby now I’d hibernate for a month.

But I really don’t see any problem if she feels up to it. She might tire out anyway after a few days, she’s probably running on adrenaline.

This is mum’s day one initiation into mum shaming. Bless her, it didn’t take long did it? Please don’t package this up as ‘concern’.
My sister and partner registered thier 3 day old baby and then we all met for a meal to celebrate. Baby is still alive. Let mum live!

I’m not taking baby to any public places until he had his first vaccines at 8 weeks. Yes, maybe it’s nice to go somewhere to eat out but definitely not worth the risk.
But everyone thinks differently.
I am currently 4 weeks pp and I’m staying at home to ensure my proper recovery. And that feels good to me - to rest, walk in the garden and isolate only seeing close family.

Definitely too young. What with measles, covid, flu, RSV, whooping cough all being airborne, newborns should be kept out of crowded indoor places for sure.

Absolutely agree that if mum felt well enough, getting out and about can be great! I think we are a little OTT when it comes to hiding new babies away. The mama's mental health is as important so if popping out made her feel good, I'm all for it!

My DD was at the pub in day 4 or 5. Mum’s clearly feeling fine. But it’s good you’re looking out for her.

That took some imagination gymnastics to get to that!
My ‘local’ is a lovely old pub/restaurant, set in country gardens. Mainly families eating. No children in the bar part after 6. I’ve never seen a single person past ‘tipsy’.
Imagine this ‘pub’ (serving food) to be somewhere in the middle and have fewer germs than a hospital or a soft play area!

Is it the first baby? If so what happens when 2 Nd arrives, will you keep eldest away for 8 weeks until jabs done on second?