One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

If shes able to get out and about , more power to her . I could hardly walk after my first , everyone's different and maybe she just wants some social interaction it's easy to get isolated as a young mum .

the light and the noise are not ok plus of course the germs, they both need rest. remember on OBEM the midwife told a mum “no going to the shops you need to go straight home” ? so it’s just me saying it 🤷🏽‍♀️ it’s anyone with common sense
what’s so great about the pub that it’s can’t wait for another day?

years ago it was being kept in hospital in bed for 10 days or the same at home if you had a home birth. I know mum said woe betide you if you dared step out of bed and the midwife found out!
But it is a different world and new mums are different, No longer is childbirth treated like an illness but a natural part of life. I applaud mums who get on with their life. My daughters after giving birth carried on as normal going to the chippy on the way home, looking after the other kids while dad took one for a minor operation, housework, visiting etc. much better to not be made to feel like an invalid

We weren’t even out of the hospital on day 1 (or 2 or 3) and when we finally were I definitely wasn’t up for leaving the house or socialising. Add in infected stitches and I was still waddling/shuffling 6 weeks later. Everyone is different and will have different births and recovery periods. There’s no right or wrong or …”weakness”.

Ok the poor baby has just left the womb and taken him where a 2 year old and 4 year old are there spreading germs and making noise around the place constantly.

Why is this scenario so much more preferable?

Being on the maternity ward was probably the least relaxing night of my life because of the sheer amount of noise. Social noise is not going to harm the baby.

Are hospitals quiet?

Not in my experience, nor are they exceptionally clean

How many years ago was that?🤣

It doesnt mstter what you woukd want to happen
If the baby is well cared social services will not be intersted it doesnt sound like the pub is one frequented by all day piss heads many pubs are family friendly
My Dad spent the first 11 years of his life living in the pub owned by his parents ,himself and his five siblings all grew up healthily and all still alive in their 70,s and 80,s

@Anonym00seHow long ago was professional advice to wean at 6 weeks? Because I have been a mother and an involved aunt for 40 years and none of the babies involved were weaned before 3 months at the earliest.

Babies are supposed to be kept in the dark? That’s a new one on me.

I imagine the midwife said that to the woman because of some men’s expectations that a woman gets straight back to ‘woman’s work’ than anything to do with it being a danger to her or the baby.

For some people, the want or need to get back to normal life means they don’t sit on the sofa for weeks after birth. And that’s ok.

I think my mum said she wss kept in hospital for 10 days after my sister was born in 1972 both of them were healthy
I was born 20 months later and she was " only" kept in for 3 days because she had a toddler at home.

I feel horrendously sorry for the Mum. I hope she’s not trying to be brave and strong when she’s actually in absolute agony. Does she have a good network around her that will check she’s ok etc

So she went to a pub restaurant and had a meal? Hardly the same as “going to the pub”. I think this is absolutely fine. Why wouldn’t it be?

Since when has the advice been that babies can’t be in the light or have noise around them?!?! Common advice for a long time was “hoover when they’re sleeping and they’ll sleep through anything”. What are you even on about?

Why?

At least 35. I had 20 hours after my DD was born in hospital. That was 1991

Pmsl I was taken to the pub soon as my mam was released from hospital with me. My parents were very good friends with the landlords and the pub was on the way home 🤣. I took my 2 day old baby to a football match 😂😂. You rest if you want to rest, let others do what they feel like doing. If it's not hurting anyone leave well alone.

It's not really any of your business

And do you know what? When people did scrub their front steps and think about what other people thought of them, society worked a lot better than it does now.

Because someone I know went out day two, despite being in absolute agony and didn’t tell anyone because they thought they had to be out and about as if they hadn’t had a baby.

Well I lived in a pub when I had DD!
We are both doing ok and it doesn’t seem to have scarred her, she’s 11 now and doesn’t seem to have any lifelong trauma.

You were judging her though if you re-read your OP, you were questioning whether the baby should have been down the pub. Whether or not she is overdoing it comes purely down to how she feels.

Would you have started this thread if she had called round her mothers house?

Right ,but by the small amount of info we have the mum appear ,s to have had a straight forward birth and is hsppy to be in the .pub.