To think therapy culture has gone too far?

[BeSharpOliveHedgehog]

Not every bad day is trauma. Not every disagreement is “toxic.” Some people just need to toughen up and stop pathologising normal emotions. AIBU to think the rise of therapy speak (“boundaries,” “gaslighting,” “narcissist”) is turning everyone into self-obsessed armchair psychologists?

Ok.

I’m not a bot! Why is that the go to for everything for God’s sake!

Oh look. This thread again. It's been, what, four times over the last week or so?

Another post about this last week...

What difference does it make, unless your AIBU is because you're on the receiving end of accusations.. and pissed off because you're being called out

I didn’t know that? Jesus it’s hostile here.

I agree totally OP. People live in their own heads these days.

I totally agree with you OP

I don't think an awareness of boundaries is "therapy speak" particularly.

Yup.

So don’t go to to therapy, and leave everyone else alone.

YANBU. Over-thinking and over-analysing everything is creating unnecessary misery and destroying mindfulness and spontaneous joy.

I agree. Awareness of boundaries is a good thing.

Agree!!

Agree with this.
OP, this us MM. Everyone who disagrees with you is gaslighting you, everyone who doesn't give in to every whim is a narcissist and you'll find thread after thread of self-obsessed nonsense.
You've come to the wrong place!

Nice! So you have no boundaries, let others minimise your problems and are delighted to live with narcissists !

or wait, do your opinions only apply to others?

Nope, I accept everyone is different and some are more difficult than others.

Totally agree OP. Just part of life on planet Earth.

Agree op

Not at all - I think boundaries and emotional insight are important. I just think there’s a difference between healthy self-awareness and pathologising every discomfort or disagreement. My point was that some of this language is getting overused to the point of losing meaning and sometimes even weaponised. That’s not the same as saying “all therapy is bad” or that people shouldn’t have boundaries.

I believe therapy culture has begun to look for problems rather than helping resolve problems.

You’re brave! Fully agree though OP.

Hahaha. I agree. I can think of several examples (not on Mumsnet) where someone has been accused of gaslighting but they’ve just made a mistake. Gaslighting is deliberately feeding someone false information. An ex friend told me I gaslit her once when actually I just forgot something 🤷‍♀️

And narcissism. Many people are selfish. Not many people have narcissistic personality disorder.

How do you get to decide all this? It’s up to the individual to decide if someone is toxic to them or not. What appears small to you could actually be a trigger for someone who experienced significant trauma in the past. In most cases, you don’t know the whole story and you just see the straw that broke the camel’s back!