Going out shopping in your pyjamas

[NicolaDeLaHaye]

AIBU to think it's lazy and slovenly?

Aww I thought this was going to be about next Wednesday (wear your PJs to work day)!

If only retail staff were well paid and supported by their managers, then someone could be refused service for turning up in pyjamas. That sadly is not going to happen.

Likewise those who drive their children to school, who I would allow police to assume they could be over the limit or drug taking, and breathalyse. Not going to happen either.

some people take pride in showing how slovenly they are and having I just don’t give a fuck attitude

it was very fashionable about 10 years ago

Black pj bottoms with coat and trainers for a quick milk or bread dash- fine

Dressing gown and Dumbo pjs with slippers in tesco-slovenly cunt.

How pitifully low your bar must be if you think that choosing to, you know, just where regular clothing is something superior.

I don’t think it’s superior. I think people wear what they want to, and that’s fine by me. Who am I to judge?

I think some people on this thread going overboard and calling people scummy or cunts because they wear pyjamas outside are using it as a way to feel superior.

I have been following quite closely, have I missed something? PP being referred to as c_ts because they wear PJs as day wear on this thread.

I don’t think PP are suggesting that they are better than other people because they don’t, maybe that’s taking things out of context!

Yes one poster has called them cunts!

They clearly do think they’re better than the PJ wearers calling them scummy and slovenly and all manner of nasty things. What else would you call it?

It’s pathetic really, but it’s Mumsnet so I shouldn’t be surprised.

You clearly don’t shop in my local Tesco then! It’s swarming with them, often entire families! 😂

I have noticed that some PP do use the C word quite liberally on here, but it’s the nature of the debate… to use the c word or not and to wear PJs as day wear or not.

Sure, but if you’re calling people scummy, skanky cunts, then you can’t say you don’t feel superior to them can you?

Ironically, the posters saying things like that are demonstrating just how little class they have.

Some pjs and dressing gowns are so comfy and cosy that I don’t blame people going out in them. I used to care before covid, but couldn’t care less nowadays.
something has shifted. More casual clothes around.

They're not words that I use. However, I will describe them as scruffy, scuzzy and with deplorably low standards. And that's absolutely fine whilst they live within their own scruffy, scuzzy world. But when they step outside into the regular world then they will be judged. Because that's what humans do and always have done.

We make thousands of judgements every week. Pretending that you don't make assumptions based on appearances doesn't make you morally superior. It makes you totally disingenuous.

Come on, this was 1 previous post. This thread is not riddled with people calling each other C you next Tuesday’s because they wear PJs to do the school run!

No, I literally don’t judge people on what they choose to wear, and I think calling people scuzzy and scruffy just because they choose to wear a different piece of fabric to you shows a distinct lack of class.

apart from that, they could be cleaner and more hygienic than the man in the smart suit who’s been wearing it without washing it (or himself) for a week.

It’s a pointless thing to judge people on, but of course you’re free to do so.

I didn’t say it was, it was just one of many comments that stood out, but the thread
is full of calling people scuzzy, skanky and all manner of other unpleasant things just because of their clothing choices. And the people doing it think they’re the ones with standards and class.

I don’t use the c word but I do think I am superior to those who can’t be bothered to put clothes on before leaving the house. Because it’s such a low bar of respect to show yourself, such a low bar.

Why is one piece of fabric more respectful than another? Why is the man wearing the same shirt for a week more respectful than the woman who goes out in the PJs she’s only had on for a few hours? It’s nonsensical. I’d rather judge people by their character than their clothing tbh.

You can twist yourself into knots trying to pretend that you've evolved to the extent that you are oblivious to appearances. Well lovely for you.

But outside of your ivory tower, the overwhelming majority of the public do judge and make assumptions. And 95% of the time those assumptions are accurate because humans have evolved to assess in this way, very accurately.

This is hilarious 😂.

I WFH and shower and dress in the morning because I prefer the feel of being clean and it's usually too cold (or warm) for PJs. But I rarely sleep in them, they are more for wearing before bed or when I first get up. I often wear them in the mornings at the weekend until I finally have a shower and get dressed.

But I'd happily answer the door, put the bin out etc in PJs. And when we stay at campsites I often go out to the car to get something in PJs in the morning. If it is warm enough I might even sit out in PJs for morning coffee.

For information I have a professional job and a masters degree and I'm sure I don't fit into the 'PJ wearing' stereotype people mention.

What's the harm? I really don't mind what anyone else is wearing. I wouldn't mind if my colleagues were wearing their PJs in a morning meeting. What's the fuss all about?

I remember the furore when ASDA said that they would mandate covid masks. People were told to calm down, it's not like they were banning dressing gowns!

It gives the impression you are too lazy to get dressed and even worse can't be bothered to have a wash.

I don’t think it’s me in the ivory tower. I understand the very many complex reasons why people might choose to go out in their PJs so I don’t judge. Also, I just don’t care because it doesn’t affect me one little bit.

i notice how no one ever answer the question about why PJs are inherently worse given that fully dressed people could have terrible hygiene too.

Maybe try evolving into someone less judgemental.

Maybe one day, we’ll all just wear loin cloths , it’s all just bits of fabric . We will regress to pre-civilisation !

I think if you balance it with going to bed in some smart clothes, it sort of evens everything up, so it's OK.

Well, that's what I do.