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To be sick of all the newspaper articles saying lies about DLA and PIP

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elliejjtiny · 08/04/2025 22:37

To get any DLA or PIP you have to be significantly disabled. To get the higher rate of either part you have to be severely disabled.

A motability car is not free, it's rented. To get one you need to either be unable to walk 50 metres or have a severe learning disability, which is very difficult to get.

It's always happened but since the stuff in the news about changes to PIP it's got worse.

Articles in the newspapers claiming you can get a free car for bed wetting, which just doesn't happen. There will be children like my ds who get DLA because they have a number of problems including bedwetting but nobody gets high rate mobility for bed wetting on its own.

There are other articles about people claiming PIP and DLA for various minor sounding conditions and I am so fed up with it. I know from experience that the newspapers will have talked to people claiming PIP/DLA and twist everything they say to make them sound like a scrounger.

All these articles are giving off the message that anyone with any minor disability can claim loads of benefits.

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GivenUpOnSleep · 12/04/2025 00:28

Wildflowers99 · 11/04/2025 23:18

No, just your general descriptors for people of low intelligence are unnecessary and spiteful. I wouldn’t and haven’t called anyone ‘stupid’ or ‘half brain’.

I didn’t call you a “half brain”. I merely observed, when you became enraged that many posters had given up responding to your outraged, unscientific, ableist, Daily Mail style fact-free rants, that posters appeared to have - wisely, in my view - concluded that they would have more chance of having a rational discussion with the mouse that has had half of its brain removed.

Differentstarts · 12/04/2025 01:27

WeylandYutani · 11/04/2025 23:44

One day, you could be someone needing benefits.
You are one stroke or accident away from it.

This is what I never understand anyone agreeing with the government about disability benefit changes are risking there futures to just because it doesn't effect them now it might effect them or their children in the future. Nobody chooses or expects to become disabled but things can happen in a second that can change your life forever.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:13

Differentstarts · 12/04/2025 01:27

This is what I never understand anyone agreeing with the government about disability benefit changes are risking there futures to just because it doesn't effect them now it might effect them or their children in the future. Nobody chooses or expects to become disabled but things can happen in a second that can change your life forever.

So in your view we should allow disability benefits to continue to rise indefinitely ‘just in case I need them one day’?

I mean wouldn’t it be prudent to want all services to have their fair share (but no more) in case we need them as well? Ambulance service, hospices, search and rescue, police?

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:15

GivenUpOnSleep · 12/04/2025 00:28

I didn’t call you a “half brain”. I merely observed, when you became enraged that many posters had given up responding to your outraged, unscientific, ableist, Daily Mail style fact-free rants, that posters appeared to have - wisely, in my view - concluded that they would have more chance of having a rational discussion with the mouse that has had half of its brain removed.

Enraged 😂 I’m the only one who hasn’t been using pure insults.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:15

GivenUpOnSleep · 12/04/2025 00:22

Let’s hope it’s an uninhabited one. Much better for all involved. Smile

I think expecting the level of government hand holding that many posters on here do is ‘hard left’. It’s borderline communism sometimes.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:16

WeylandYutani · 11/04/2025 23:44

One day, you could be someone needing benefits.
You are one stroke or accident away from it.

Well, I’ve been a MH inpatient (some years ago now) and have a serious medical condition that will likely kill me one day. So I’m already there in a way.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:21

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 11/04/2025 23:39

I think (as with most things in life, and as was pointed out to me earlier) there's a middle ground being missed.

Autism and ADHD diagnosis for women was largely inaccessible for years because of sexism in medical research (as is the case for many conditions). Awareness of ADHD in women and girls increased and with it, so has the diagnosis rate. This, in itself, isn't a bad thing.

I think the comorbidity is that so many people seem to be very focused on finding their identity and their "community", which may account for the rise in people identifying as trans, neurodiverse, whatever else. Some elements of people discovering their identity is positive - I'm thinking about people choosing Welsh medium education for their children where I live and increasingly identifying as Welsh, as one small example - but when you have this convergence if neurodivergence and needing an identity/community, it's leading to people falling into the "sick role" and not taking responsibility for their actions.

I hear a lot of "it's not my fault, it's my ADHD" from people (including friends) who are self diagnosed. I don't accept that as an excuse; I was diagnosed in 2017 and medicated for 5 years until I had to stop taking it. For the last two years I have not been medicated and have had to develop coping mechanisms and strategies, because I won't allow myself to shrug my shoulders and say "it's my ADHD". I don't think it's unfair to say that some people sometimes use their neurodivergence (diagnosed or otherwise) to avoid responsibility and accountability.

Equally, on the PIP and ESA topic, I just want to see more support for people with disabilities to be able to work before they start taking benefits away. I could work, but I'm not getting hired in the jobs I can do (still plugging away at the applications), so right now, I can't work. That doesn't mean I'm scrounging or claiming falsely - I've been assessed as LCWRA, but I believe I can still offer employers something, so I'm trying but it's not easy. More support, more incentives for companies to hire disabled people, more work from home roles - if those exist, people like me will be able to move off benefits naturally, which would surely save the government a chunk of money?

I agree with all this and I think you’ve explained it really well.

When browsing a respectable MH website the other day it said young people with the highest rate of MH conditions aren’t the unemployed or those in NMW jobs - it’s university students. Nobody can argue this cohort are a ‘victim of the system’ who have nothing to live for. They should be having the time of their life, not working but studying something they find interesting, in a new place of their choosing.

My personal suspicion is that this is a spin off of the fact universities are hotbed of identity politics - most student politicians are very left wing, very supportive of transgender, they love pronouns and labels and tribes. I’m not surprised that most of them have latched onto MH labels and that they have to free time to sit around and introspect as to whether they think they have this or have that.

Of course a small number of students will find university tough for a number of reasons and need support, I’m well aware of student suicides.

But our overall suicide rate has been decreasing since its peak in the 1980s, so despite an explosion in diagnoses and MH crises, fewer people are actually dying by suicide now, by quite a long way.

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:23

Wildflowers99 · 11/04/2025 23:23

I do have a number of beliefs around the benefit system that are not popular with hard left claimants, yes. I’m not sorry. I want the benefit system to be rigorous and strong for people who desperately need it - I want it to be all singing and dancing for people like PP’s son who had cancer, or PP’s son who is non verbal and has severe learning difficulties. For this to happen we can’t be making payments to over 5 million people, because we don’t have the money to do that. So I make no apologies in saying I don’t think an adult with no learning difficulties and ADHD should be getting benefits. There is a certain level of life difficulty that we should bear without expecting financial recourse.

It would be very hard for an adult with ADHD alone to successfully claim PIP though, I’m not sure why you think ADHD = PIP, it really doesn’t.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:27

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:23

It would be very hard for an adult with ADHD alone to successfully claim PIP though, I’m not sure why you think ADHD = PIP, it really doesn’t.

Nearly half of claims are successful.

And it’s not hard to claim for DLA:

Over the last decade, the number of under-16s in receipt of Disability Living Allowance (DLA) in England and Wales has doubled, reaching 682,000 in 2023, equivalent to one-in-sixteen children. This growing caseload has been driven almost entirely by awards made to children whose main condition is either a learning difficulty, behavioural disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): in 2023, four-fifths of all Child DLA awards were for children whose main condition was one of these three.

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:28

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:16

Well, I’ve been a MH inpatient (some years ago now) and have a serious medical condition that will likely kill me one day. So I’m already there in a way.

Oo, What MH condition was that? I thought you didn’t believe in medical conditions that can’t be verified through a blood test or x Ray or some sort? Especially if they have varying presentations - isn’t that right?

TigerRag · 12/04/2025 07:30

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:16

Well, I’ve been a MH inpatient (some years ago now) and have a serious medical condition that will likely kill me one day. So I’m already there in a way.

Why are you so against others getting benefits?

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:33

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:27

Nearly half of claims are successful.

And it’s not hard to claim for DLA:

Over the last decade, the number of under-16s in receipt of Disability Living Allowance (DLA) in England and Wales has doubled, reaching 682,000 in 2023, equivalent to one-in-sixteen children. This growing caseload has been driven almost entirely by awards made to children whose main condition is either a learning difficulty, behavioural disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): in 2023, four-fifths of all Child DLA awards were for children whose main condition was one of these three.

You talked about adults ADHD and PIP so I’m not sure why you have quoted something child related.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:36

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:33

You talked about adults ADHD and PIP so I’m not sure why you have quoted something child related.

Because this thread is also about DLA?

Four fifths though!! Come on, that’s a shocker.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:37

TigerRag · 12/04/2025 07:30

Why are you so against others getting benefits?

I’m not. I’ve said I’m very passionate about very disabled people getting the quality of life they deserve - but they’re not as they’re competing with people who are perfectly functional with ‘conditions’. I want the cut in benefits to fund respite centres which I guess would primarily be for non verbal autistic children as they are high in number now and those parents desperately need a break. Their lives are incredibly hard. I also have a friend whose little girl has Downs. I would never want benefits taken away from these people. But no able bodied adult should be on benefits for decades with ‘anxiety’.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:39

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:28

Oo, What MH condition was that? I thought you didn’t believe in medical conditions that can’t be verified through a blood test or x Ray or some sort? Especially if they have varying presentations - isn’t that right?

OCD.

I’m also open to OCD eventually being reclassified into several subsets. I don’t believe my type (harm OCD) is the same as ‘pure O’ where there is no ritual/compulsion. I think it’s another one that could do with a good look because it’s become all encompassing.

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:45

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:39

OCD.

I’m also open to OCD eventually being reclassified into several subsets. I don’t believe my type (harm OCD) is the same as ‘pure O’ where there is no ritual/compulsion. I think it’s another one that could do with a good look because it’s become all encompassing.

Ok , but suggesting improvements and nuances are required in classification of these types of conditions is totally reasonable- we are still very much in the process of developing scientific knowledge in these areas. But earlier I thought you were suggesting that autism doesn’t exist? You were certainly declaring that being trans doesn’t. Because it relies on clinical judgement and self report right? So what makes you think your OCD diagnosis is so believable?

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:46

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:45

Ok , but suggesting improvements and nuances are required in classification of these types of conditions is totally reasonable- we are still very much in the process of developing scientific knowledge in these areas. But earlier I thought you were suggesting that autism doesn’t exist? You were certainly declaring that being trans doesn’t. Because it relies on clinical judgement and self report right? So what makes you think your OCD diagnosis is so believable?

I’ve never said autism doesn’t exist. Read my posts and quote where I’ve said that once - I haven’t. I absolutely believe in autism, but not in the numbers we see now. I believe a lot of SEMH conditions are being wrongly identified as autism.

Differentstarts · 12/04/2025 07:54

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:13

So in your view we should allow disability benefits to continue to rise indefinitely ‘just in case I need them one day’?

I mean wouldn’t it be prudent to want all services to have their fair share (but no more) in case we need them as well? Ambulance service, hospices, search and rescue, police?

It will level off the reason it was rising is because we've just had a pandemic and have a failing nhs. The same will happen in 100 years or whenever we next have a pandemic. Also the problem is the government and press aren't being clear with their figures. Sickness disability doesn't always mean pip it can mean ssp, lcw, lcwra, dla and pip but people automatically think pip. You can't leave people with no income just to die its immoral. Now if there was help for people to work part time when they can my views would be different but the government are going for an all or nothing approach to where if you lose pip you also lose the health element of uc which means expecting disabled people to suddenly be able to work a 40/50 hr week which just isn't realistic. If you read the descriptors for pip it's actually shocking. So if you can use a microwave that means you can cook a meal if you need someone else to wash your hair and the lower half of your body that is not enough points so you would need to be able to work 50 hours a week. Can you honestly not see what I'm saying and see what the government is doing to disabled people. There is already more people out of work then there are jobs available so how likely do you think employers are to hire disabled people knowing full well they will need adjustments, flexibility and a significant amount of time of work for appointments and flare ups etc. I currently work part time but I already use all my holidays on appointments so anything after that is unpaid. When I worked full time I actually worked less as it was to much and I got ill all the time and kept being hospitalised. So working a 50 hour week would be impossible so all that will happen is I won't be able to pay my bills so I will lose my house, end up on the street and lose my job completely. So what do you suggest people like me do just die

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:54

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:46

I’ve never said autism doesn’t exist. Read my posts and quote where I’ve said that once - I haven’t. I absolutely believe in autism, but not in the numbers we see now. I believe a lot of SEMH conditions are being wrongly identified as autism.

Ahh I see. Well that’s more reasonable. Now- if only - on the trans issue…

MistressoftheDarkSide · 12/04/2025 07:57

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:46

I’ve never said autism doesn’t exist. Read my posts and quote where I’ve said that once - I haven’t. I absolutely believe in autism, but not in the numbers we see now. I believe a lot of SEMH conditions are being wrongly identified as autism.

Well that's interesting considering medical research and advances are pointing at the idea that undiagnosed Autism is the root cause of behaviours routinely regarded as MH issues, particularly women. You know, the old "hysteria" and borderline personality disorder etc.

Brain research is still in its infancy in many ways, but if autism is the result of a highly nuanced organic / physiological variation in actual brains, that might well be the key to helping society function better in general.

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:58

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 07:36

Because this thread is also about DLA?

Four fifths though!! Come on, that’s a shocker.

The comment you made and subsequent response from me was nothing to do with DLA though.

You seem to just throw something else in whether relevant to the comment or not when you don’t know what to say.

Also the four-fifths thing for children, since you mention it again is quite clear that’s it’s not for ADHD alone (or even at all) which the previous comment re PIP had been about. It refers to the main condition being a LEARNING DIFFICULTY, BEHAVIOURAL DISORDER, or ADHD. It absolutely does not say ADHD (or two the of the others) alone, but merely as the main condition. But it’s not even just about ADHD, there will be many of those four fifths of DLA claimants who don’t even have ADHD

You are stretching so far here to prove that ADHD = PIP that even your irrelevant quote about DLA actually proves you to be incorrect.

I think you probably need to step away from this thread as your need to be correct is making you ignore the facts and it’s getting worse

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 08:06

Differentstarts · 12/04/2025 07:54

It will level off the reason it was rising is because we've just had a pandemic and have a failing nhs. The same will happen in 100 years or whenever we next have a pandemic. Also the problem is the government and press aren't being clear with their figures. Sickness disability doesn't always mean pip it can mean ssp, lcw, lcwra, dla and pip but people automatically think pip. You can't leave people with no income just to die its immoral. Now if there was help for people to work part time when they can my views would be different but the government are going for an all or nothing approach to where if you lose pip you also lose the health element of uc which means expecting disabled people to suddenly be able to work a 40/50 hr week which just isn't realistic. If you read the descriptors for pip it's actually shocking. So if you can use a microwave that means you can cook a meal if you need someone else to wash your hair and the lower half of your body that is not enough points so you would need to be able to work 50 hours a week. Can you honestly not see what I'm saying and see what the government is doing to disabled people. There is already more people out of work then there are jobs available so how likely do you think employers are to hire disabled people knowing full well they will need adjustments, flexibility and a significant amount of time of work for appointments and flare ups etc. I currently work part time but I already use all my holidays on appointments so anything after that is unpaid. When I worked full time I actually worked less as it was to much and I got ill all the time and kept being hospitalised. So working a 50 hour week would be impossible so all that will happen is I won't be able to pay my bills so I will lose my house, end up on the street and lose my job completely. So what do you suggest people like me do just die

The rise has been explored and there is no link between hospital waiting lists and Covid. As evidenced time and time again, the rise is mainly driven by MH conditions and primarily ND conditions. We can’t even afford for it to level off, it’s unaffordable now and there is no evidence it will do anything other than continue to rise.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 08:07

northerneast · 12/04/2025 07:58

The comment you made and subsequent response from me was nothing to do with DLA though.

You seem to just throw something else in whether relevant to the comment or not when you don’t know what to say.

Also the four-fifths thing for children, since you mention it again is quite clear that’s it’s not for ADHD alone (or even at all) which the previous comment re PIP had been about. It refers to the main condition being a LEARNING DIFFICULTY, BEHAVIOURAL DISORDER, or ADHD. It absolutely does not say ADHD (or two the of the others) alone, but merely as the main condition. But it’s not even just about ADHD, there will be many of those four fifths of DLA claimants who don’t even have ADHD

You are stretching so far here to prove that ADHD = PIP that even your irrelevant quote about DLA actually proves you to be incorrect.

I think you probably need to step away from this thread as your need to be correct is making you ignore the facts and it’s getting worse

But who on earth would’ve thought 80% of all disability benefits for kids would be for non-physical disabilities and behaviour issues? It’s madness and needs urgent investigation. If you really can’t see the problem with it then you’re being faux naive. No stretching needs to be done, the figures speak for themselves.

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 08:08

Golaz · 12/04/2025 07:54

Ahh I see. Well that’s more reasonable. Now- if only - on the trans issue…

I don’t believe people are born with pink/blue or NT/ND brains, sorry.

Differentstarts · 12/04/2025 08:10

Wildflowers99 · 12/04/2025 08:06

The rise has been explored and there is no link between hospital waiting lists and Covid. As evidenced time and time again, the rise is mainly driven by MH conditions and primarily ND conditions. We can’t even afford for it to level off, it’s unaffordable now and there is no evidence it will do anything other than continue to rise.

You don't think mh conditions got worse after lockdowns. You don't think millions of people have been left with long covid. You also haven't answered my question about what should I do if I lost my benefits just die

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