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Unintended Consequences

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ZigZagJigsaw · 07/04/2025 13:22

A colleague who voted for Brexit has just been informed she has no right to emigrate to the Netherlands with her family. The reason she wants to move there is because she says NL have a better healthcare system than the U.K. Her youngest child (teenager) is highly dependent on the NHS and apparently that would disqualify them, unless they agreed to not use the public health care system.

The above would apply even if the NL classed my colleague and her husband as highly skilled, which they don’t. British nationals are now classed as third country nationals so they have to relocate as highly skilled immigrants. No more free movement after Brexit.

She’s trying to be exactly the same kind of economic migrant to the NL that she voted to keep out of the U.K. And for some reason doesn’t seem to see the link.

I’m just nodding politely at work but I had to come and vent somewhere.

AIBU to think “you brought this on yourself”?

OP posts:
Brefugee · 08/04/2025 21:48

StartAnew · 08/04/2025 21:28

. There wasn’t enough information available. Was it made clear that voting Leave meant shorter holidays abroad? Not being able to easily move to another country? Losing some excellent tradespeople?
BTW I voted Remain.

to be fair - and i have long said that leave were way way too vague and should have been pressed on all the points.

But. Becoming non-EU country meant that the non-EU rules would be applied to travel etc. So if anyone had bothered to look, they could have seen what - worst-case, hard brexit - would have meant in terms of visas, length of stay, ownership of property, etc.

I could have lived with a soft-Brexit tbh. But. It is what it is.

StartAnew · 08/04/2025 21:49

BlueTitShark · 08/04/2025 21:34

I think that was pretty obvious for anyone who had an idea of what free movement meant.

No politician is ever telling voters exactly what the consequences of voting for them mean. You need to read between the lines (like when the Tory were first voted in, it was in the back of ‘benefit scroungers’ but somehow people on benefits didn’t think they would be affected).
You can’t just say ‘but it wasn’t clear’. It was as clear as it is for ANY vote

Not everyone can read between the lines. The referendum was a right mess.

Notsosure1 · 08/04/2025 21:50

TeenLifeMum · 07/04/2025 13:30

No idea if it’s still the case but a friend fought for an autism diagnosis for her ds. NHS said he didn’t have it so she went private. The third attempt got her the diagnosis for her dc. Then she tried to emigrate to Australia (because school disagreed with the diagnosis and refused 1-1 tuition so she wanted a better life for dc) and they wouldn’t allow it due to his diagnosis.

They discriminated bc of a disability??

Does the U.K. do this?

Brefugee · 08/04/2025 21:53

they didn't discriminate because of the disability as such. They discriminated on the basis that the family would immediately be taking out of the system without ever having paid in.

No country in the world would disagree with that.

Youbutterbelieve · 08/04/2025 22:02

Yanbu. My mum is aghast at the prospect of visas for Europe, that she can't use the EU queues at the airport etc. She seems to think it should be total freedom of movement for us but not for others.

TeenLifeMum · 08/04/2025 22:04

Notsosure1 · 08/04/2025 21:50

They discriminated bc of a disability??

Does the U.K. do this?

They want immigrants who bring value and won’t be a “burden on the state”. My uncle lives in Australia and has lived there for years but a number of years in was diagnosed with ME. He’s been able to access support to supplement his income which enabled him to work part time and manage his symptoms.

Youbutterbelieve · 08/04/2025 22:04

Notsosure1 · 08/04/2025 21:50

They discriminated bc of a disability??

Does the U.K. do this?

Yes, the UK does this. We try really hard to prevent "health tourism" and will refuse immigration to people unlikely to be able to pay in more than they take out. It's part of the screening process.

Nn9011 · 08/04/2025 22:08

It's a shame but she's in the Find Out stage of F around and Find Out!

TessTimoney · 08/04/2025 22:10

Plantmother71 · 07/04/2025 13:56

Completely agree. The amount of folk I know who voted for it and then afterwards whinged and moaned about the implications….. when I asked why they voted for it they all said they just wanted the government to see they wouldn’t bend to their will - but none of them actually wanted to leave Europe.

Flabbergasted!

I'm not flabbergasted in the least. I regularly listen to stupid people expounding their ill informed political views with no real concept of their outcome.
The Brexit eejits who voted without informing themselves of the consequences, deserve all they get. It's just a pity that the enlightened were dragged down with them!

SalfordQuays · 08/04/2025 22:12

Youbutterbelieve · 08/04/2025 22:04

Yes, the UK does this. We try really hard to prevent "health tourism" and will refuse immigration to people unlikely to be able to pay in more than they take out. It's part of the screening process.

Not in my experience. As a GP we have many new patients who have moved here from European countries and have multiple medical problems. Their first appointment consists of them asking for referral to several hospital specialists for their ongoing conditions. Just last week the elderly parents of a Slovakian patient moved here, and have had 6 outpatient referrals between them.

OP it seems unfair that your colleague can’t move to an EU country, when people from EU countries move here all the time.

Thoughtsonstuff · 08/04/2025 22:16

UniqueRedSquid · 08/04/2025 21:16

YABU for calling this thread “Unintended Consequences”.

Removing freedom of movement between the UK and the EU was a very publicised and intended consequence.

Mad, self-spiting, but definitely intended.

Free movement won't last within the EU for much longer anyway.

Clavinova · 08/04/2025 22:19

Fimofriend
Before Brexit there was a lack of teachers, doctors, and nurses. After Brexit, the UK has lost even more employees from those three groups

NHS England employs around 1.3 million full-time equivalent (FTE) staff, data from February 2024 shows, including 140,653 doctors and 353,969 nurses and health visitors.
That’s the highest number of FTE doctors, nurses and health visitors since comparable figures began in 2009.

MissAmbrosia · 08/04/2025 22:19

"Just last week the elderly parents of a Slovakian patient moved here, and have had 6 outpatient referrals between them.
OP it seems unfair that your colleague can’t move to an EU country, when people from EU countries move here all the time." If I go to the GP or the hospital in Belgium the first thing I am asked for is my ID card to show I am eligible for (free) treatment. The UK seems to have discovered no way of managing this. It doesn't mean that EU countries are wrong because they do. Treatment is not free, it is covered by my social security payments, annual fee to a mutuelle and hospitalisation etc cover paid by my employer.

Dogsbreath7 · 08/04/2025 22:20

Didimum · 07/04/2025 13:35

This is one of the many reasons why there never should have been a referendum put in the public's hands. Forgive me but the public are WAY too stupid (understandably) to grasp the complexities of and myriad long-ranging consequences of such a decision.

Not true. I understood fully that the UK is a country of limited resources getting poorer every day with no capacity to endlessly allow immigrants who can’t be net contributors. (think our population has grown by 10m in the last 10 years or so?).

I also understood that we would have passport controls and restrictions on time in Europe. I think political independence is more important than mine or anyone’s time showing a passport (which we always had to do because we were never part of Schengen).

I do admit that I did not expect such a shambolic implementation of Brexit and lack of hard negotiation. But again that was scuppered by anti/Brexiteers who didn’t respect the electorate and hampered any meaningful negotiations by their disgraceful behaviour and tactical voting in Parliament. Despite this sabotage they and every other remoaner likes to complain Brexit is a disaster. I don’t think it is, but if it is then it was caused by Remoaners not allowing effective hard balled negotiations with EU, an organisation of 26 countries who were more aligned than the UK and 650 MPs. It the MPs who shouldn’t be allowed to vote.

Look what Trump has done in little more than 100 days. Ursula said yesterday she wanted a tariff free trade deal with the US, but stuffed the UK a neighbour out of spite.

Didimum · 08/04/2025 22:27

Dogsbreath7 · 08/04/2025 22:20

Not true. I understood fully that the UK is a country of limited resources getting poorer every day with no capacity to endlessly allow immigrants who can’t be net contributors. (think our population has grown by 10m in the last 10 years or so?).

I also understood that we would have passport controls and restrictions on time in Europe. I think political independence is more important than mine or anyone’s time showing a passport (which we always had to do because we were never part of Schengen).

I do admit that I did not expect such a shambolic implementation of Brexit and lack of hard negotiation. But again that was scuppered by anti/Brexiteers who didn’t respect the electorate and hampered any meaningful negotiations by their disgraceful behaviour and tactical voting in Parliament. Despite this sabotage they and every other remoaner likes to complain Brexit is a disaster. I don’t think it is, but if it is then it was caused by Remoaners not allowing effective hard balled negotiations with EU, an organisation of 26 countries who were more aligned than the UK and 650 MPs. It the MPs who shouldn’t be allowed to vote.

Look what Trump has done in little more than 100 days. Ursula said yesterday she wanted a tariff free trade deal with the US, but stuffed the UK a neighbour out of spite.

You (as doesn’t any singular person) don’t represent the entire UK electorate in your opinion of immigration. The implementation of Brexit was applied as shambolically as its referendum. Whichever way you look at it, it’s failed.

TheyNotLikeUs · 08/04/2025 22:52

"Not everyone who voted for Brexit is a racist, but every racist voted for Brexit".

ButterCrackers · 08/04/2025 23:06

She tested the system and it rejected her just as she wanted it to. That’s what she voted for.

Clavinova · 08/04/2025 23:08

TheyNotLikeUs · 08/04/2025 22:52

"Not everyone who voted for Brexit is a racist, but every racist voted for Brexit".

Ah, that was one of the problems - all the lovely remain voters said they welcomed freedom of movement with Turkey. Poor strategy.

TheHateIsNotGood · 08/04/2025 23:13

As someone who voted to leave the EU I also would be amused by your colleague and would have to point out that her circumstance was indeed something that we voted for.

hardtocare · 08/04/2025 23:21

yanbu. The Brexit voters are always crosser about the realities of their actions

Isinglass20 · 08/04/2025 23:22

I’m wondering just how many people now have dual nationality having researched family history.

The numbers applying to the Italian consulate for example are so large it is virtually impossible to get an interview to complete the application.

Be an interesting question to add to the next census.

Blinky21 · 08/04/2025 23:42

I'm not knowingly friends with anyone who voted Brexit. If that was my colleague I'd take great pleasure in reminding her she voted for it

JenniferBooth · 08/04/2025 23:46

SpringerSprockerCocker · 07/04/2025 14:25

Well that's what Boris told them.

He got bitten by an ostrich at a safari park

anon666 · 08/04/2025 23:47

It's all too depressing for words.

Honestly, populism is such an old, well-trodden route. You'd think we'd have learned our lesson. But no. And Reform UK are still alive and well. 🙄

Mayana1 · 09/04/2025 03:03

TeenLifeMum · 07/04/2025 13:30

No idea if it’s still the case but a friend fought for an autism diagnosis for her ds. NHS said he didn’t have it so she went private. The third attempt got her the diagnosis for her dc. Then she tried to emigrate to Australia (because school disagreed with the diagnosis and refused 1-1 tuition so she wanted a better life for dc) and they wouldn’t allow it due to his diagnosis.

Can you tell me please who would not allow her? The UK government? The Australian government?