To think hygiene is important during intimate moments?

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Is it unreasonable to ask your partner to wash their hands before being intimate, especially if it involves touching sensitive areas? I feel like this is just basic hygiene but I’ve heard others say it kills the mood or is unnecessary. What are your thoughts on this? Is it something you bring up or do you just assume it’s handled without mentioning it?

Why stop at gloves. Whole body protection is available for him and her.

With my ex I always wanted to shower before he went walkabout down under, he preferred that I didn't...so I didn't 🤷‍♀️

One step at at time in our house, so rubber gloves, then wellingtons. We'll see how things are after that.
I suspect there could be a lot of squeaking with those outfits that you wear and, to be honest, I am not overly fond of the smell of burning rubber.

Powerhose in the back garden

😂😂

Reading about some of the (hopefully ex!) partners on this thread now I really would advise a powerhose, OMG.

🤢

OMG what a buzzkill!

This reminds me of one of the 'Naked Gun' movies where they are wearing full body sized condoms 🤣

I don’t think it is… you’ve been lucky if you’ve never experienced going down on a bloke and well, the smell/taste of pee. Because if they haven’t showered or washed, they’ve been peeing all day and not washing
Sex without oral and no shower then fine!

There’s nothing 🤢 about a man liking the way women naturally taste and smell. It’s basic biology for straight men to like it and in my experience the vast majority of men would rather that than someone who tastes of tap water or soap. If you shower in the morning, you shouldn’t smell unpleasant down there by evening.

I shower every morning but I’ve never in my life had a partner who wanted me to shower immediately before any kind of sex, and I’d think they were being a prissy little wimp if they did. Each to their own, but that kind of ‘Eww, genitals, yuck, bodies are dirty and gross’ attitude is just a colossal turn-off for me.

As a woman personally I don’t enjoy the smell of a sweaty vagina.

Most women I’ve been with have been the same. I’ve had men love sweaty sex but it’s not my cup of tea.

Some men and women don’t have a strong odour, but I still prefer sex showered.

Agree with you

@Missedthis I assumed it was an intended pun! 😆

That's disgusting! I don't like giving BJs, can't stand the feel of it in my mouth.

BTW, I keep myself clean and there's no need for me to shower before sex. No one's complained...

The vagina is not the problem. The piss and shit residue is 🤢 unless you wash with soap and water after each bladder and bowel event.

If you don’t want to put your face between a woman’s legs unless she’s douched with Dettol, that’s up to you. But I have never, literally never, met a man who worries about this.

Whatever your personal preferences are, that is absolutely fine. You do you. But I’ll stick with a spontaneous stress-free sex life, thanks.

PS There’s more ‘piss and shit residue’ on your toothbrush, towels and taps than the average vulva.

Very well said

Depends how much they wash. I'm sure there's some mingers out there, male and female. No ones suggesting they need to use Dettol but at least use some soap, there's no excuse.

Nobody's saying you shouldn't wash ever! (although obviously you shouldn't actually use soap 'up there') Just asking people to do it prior to a shag, to some, seems a bit OTT.

Nobody is suggesting people shouldn't wash. Simply that if you do wash every day, you probably don't need to wash again immediately before sex. It's sex, not surgery.

For the love of god, though, don't put actual soap in/round your vagina. That's a recipe for thrush/UTIs.

Didn't occur to me for years, but once it did, it became a rule in my head - I don't want unwashed, ungloved hands touching my vulva because that's an avoidable infection risk. And a partner who didn't care about that or was unwilling to modify their practice to accommodate my decisions for my body isn't somebody I want to do sexual stuff with.

It is said that, ’Napoleon Bonaparte once wrote to his wife Joséphine, while he was campaigning: 'Please don't wash, will arrive in three days’

I must add that they would not be my thoughts on the matter.

One of my icks to this day.
I used to ask stbxh if he had brushed his teeth, used deodorant..(washing hands wasn’t one of them) as a slightly bad breath breathing heavily on you in moments of passion is unpleasant, as is strong BO, neither of which he understood. Understand I didn’t ask just because we were about to rumpy pumpy, just occasionally when I could detect an aroma.
I never had a problem or thought about hands though. Depends on his job I guess

Bovril, you heathen
Don't we all have a sleepy tea?