To think he was on another date?

[hannahhm]

I’m not that bothered but I’ve been recently dipping my toe back into OLD and I’m wondering if my instincts are correct?

Been on 3 dates with a man- all been very nice, easy to talk to, lots of laughs and he’s asked immediately after each date if I’d like to go out again.

We don’t really text much in the day due to both of our jobs but he would text every evening and we’d have a bit of a conversation over voice notes and sometimes in the morning.

We went out this week and he asked to see me again, texting as normal and said we’d arrange to meet next week.

On Friday he was texting a lot in the day which was unusual but I was having a quiet day at work and was able to response- general chat and other nice stuff, saying our date was romantic etc. my responses all positive too.

But then in the evening he was completely silent, he had asked me a question and I responded but I didn’t hear from him until Saturday afternoon. Then a random text about the gym from him and none of the usual chat.

My gut is that he was on another date on Friday, and that he probably liked that person better hence the shift in energy/change in texts?

I know people will date multiple people at the same time, I guess I’m just wondering if gut feeling is usually right?

It’s not games. I think she should be done with him. Cut him dead and never message him again. Posting new photos makes it clear she’s done with him without the need to speak to him ever again.

And he did message her, but it wasn’t in the same vein as he had been messaging her. He’s about to ghost her. OLD ghosters follow an identical path. They all behave in exactly the same way. I don’t think she should give him the chance.

Oh, but op, some men are full of shit and would say anything to get what they want (even if they may not know at that stage what it is that they’ll want from you).
A guy I met on OLD used to tell me how he loved my profile because it showed I was down to earth, with my photos in nature etc. He told me how he hated and avoided profiles showing women dressed in fancy dresses, all made up, holding expensive cocktails in their hands etc. When we broke up he told me how he was in no rush to go back to OLD, not his style, he needed to reset etc…
The exact same guy went on another date 3 days after we broke up.
He also matched wirh a friend of mine on OLD, was super keen on her and invited her to dinner after a few short messages. In her profile photo my friend was wearing a fancy little dress and a nice cocktail in her hand!

Assuming things progressed with someone else, a decent guy would either say ‘’hey, I met someone else whom I have a stronger connection with so i think it’s best we stop here’’ or would show both women the same courtesy and interest until he feels he knows enough to make a decision between the two.

What he is doing is lazy and stupid. Whether or not he met someone is irrelevant, he isn’t showing you sufficient interest (especially considering how he started) so this could never go anywhere.

I personally don’t mind slow starts. But I do mind it when guys start hot and then cool off very suddenly. Begin as you mean to carry on!

When they go silent that's how you know there's someone else involved