Would this bother you? Am I being an Uber protective drama Queen?

[Yaea]

Edited to say the title should be ‘over protective’ not uber!

We have a just turned two year old. I have an extremely small car which is used infrequently as I don’t need it for work. DP’s car is the ‘family car.’ It’s now very old and in the last few weeks it’s had countless problems. One time it had a light come on and we had to call out the AA as it said stop driving. The advice was not to drive it and take it to garage immediately. This issue was then fixed and now the car is back on the road having done almost 100,000 miles and is 14 years old.

We have a few trips booked coming up and DP keeps saying he will change the car and it doesn’t happen. This is not a financial issue, the money is there to get a car straight away. He obviously wants to consider which one etc and he takes forever to make a decision.

We have a trip in Devon coming up and I am reluctant to use the car as it’s a 400 mile drive each way. We can’t use mine as it’s tiny, no room for luggage.

DP says I’m being totally unreasonable expecting him to sort the car within 3 weeks (when we are due to go) and says it’s a waste to get a hire car and that his car will likely be fine. I feel like we are putting dd in danger. Am I being over the top?

jesus wept you can buy a car

I don’t think you’ll be putting dd in danger-but I do think the journey will be much more stressful than it needs to be! He can easily sort a new car in 3 weeks if he doesn’t want, for example, a specific colour. Or hire one unless it’s not possible financially.

It isn’t broken

Travel light in your car. Buy a roof rack if needs be.
Or go in his and take a power bank and plenty of water and snacks just in case.

You shouldn’t rush buying a new car. It’s a big investment and rushing it can be an expensive and dangerous mistake that you have to suck up long term. You have two working cars already. His has just been fixed. The mileage isn’t crazy either.

Honestly if you’re really worried just travel light in your car. Kids really don’t need that much stuff. I used to take two toddlers on the train with all our stuff for a week. You don’t need a cot bed or a million costume changes.

I think it’s easy when you feel worried as a mum - this is a danger - to focus in on things eg the mileage. IMO rushing your husband to purchase would be a mistake as people and best doing things in their own timeframe. (Also my friend bought a car recently that was a disaster - but had been pleased at how quickly they bought it.) You may find if you insist on taking your car that he finds the motivation to sort it anyway.

100k is just run in as my mechanic DP would say 😂

You're being a bit dramatic

YANBU his procrastinating would drive me crazy.

We drove from the North of Japan to the South (1800km) in a rusty car with 200k miles on it. It was good as gold and we sold it for £50 at the end. Just have it serviced first.

My own DH can be like this but fortunately I don’t wait around for him, I tend to just get on with things. I can’t remember the last time I took him with me to buy a car, must be about 23 or so years ago. A penis isn’t necessary for a car purchase, just money or finance of some sort.

@Yaea i get mine serviced inbetween mots and before very long trips if I’m worried about the car.

get the garage to check it over, top stuff up etc.

100k is not game over. Had several cars way beyond that.

You’re being ridiculous, the car is fixed. Any car no matter what age and miles can have problems or break down at any time .

You got a 'check engine' light and needed your oil topped up, and now you're convinced that you need to buy a new car? The problem isn't the car, it's your anxiety.

You'd be more likely to have a problem with driving an unfamiliar hire car than using the perfectly fine one you are already used to.

Agree but there is a fine line between sorting it yourself and not waiting for lazy/slow DH and having to do everything yourself because of lazy/slow DH.
OPs DH is capable of buying a car but he hasn’t prioritised it and now everyone is feeling the consequences.