Leaving 15 week old

[Zoobabies]

We go away every year with a couple of close friends for the weekend however this year I have a 15 week old baby which I will be leaving for the first time overnight with grandparents.

The friends wanted to set off early morning and I requested that we leave two hours later to give me time to sort LG and do handover to grandparents. The room could not be checked till 3 pm and we will be there well before that even leaving at my time.

They refused and stated that they wanted to make a day of it drinking, and if we wanted to leave later to do the three hour drive ourselves and meet them there bearing in mind we have driven the last two years running, am I being unreasonable to be upset and hurt that they think more of an extra couple of hours drinking than us as friends and our LG?

If they had wanted to leave late evening to accommodate their children, even if I didn’t like it, I still would have agreed because their kids mean the world to me and there needs to come first.

I think it's unreasonable to leave a 15 week old baby alone so you can go boozing. Your friends want a piss up, it's not their child. Why can't you go by yourself

They are being unreasonable for wanting to get there so they can drink.
Are they alkys?
I'd find some different friends to go away with or just go together

They want to enjoy their holiday, why does it have to be delayed

Can't they enjoy their holiday without drinking.....🙄

They can do whatever they want to holiday?

They want to enjoy their drinking by going on holiday?

Weird comments about friends being alcoholics. They want a few drinks on their weekend away. No big deal.

I think yabu. It would make much more sense for you to travel alone anyway. As others have saud if you need to get back urgently fir the baby.

First time I left mine overnight with gc I had to go back urgently and unexpectedly. He was 2.5 not a newborn. Yiu have no idea what might happen. You're a parent now. Your baby is your priority not your friends.

Nobody said I was boozing…..and neither is the child going to be alone!

I never said anything about alcoholics…..?

Of course, my child is my priority not my friends that’s clearly what the post stated.

Also, not leaving your child till 2.5 - you need to get out more!

Yep bad mother!!

With people like you commenting on posts, there’s no wonder there is so much self hate around women, calling someone a bad mother and saying it’s inappropriate to leave a child when you have no clue about their life!

Luckily, I’m a grown woman who realises I can have a baby and still be an actual person myself and will take no notice of your nonsense putdowns. My daughter is very privileged, loved and cared for, will have a fantastic future and we also have a great support network around us.

Let’s hope the next person you comment something like that too isn’t a mother struggling with postnatal depression that maybe needs a break or a very young mum struggling that takes it to heart and does something stupid!

I hope your child grows up to learn that if you have nothing nice to say don’t say it at all. 🙄

I think that is somewhat hypocritical when you judge others for prioritising their DC for a very short period of time. Maybe practice what you preach with having nothing nice to say. Most wouldn't pass judgement but it is out of the ordinary to leave such a small child, especially when your biggest concern is your mates going without you rather than a backup plan to return to your newborn in an emergency.

Or maybe you and your partner need to stay in more?

Why is it unacceptable for people to criticise you and your partner for leaving your 15 week old baby, but perfectly okay for you to criticise someone else for not leaving her child until they're 2?

I did not criticise, I made a simple comment back, I said they need to get out more.
To not to leave/be without the child for nearly 3 years, what happens to the child when you suddenly have to start leaving for hours a day when it goes to school, etc

However, that said I did not personally attack this person or call her a bad mother or call her parenting inappropriate which is uncalled for in any circumstances, that is what we teach children is bullying- but apparently you all think it is acceptable because its on an internet post.

Only on MN and perhaps Western culture is it considered some dereliction of duty to be briefly separated from your child . Baby is not an infant and will be with loving family . Many people wouldn't even think twice about it . Guilt shaming mothers is alive and well.

Tell them that then. We've worked around you for the past two years and now you need to work around us.

I said I didn't leave my child OVERNIGHT till he was 2.5.

Not leave him at all . During the day. Nursery . With family .

READ the post properly before you comment

And the difference between day and night leaving?

Again, aggression in the comment……

Well i didn't leave him at 15 weeks day or night.

It’s only a 3 hour drive? Just drive at the time that suits you. Dh and I drove 3.5 hours to a party yesterday and then drove home that evening… I wouldn’t want to do that regularly but as a one off it’s not a big deal.

We're all different

Oh do calm Down dear. You'll give yourself a coronary 🤔🤣

Well worth if it puts nasty pieces of work like you in their place. Go get a hobby.

Then I feel sad for you that you don’t have anybody you can trust enough or feel confident in leaving a nearly 4 month old baby with.