To ask how you deal with hot and cold friends?

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How do you handle friends who are inconsistent with communication? The ones who are warm and engaged one moment, then suddenly distant and unresponsive for no clear reason?

I have a friend like this - when he’s present he’s great but then he just goes quiet for stretches of time with no explanation. No argument or anything, just that he seems to disappear and resurface when it suits him. It leaves me feeling confused and unsure where I stand.

Is this just how some people are or is it a sign that they don’t really value the friendship? Have you had friends like this, and if so, how did you deal with it?

Could be anything going on in their life. Maybe it’s just the way they are. I have couple of friends like this, when we do meet up it’s amazing, and they are lovely and caring if I ever needed them. If they do keep in touch then it’s a good thing.

People have busy lives, I think it's pretty normal to be like this as an adult. Usually people have work, family and a number if friends to catch up with.