Nothing for Mother's Day

[Rina1971]

My 18 year old daughter excelled herself today. She stayed out to 4am, got up at 8am shouted Happy Mother's Day and that was it. I feel devastated and hurt. She knew when Mother's Day was, we reminded her and she confirmed to DP she had it sorted. Now she is acting all wounded as though me wanting some acknowledgement is a major inconvenience to her.

Do the same on her birthday

I hope my mum isn't expecting anything. I am not on board with all these silly 'days' and it is really unfair to push expectations to buy shite every other month for the next hallmark sponsored day onto your kids

That is being discussed along with a reminder about how to be an adult

My 14 year old said Happy Mother’s Day. My 20 year old hasn’t even done that. And that’s my lot. I gave up caring about it years ago though, I’m a single parent so never had anything for Mother’s Day.

I agree I don't want hallmark or tat. Making a cake or lunch would have been nice. Instead I have been on-call for hangover remedies. It would just be nice to be acknowledged

Love Mumsnet. First post nailed it as usual. Hope your day improves OP. Gin this evening.

Mothering Sunday has been a thing since long before hallmark existed

Sadly not transporting daughter to 5am swim training. Just part of the job !

Not a word here. A card and a £3 bunch of tulips would have been nice. Happy Mother’s Day @Rina1971 and everyone.

Same old shit here too, my son remembered but then forgot and left the card at his dad's house 1.5 hours drive away. I guess I have to forgive him. He's spent most of the day having lunch with his step-mum, whilst i'm the one who does all of the work and stress for the other 364 days of the year. He's come home and is now studying in the office so I guess mother's day is kinda cancelled. Wish mother's day didn't exist, then there wouldn't be the disappointment. Reading some of the threads on here about how partners and husbands didn't do anything is equally depressing. I'm pleased to be single, then I wouldn't have the double disappointment.

Tell her straight, don't be a doormat.

You feel special occasions are silly? How interesting. Are you a Puritan from the 1600s maybe? I recently learned that they didn't celebrate Christmas or birthdays either....

Regardless of where you beliefs derive from, surely you accept it's fair enough that the vast majority of people, whatever their culture, DO celebrate some forms of special occasion (though which exact ones varies globally, of course).

So it's not beyond the realms of credibility that OP might be among this vast majority of people?

'Devastated'?

Really?

I tell my DC I don’t want anything for Mother’s Day.

I don’t understand the drama around it.

I would much rather be appreciated year round, rather than have something because society says you should.

There’s way too much pressure on having a perfect Mother’s Day (hence all of the Mother’s Day disappointment threads).

Grow up. If she treats you like this all the time there may be a problem however one Sunday in 52 don’t overthink it.

Hand hold here, OP 🌺

Whilst potentially not "devastating", it still must be upsetting to receive nothing but a "Happy Mother's Day" shouted down the stairs. It doesn't take much to acknowledge how much the average mum does in the form of a card, or at a stretch some flowers (with the presumption that you're a cracking mum, as most are).

I'm surprised at other's comments and would label them as a little insensitive. Sadly, it's becoming more apparent that society increasingly cower to today's young people and expect the bare minimum from them, frequently letting them off the hook and allowing them to adopt a disregard for others feelings.

Sorry OP. Happy Mother's Day - she cares deep down I promise.

Why havnt you ever bought anything for yourself from them?

I'm a single mum and every year me and my DC ( 8 & 10 ) go shopping and get some bits I like, socks, chocolates ect, nothing major but they love doing it. DD can't wait until she can go by herself with her own money

If she’s old enough to get this pissed she is for sure old enough and capable to take care of her own hangover? In the meantime take yourself out on a nice walk, get some coffee or whatever makes you happy

Why bother?

There’s no point being sad about it if you don’t say anything to your kids. For those who have been let down, now is the time to tell them.

Mothering Sunday is about honouring mother churches, not mothers.

Yes, this!!

My twins, now 26 forgot also. It doesn't matter I'm mam every day. They're not at home.
The real reason for Mothers day, was.to visit your mother church. Guess Hallmark traded in.
Sorry you feel sad, but they have 365 days to show your there Mam
Let it go, it's not important Just another "card" holiday

I simply can't understand it.. if my 19 year old ASD Grandson ( who goes to local Uni part time and works at McDonald's part time) can go to the shops and buy his mum a card and flowers and chocolates and me a card and fluffy socks and hand cream...then surely your kids at a certain age can do the same .
I've had my daughters visit with cards and presents ( not spent a lot) .. buy they are so thoughtful and I'm blessed we are a close and caring family.
I even rang my neice to see how she was.. being first Mother's day without her Mum( my sister).. a little time and effort.. to be brought up with a kind and caring attitude is all it takes.