Mini eggs for Mother's Day.

[ChicMiss]

I get a bag from my child. Who then asks to share them. No. Absolutely no. AIBU for a bit more thought? I don't like that I'm expected to share, they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff.

Wow I’ve received chocolates from my children and guess what we share them! What a mean mummy you sound

I share every gift with my kids...which has meant my lovely tub of rituals body cream my sister hot me is now used nightly by my 11 year old daughter

Mums are generally rarely allowed things for themselves, surely if any day they can have something for themselves, that day is today?

Sorry OP, if this is real you sound awful.

For a start, shes not concerned about the quality of the gift, just that she can't eat all the sweet, sweet mini eggs herself.

Secondly, why do you think the partner got the gift? Maybe the child picked it out herself.

Is a bag of mini eggs really something she can't have to herself any time she wants it by, you know, just buying one?

This bag is a gift. Why isn't she allowed to have a gift, that is hers, to herself?

Of course she's "allowed". But it's just a packet of mini-eggs. Most people's instincts would be to share it with their kids because it's fun.

Absolutely. My kids know that when you give a gift to someone, you don't ask them to share it with you. You give the gift and allow the gift receiver to decide if they want to open it and share it, or not. Of course, this afternoon I did open my box of Mother's Day chocolates, and displaying good manners, I offered them to the kids and DH too. We all ate them together.

How else do children learn good manners if you don't help them learn while at home? This is part of my role as a parent. When we give or receive gifts it allows us the opportunity to model good manners as well as gently teach our children how to behave.

1. It's a gift from a six year old
2. Why would she want to have it all to herself if anyone, let alone her six year old daughter, is in the vicinity when she can get another one any time she likes for £1.50?

It isn't just a packet of mini eggs though, is it? It's a gift that OP can't even have to herself without being called ''cold'' or ''mean'' on Mothers Day of all days.

A 6 year old is old enough to start understanding that when you give a gift to someone, it is theirs.

It's important for children to understand that mothers are allowed to have things to themselves, especially when it is a gift.

It is just a packet of mini eggs. As such, can you please answer why you think anyone in their right mind would think "I want this all to myself, it's mine, mine,mine!" rather than "Oh, some mini eggs." and trying to make the six year old feel good about getting someone a present that seems exciting to them, although is absolutely nothing to any adult.

And that warrants telling them they shouldn't ask, but should wait until things are offered, as pretty much everyone agrees. Not refusing and running off to stuff your face with the whole bag.
Or do you think nobody should ever offer to share gifts? Is that only gifts? if I buy something myself, should I never offer it around? It's just as much mine.

I love chocolate and don’t like to share, but I would. I’d probably end up buying more though!

You can act incredibly excited, thank them, make them feel good etc whilst also still teaching them, especially at 6, that it isn't good manners to ask for some of the gift because it won't always be a packet of mini eggs and they won't always be 6.

Yes, you teach them it isn't good manners to ask.

Then you teach them it is good manners to offer.

Why is this hard?

Offering to share is fine but there's also nothing wrong with not wanting to share gifts.

Oh come on, what mother wouldn’t gladly share her mini eggs!

There's absolutely something wrong with anyone who doesn't want to share a bag of mini eggs in the presence of other people, whether it is a gift or not. Something seriously wrong.

Because I've noticed that it is usually mothers that are expected to share their gifts.

If the same is expected for all family members when they get gifts too, fair enough.

Is there something wrong with them if they wait to be alone to eat them? Or is it just if they start eating them in front of others?

I'll be eating my mothers day chocolate tonight after bedtime.

Of course it is expected of everyone, ffs.

I've seen plenty of times when it isn't. Especially on here.

There's something wrong with anyone who will deliberately wait until they are alone so they don't have to share a bag of mini eggs, yes. If they are so desperate for mini eggs, again, just buy some.

However that's their problem. If you don't open it, people shouldn't expect it to be offered to them, so the question of rudeness is sidestepped.