Would this annoy your husband?

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So dh was off today. He woke up and prepped his incredible chilli. Genuinely famous in our family. I tasted it in the afternoon and it was mind blowing. When it came around to serving it had an awful uncooked cinnamon flavour. I like cinnamon but not when it’s the dominant flavour. I don’t really like sweet mains either. I never eat anything sweet annd sour annd hate dried fruit in a savoury dish. All the kids still liked it. Dh said too much had come out the bottle. I told dh if he didn’t mind I would not have any as it really was not to my taste now. And I would make some beans on toast.

i am on a diet and for me the calories in the sour cream, cheese, guacamole, rice etc just wasn’t justifiable with the cinnamon after taste which was really unpleasant to me.

Anyway, dh was just a little bit huffy and I called him out for it. Apparently I was being childish and picky.

Who is in the wrong?

He’s allowed to feel disappointed.

I don't think you were unreasonable not to eat it, if it wasn't to your taste, plus the fact that you're trying to lose weight, to me it would seem like a complete waste of calories, and I would rather spend them on something I would enjoy.

He was the one who made a mistake with the chilli, so shouldn't complain, when you didn't like it. If the lid had come off the salt and loads poured in by accident, would he still have expected you to eat it? Ridiculous!

He can feel meh but you shouldn’t be obligated to eat it.

Sounds like he needs to relax his chilli ego 😂

I can see why he had his feelings hurt; he had put a lot of effort into it. Maybe there could’ve been a gentler way to explain appreciation but that you’d not have many calories left?

I don’t think I’ve ever heard of cinnamon being used as a chilli ingredient. I don’t think you are being completely unreasonable. As an aside have you tried cauliflower rice instead of standard rice to keep your cals down? It’s better than it sounds if it’s properly cooked!

You are not unreasonable to not want to eat it and he's not unreasonable to feel about miffed about that.

I find it hard to believe that beans on toast would have been more appetising than the chilli, even if just a small amount, with the sides. So I can see why he would have been disappointed and I think it was a bit of an overreaction tbh.

For me it 100% was. It’s like getting a whiff of marmite in every bite as a non lover. I had no problem consuming the calories when I knew I would enjoy it.

Not justifiable when I’m forcing it down.

Dear me. I seem to be in the minority here, but I think your DH was the one being childish and not you! You weren’t rude to him and if you didn’t like the taste then you didn’t like the taste. What was the alternative? Eat it just to massage his ego? Truly weird.

You’re both being reasonable. Sure he’s disappointed but you don’t want to waste calories.
If too much cinnamon came out he’d have been better ladling it out quickly rather than stirring it in.

I’m with your husband on this. A little insensitive on your part, think you could have made an effort to eat a meal he has put effort into making, give and take and all that.

Cauliflower rice is just sadness on a plate.

I get you OP. It has to be worth the calories but he's allowed to be disappointed. Neither of you are wrong.

Are you a family that cooks different meals for the kids if they don't like what's for dinner? If you are then you weren't unreasonable.
If you all eat the same thing for tea, then yes you can feel disappointed it wasn't up to scratch, but you should have eaten it.

All eat the same

She tried it and didn't like it, why should she eat it?

I wouldn't be able to eat anything sweet, I hate sweet flavours in savoury food. I would also have made myself something else.

I really don't get why people including the OP's DH, should eat something she didn't like, and wouldn't enjoy. I certainly wouldn't!

Nobody should have to force themselves to eat anything they don’t like. I include children in this!

None of you were unreasonable !

There are plenty of times my DP cooks something questionable and I will eat it. Hell, I’ll even tell a white lie and say it’s lovely. It’s just something I’ll do to acknowledge his effort and because making him feel good, ultimately makes me happy.

I would have eaten it.

My husband would have said "absolutely fair enough darling". And that would have been the end of it.

I think you've hurt his feelings, honestly unless it was rank id have eaten it. Now you've made it "a thing" when you didn't need to.

It wasn’t far off rank for my taste

Why? She’s a grown adult!

Well I’m glad there’s at least one other person on this thread that makes me feel less insane.