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NEIGHBOUR CROSSED THE BOUNDARY BEFORE EXCHANGE

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MummyToBeAgain1 · 26/03/2025 09:29

Hi

I need some advice please.

We're buying a semi detached property and due to exchange and complete in a week or 2.

Over the weekend we drove past the property to find a fence being built between our garden and the property on the right. I suspected they had come in to our garden at a glance so drove past again yesterday.

The fence had fully been up and clearly it crossed in to our garden (to be). I've attached a quick drawing which shows what I mean. The red line is the fence the neighbour has put up.

Just for some context this is a auction property as the owner has died and the children wanted a quick sale. This means that we have a deadline for completition which makes things more stressful.

What do we do now?

Tia

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NEIGHBOUR CROSSED THE BOUNDARY BEFORE EXCHANGE
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AppleDumplingWithCustard · 28/03/2025 18:24

JustMeHello · 28/03/2025 12:29

Aww, I just remembered the thread where someone's neighbour stole their woodland. I can't remember how it was resolved, but that involved some cheeky fuckers taking advantage.

I remember this one. Sadly, in the midst of it all the poster lost their baby. It was either a stillbirth or a neonatal death, can’t remember which. I guess the land grab faded into insignificance at the time.

JustMeHello · 28/03/2025 18:38

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 28/03/2025 18:24

I remember this one. Sadly, in the midst of it all the poster lost their baby. It was either a stillbirth or a neonatal death, can’t remember which. I guess the land grab faded into insignificance at the time.

Oh how awful! I didn't know that. How sad.

tensmum1964 · 28/03/2025 19:01

Commenting so that I see the updates. I find these type of legal situations very interesting and informative. Good luck, I hope you get it sorted.

Waymarked7 · 28/03/2025 19:07

I know you love the house but we had terrible neighbours in our last house. Low level issues but it made our lives miserable and I hated being at home. Things like them watching us all the time over the fence, removing things from the boundary, coming into our garden whilst we were out, shouting over the fence, blocking our drive etc. Nothing you can prosecute but they were just horrible bored lonely old people.
We moved to get away from it. Now we have lovely neighbours and it feels so much nicer to be at home. Don't underestimate how this behaviour can affect you.

beenwhereyouare · 28/03/2025 22:54

pencilcaseandcabbage · 28/03/2025 15:40

Only the poster can see reactions. They are invisible to all other users.

Thank you! I didn't realize that.

Never mind.

Fraaances · 29/03/2025 00:36

I was going to say something similar to above… Do you REALLY want to live next to people like this? I have had terrible neighbours and the emotional toll was excessive. Your home should be a haven, not a cage that keeps you trapped to someone else’s bad behaviour.

Bitofanchange · 29/03/2025 06:14

Fraaances · 29/03/2025 00:36

I was going to say something similar to above… Do you REALLY want to live next to people like this? I have had terrible neighbours and the emotional toll was excessive. Your home should be a haven, not a cage that keeps you trapped to someone else’s bad behaviour.

I would agree, my experienced it myself thankfully, but my DSis did, it was awful.

Anonforthis58 · 29/03/2025 12:06

tensmum1964 · 28/03/2025 19:01

Commenting so that I see the updates. I find these type of legal situations very interesting and informative. Good luck, I hope you get it sorted.

You know you can just watch the thread and bookmark? 😊

tensmum1964 · 29/03/2025 12:54

Anonforthis58 · 29/03/2025 12:06

You know you can just watch the thread and bookmark? 😊

I've tried that before but it never seems to work.

1dontunderstand · 29/03/2025 13:11

What cf!!

PoppyTries · 29/03/2025 14:24

stitchy · 28/03/2025 11:33

My disabled MIL had a heart attack and was taken into hospital by ambulance as her carers realised what was happening (the neighbours saw the ambulance) and she sadly died a few days later. We went into her house a couple of days after she died and the neighbours whose garden backed onto hers had seized the opportunity to have the fence replaced and put the bill through my MILs door as according to them 'she had agreed to pay for it entirely just before becoming ill'.

My dh went to his Mum's every day and had looked after her finances for years and knew it was bullshit. Filled with rage and grief he went round and offered to pull the fence out with his bare hands there and then. It's amazing how some people will capitalise on another's death, self serving bastards.

This is disgusting & I hope karma bites those neighbours forever. I hope the next time they buy a house, THEY have a CF neighbour who steals their land and causes problems.

After my father died, several of my mum’s neighbours tried to take advantage of her, thinking she was a sweet old lady who didn’t know anything. It was disgraceful the way that so many people who had known my parents for many years used my father’s sudden & unexpected death as an opportunity to scam an elderly lady. Unfortunately for them, my mum is secretly very sharp and has numerous children who would bury bodies for her, if needed.

Mum came home from a long visit to my younger sister’s and found that the fence at the end of the garden had been moved several feet into her property, destroying many mature plants. My older sister is a solicitor who has a very public reputation for being a shark. Upon receiving my sister’s letter, the neighbour immediately agreed to replace the fence with a much taller one at the correct boundary (as my sister told him disgustedly “we don’t even want to have to SEE you”), replaced the plants & paid for a year of professionals to care for all of it.

The fellow next door suddenly started hosting wild parties that spilled into her garden each weekend. The next weekend, he was met by my enormous brother and his fellow (also enormous) military professionals who very politely explained to the neighbour that his wild parties were messy & disturbing the peace. Everyone went home very early and he hasn’t had one since.

Another neighbour kept going over to the house to claim that my dad had promised him tools, fishing equipment, bits and bobs. These were blatant lies because my dad never liked this neighbour and his death was so sudden that he wouldn’t have thought about putting his affairs in order for the little things. My mum kept putting him off and got to a point where she wouldn’t answer the door when she saw him coming. They live in a small (gossipy) village, so I made sure to confront him in a crowded place and read him the riot act about trying to take advantage of my poor sweet newly-widowed mum. I did also mention the land-grab neighbour and the party neighbour and ranted that I was disgusted about how the men in this village immediately thought to scam an old lady. It was the talk of the village, mum has kept her pristine “sweet old lady” reputation, and, because the church ladies got involved and were watching everyone like a hawk, no one has bothered her since.

Abra1t · 29/03/2025 21:19

Once the church ladies are involved, you know you’re in trouble if you’re a shark @PoppyTries .

WearyAuldWumman · 29/03/2025 21:23

Well done @PoppyTries and family.

MinnieGirl · 30/03/2025 13:33

I think the CF’s reaction will tell you a lot. To be honest, as others have already said, I would be very concerned about moving next door to people like them. It’s not a simple mistake, they have knocked a wall down and stolen items from the garden! I would seriously be thinking of withdrawing from this house purchase.

TheHerboriste · 30/03/2025 14:04

MinnieGirl · 30/03/2025 13:33

I think the CF’s reaction will tell you a lot. To be honest, as others have already said, I would be very concerned about moving next door to people like them. It’s not a simple mistake, they have knocked a wall down and stolen items from the garden! I would seriously be thinking of withdrawing from this house purchase.

i wouldn’t. The OP loves the house.

I put up with shitty, trespassing, loud neighbours for several years. Guess who won? They moved and I’m still here.

Publishing their obnoxious antics, swearing, trespassing and their dogs shitting in my front garden to their church FB page was quite effective. They had heretofore been seen as the ideal family involved in many church / school activities.

Web cameras and social media are your friend, OP. It helps to have a sister who’s a solicitor, too.

Just1outof8billion · 01/04/2025 12:27

Shamelessly waiting for an update ☺️

Anonforthis58 · 01/04/2025 14:14

MinnieGirl · 30/03/2025 13:33

I think the CF’s reaction will tell you a lot. To be honest, as others have already said, I would be very concerned about moving next door to people like them. It’s not a simple mistake, they have knocked a wall down and stolen items from the garden! I would seriously be thinking of withdrawing from this house purchase.

OP can’t just withdraw from the purchase - it’s an auction property which has very different rules to a regular house purchase.

WiddlinDiddlin · 01/04/2025 15:32

I'd be gobsmacked if the OP cannot withdraw from the purchase given that what she 'bought' is now not what is actually there.

Her contract is to buy X, but what actually exists is now Y!

MinnieGirl · 01/04/2025 16:38

WiddlinDiddlin · 01/04/2025 15:32

I'd be gobsmacked if the OP cannot withdraw from the purchase given that what she 'bought' is now not what is actually there.

Her contract is to buy X, but what actually exists is now Y!

That’s what I thought.

MummyToBeAgain1 · 01/04/2025 20:55

Just1outof8billion · 01/04/2025 12:27

Shamelessly waiting for an update ☺️

Honestly, I've been checking my emails - glaring at my phone all day long. I sent the email to my solicitor with as much detail as you can imagine. I've since called and the receptionist said my sols looking in to it and will update me as soon as poss.

My solicitors fantastic - I know this because I've used her in the past so I've got full faith in her. Smile

On another note - a deadline has been set for completition - about 6 weeks from now which I think is more than enough time to sort this situation out.

OP posts:
MinnieGirl · 02/04/2025 09:38

MummyToBeAgain1 · 01/04/2025 20:55

Honestly, I've been checking my emails - glaring at my phone all day long. I sent the email to my solicitor with as much detail as you can imagine. I've since called and the receptionist said my sols looking in to it and will update me as soon as poss.

My solicitors fantastic - I know this because I've used her in the past so I've got full faith in her. Smile

On another note - a deadline has been set for completition - about 6 weeks from now which I think is more than enough time to sort this situation out.

Who set the deadline?
I would be resisting that as even if the CF neighbours admit what they’ve done, it needs to be made good before you complete. If they don’t admit it and want to right then it could take a very long time.

MummyToBeAgain1 · 02/04/2025 10:14

MinnieGirl · 02/04/2025 09:38

Who set the deadline?
I would be resisting that as even if the CF neighbours admit what they’ve done, it needs to be made good before you complete. If they don’t admit it and want to right then it could take a very long time.

The auction company set the deadline.

It took the CF neighbour 1/2 days to create this mess so hopefully he sorts it out as quick. Otherwise, the seller will need to request an extension to the deadline till they manage to sort it.

OP posts:
MummyToBeAgain1 · 02/04/2025 11:56

RideMeSidewaysWasAnother1 · 28/03/2025 13:29

I wish every client was as considerate and patient as you ❤

Whilst I'm sat here waiting to see how we proceed as per my solicitors guidance, may I ask you a question.

I'm under the impression you work within this field, would you know what happens next in my scenario?

Is it as simple as my solicitor sends an email to the sellers solicitor to fix the issue. The sellers solicitor then contacts the seller and they decide between them whether the seller will approach the neighbour or the solicitor will send a letter to them?

Any info would be helpful, the 'not knowing what to expect' is the hardest part.

OP posts:
MinnieGirl · 02/04/2025 12:03

MummyToBeAgain1 · 02/04/2025 10:14

The auction company set the deadline.

It took the CF neighbour 1/2 days to create this mess so hopefully he sorts it out as quick. Otherwise, the seller will need to request an extension to the deadline till they manage to sort it.

Fingers crossed…

Hopefully once the sellers solicitor gets into the CF’s things will move quickly.
They probably think they’ve got away with it…

GabriellaMontez · 02/04/2025 12:19

Do your sellers even know about this yet?

Because if they don't, I'd want to make sure they knew.