22 year old daughter cant stick a job

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Can anyone help currently at our wits end with our 22 year old daughter just never seems to stick at anything. She went to Uni for a year then decided it wasn't for her which fair enough it isn't for anyone. Since then she hasn't worked and when she does get a job she either gets finished or quits saying its not for her. Me and her Dad have always worked our socks off we had her at 18 bought a house and have always managed to pay for a roof over our heads. It really frustrates us as I just want her to have some work ethic I've even offered to get her a job where I work. I am a cook in a kitchen and there are always various hours going. All I get is its not what she wants to do. She's making odd bits of money singing online but it's not a,regular income and we have never given her money whilst she's out of work. It's just the sense of entitlement that infuriates me and causes constant arguments with is all. Any advise as currently at our wits end 😔

I second that, that is a great idea.

It sounds very tough, but also v common, 1 in 8 apparently. Know lots in this position. Kicking her out seems unrealistic. Sorry no solution! Hopefully she will find something and stick to it

I agree that she needs to be made to take accountability for her own life, and that she should be in education, work or both. She does sound like she needs help though and, whilst I appreciate that is frustrating, I think I would offer to organise an appointment or two with a career coach or careers guidance counsellor. Careers guidance in schools, colleges and universities is poor and lots of young people struggle to get going in their early twenties.

If she doesn’t drive, I may think about supporting her with this and possibly use it as a carrot in return to get her working.

I would also help her look at whether she could go back to uni but change courses to one she feels is suitable, with an aim for a specific job afterwards. If she has no vocation she needs to be motivated by money and just pick a path and stick to it.

An ADHD assessment would also be useful as it may open up strategies she can use to manage adult life.