Being laughed at on the School Run

[ChoccyBiscuits123]

Okay so I'm going to start by saying I'm not usually bothered by people's behaviour - I'm very much a live and let live person....however...there are two women on the school run that I am just perplexed by.

So for example this morning..I had just dropped my daughter off at school and I'm minding my own business walking home. These two other mums come from around the corner and immediately start laughing directly at me in my face...! They then stifled their giggles and walked past. This is not the first time this has happened.
Once they started singing a Kylie Minogue song at me from the other side of the road laughing and twirling around. All a bit much for me in the morning!!

We're all pretty relaxed dressers on the school run..they wear tracksuits and tie their hair up and I tend to wear leggings and a navy joules coat with miminal make up (mascara and perhaps a red lip if I have the energy) so it's not like I'm going to school in Kylie hot pants or full make up or other crazy clothing.

I'm perplexed as to why they've targeted me as I don't know them at all. It's got to the point where it is upsetting me. Someone laughing in my face or stifling giggles as I walk past is hurtful and it's starting to feel like bullying. Am I being too sensitive? Is my make up or dress sense so awful they cant help but laugh? I am so confused! Esp as they don't seem to do it to anyone else.

I want to ignore it and just put it down to them being muppets but I am struggling now.

I can't confront them as they will probably just see it as hilarious and as they've never actually said anything directly to me they could accuse me of being paranoid.

Any help or advice much appreciated. No nasty comment please.

How cruel. Sometimes these school mum mean girls are intellectually and emotionally stunted at the 14yr old school bully stage. It’s possibly where they were most successful in life.

Hard to ignore but do try. They are idiots and don’t deserve your headspace. And don’t change anything about you - this is a them problem.

big hug xx

How do you know they were singing a Kylie Minogue song to you?

They sound like very immature young women, I wouldn't give them another thought

They sound absolutely horrible. I think the best thing to do is ignore them, stick on headphones/earbuds and play some music and just keep walking.

Or if you wanted, you could get your phone out and film them as they laugh and see what they say, or phone someone and as they approach, say here’s these two fools again.

But I suppose ignoring them is the best thing to do.

They sound rude, spiteful and immature. However, I doubt that confronting them will stop their behaviour and may make it worse. Just keep ignoring them if you can.

Not sue you want people to say tbh if you wont ask them.

Maybe they have confused you with someone else?

Maybe quote a KM song when you walk past them each time - "I should be so lucky - eh?!", "Better the devil you know, I say!" or "Anyone up for the locomotion?" Actually that last one may make them think you are offering something you aren't...

They will either think you are a nutter and avoid, or say something to you 😁

Honestly, ignore them!! They sound like a couple of total bellends. Don’t change anything, don’t alter your routine, do your normal thing, and accept that the world is full of dickheads. You’ve found two of them. They are twats, you are not 💅.

How pathetic and weird.

Which Kylie song?

Do you know them at all? They sound flipping weird. Are you sure it's directed at you?

How bizarre, are you sure it's aimed at you and they're not just being silly together and you happen to be walking past?

I couldn’t not say anything I’d ask them what the problem is but since you won’t I would walk a different way or leave earlier/later to avoid. But personally I would confront them.

How very weird, do you know them at all? Might they have heard something about you from someone else (true or not)?

They sound like knobs either way, so best ignored. If they are bullying you they want a reaction. Unfortunately when my son started school I discovered some women haven't changed much since their school bully days, and there's not much you can do about it except avoid and hope your child doesn't make friends with theirs.

I've always found the best thing to do is smile and say morning/lovely weather/other suitable polite greeting like you haven't noticed what they are doing. Really pisses people off.

Smile and say “best get into school for your first lesson, don’t want to be late, your parents won’t be happy”.

They sound like absolute bell ends.

You don't want to confront them so don't.

In this case I would wear a large smile every morning and have a bounce in my step, don't make eye contact just ignore them as though they simply don't exist or come in to your line of view. Make them seem absolutely insignificant to your day. Wear your headset and look like you are way too busy and happy to even notice them You will need to act for this I am afraid as their behaviour is hurting you. You will find that doing the school run in this way actually makes you feel better.

For what it's worth they sound jelous of you

Mean girls who have still not and probably will never leave the School play ground. I bet they had fellow Kids an absolutely bad of nerves and petrified to go to school and now they've got fellow Adults a bag of nerves. I know it's easy for me to say but just try and let it go over your head. I promise you op, they're the dick heads making an cunt out of themselves not you. They're the ones to be laughed at stupid cows. (Sorry to all cows for that insult) Grown Women still acting like Teenagers

I’d ask what the fuck they were laughing at.

I used to have school mums scowl at me because I’d be at school at 8:30 with a fresh blow dry, make up and nice clothes. They would be in last weeks tracksuit/leggings with an unwashed look about them. I had to be at work for 9am! Something they would never understand.

Rise above it. If Jeremy Kyle was still on they’d only be going home to watch that.

Thanks everyone. This morning's lovely encounter I know was directed at me as they weren't laughing as they rounded the corner and then when they saw me they started laughing and trying to stifle giggles as they walked past...charming.

I'm feeling better about it now, but at the time it felt so cruel and unnecessary. Especially as I'd had a bad weekend!

The Kylie thing was just plain odd...they were singing it and looking at me from across the road. Tbh they could've just been having a laugh and looking at me for an audience? Maybe my stony faced/perplexed expression is something they still laugh at? God knows!

Thank you for your responses. They ARE bell ends and I will try my best to just ignore them. I don't want to confront them as it'll start a dialogue and I'd rather never speak to them!

DD is in Year 4 so only a couple more school years and I'll hopefully never see them again!
It'd be so nice if everyone was just friendly and not utter berks but that's just not reality unfortunately 😂

The Kylie song was Spinning Around btw for those wondering

Hide of rhino needed for school gate bitches at times ime. When we moved it was about 2 years before anyone in the clique village spoke. I didn't live there thank goodness but ds went to school there.. Still does.. They warmed in time but by then I had no fucks to give. Pleasant hellos are all I give out. I wouldn't care but ds is literally the most popular kid in school!! No play dates here... Urgh... ... I think it's because I am an older dm. Way too old for that shit...

I’d probably say oh god it always stinks when those two walk past 😂

Is there another way you can walk? I have to say I felt nothing but relief when my child left primary school. I still see some of the school mums around the town now, still pumping out babies with no dad, pushing prams and having zero pride in their appearance. They are nobody to be fretted about I can tell you that.

A red lip is in no way casual
but that’s irrelevant to them laughing at you. they sound horrible.
you could just say oh what’s funny? Or you could try and kill them with kindness, just keep chatting and being polite and make them feel awkward. unfortunately it sounds like this is the entertainment for their clearly quite meaningless day. It’s incredibly cringe of them. Maybe you could just show your embarrassment for them with your facial expressions? I’m sorry you have to deal with that bullying though op, we hope once we leave school it’s over!

They sound really childish and bitchy. They definitely didn't progress past age 14 as someone said.
It's probably something like one of them said you look like Kylie. Best ignored and don't give them the satisfaction of rising to it. They'll probably get bored and move on to mocking someone else.

There is a woman in my area whose kids were at school with mine. She had a reputation for being, let's call it difficult, and I ended up having a run-in with her. She used to glare at me every time she saw me, or, if she was with someone then she'd do the muttering/giggling stuff.
I used to just give her my biggest smile and pointedly say good morning to her. It confused the hell out of her.
I still see her around sometimes, and still do it.

There has to be something about you that makes them jealous and regress to the playground. Are you very pretty OP? That'll be it, if so.

Film them on your phone - or pretend to.

They sound pathetically childish.