Being laughed at on the School Run

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Okay so I'm going to start by saying I'm not usually bothered by people's behaviour - I'm very much a live and let live person....however...there are two women on the school run that I am just perplexed by.

So for example this morning..I had just dropped my daughter off at school and I'm minding my own business walking home. These two other mums come from around the corner and immediately start laughing directly at me in my face...! They then stifled their giggles and walked past. This is not the first time this has happened.
Once they started singing a Kylie Minogue song at me from the other side of the road laughing and twirling around. All a bit much for me in the morning!!

We're all pretty relaxed dressers on the school run..they wear tracksuits and tie their hair up and I tend to wear leggings and a navy joules coat with miminal make up (mascara and perhaps a red lip if I have the energy) so it's not like I'm going to school in Kylie hot pants or full make up or other crazy clothing.

I'm perplexed as to why they've targeted me as I don't know them at all. It's got to the point where it is upsetting me. Someone laughing in my face or stifling giggles as I walk past is hurtful and it's starting to feel like bullying. Am I being too sensitive? Is my make up or dress sense so awful they cant help but laugh? I am so confused! Esp as they don't seem to do it to anyone else.

I want to ignore it and just put it down to them being muppets but I am struggling now.

I can't confront them as they will probably just see it as hilarious and as they've never actually said anything directly to me they could accuse me of being paranoid.

Any help or advice much appreciated. No nasty comment please.

They’ll only upset you if you allow them to - they are mean girls and not worth the bother. Perhaps they think you look like Kylie - I’d put up with the chortles if I looked like Kylie especially in gold hot pants!

Horrible bitches, the worst thing is they are role modelling their bullying behaviour to their children, what hope do they have

They are childish, and are jealous of you.

I’ve had it from a woman, who made it clear she didn’t like me, for no reason I could think of, apart from my face.

One summer I met her alone as we crossed in through the school gate. She actually stood still, looked me up and down and laughed.

I was stunned.

I was wearing some khaki M&S cropped loose linen trousers, and a black t shirt I think, it was really hot.

Nothing ill fitting, and fairly non descript, not really worthy of any positive or negative comment, but cool on a really hot day

Who does this except someone with serious psychological problems? I’ve always thought it was her problem, and not mine.

I want to say F them they're DHs. But they sound unhinged to me.

I'd be a little wary of them too.

Can you do the school run with other mums?

YA definitely NBU. They are cretins.

Yes Completely Concur With You & Exactly What I Mentioned Too
Huge Compliment Most Surely 🤗

They've turned you into a running joke for some reason. You don't know them and they certainly don't know you, so it's not the real you they are insulting, more some cardboard cutout who only exists in their minds. Ignore them.

The mummy mafia are out in full force I see… I have come to the conclusion that they genuinely have nothing better to do with themselves, if you know in your heart that you have nothing to worry about, don’t let them get to you! I know that it is easier said than done, it took me a while, but once you get that mindset, you might start singing the chorus for them! Hope you are okay! Your stronger than you think ❤️

I think at that level I'd just ignore it, simply because they haven't said anything directly to you.
Imagine having a go at them for singing a song, laughing and looking at you funny and it turned out to be unrelated! You would be labelled a weird narcissist forever more!

I have this at my son's school with one mother. Her child isn't even in my child's class! Like 3 years below! But for some reason she's targeted me. I ignore her. She stares at me, will move closer to me to knock shoulders with me as I'm coming in or out the gate, she's even gone as far as purposely walking out in front of my car when I'm driving to or from the school! I park further away from the school to avoid her walking out in front of my car now. Thank God my son is finishing year 6 in July!

They sound rough as a badgers ar**. I reckon because you’re small and blonde with red lipstick, one of them will have childishly called you Kylie at some point and now they think it’s hilarious. Ignore them. They’re bullies. They’re probably nowhere near as attractive or slim as you and are jealous. My personal difficulty would be to try not say anything. If it continued I would have to ask them ‘is there a problem?’

This really isn’t a police matter.

Yes they sound like jealous scruff bags. How nasty and ugly in character of someone to act like this on adulthood

I haven't read the whole thread but I really wish the press would pick up on this thread then these stupid bi tches will get to know what others think of them. Assuming they are intelligent enough to read that is!

I’m so sorry this is happening to you too, it’s so weird isn’t it. I just don’t get it at all. Only a few months left and you can escape this psycho. Xxx

Oh OP that sounds horrible.
I hate confrontation and would have ignored too but I would be tempted now to say, "Excuse me?" and if they ask what, ask if they are laughing at you.
If they have a good explanation, apologise and say you wish you were as merry as they; if they are laughing at you, it will (hopefully) stop them as it will shock them that you have challenged or you will at least find out what they find so funny.
Just to add, I felt bullied by a clique of Mum's at my DD Primary school, it undermined my confidence eventually and I couldn't wait for her to leave, now I wish I had addressed.
Good luck whatever you decide and hold your head high x

I’d ask then if they’re high?

They sound unhinged. A big smile and cheery hello without dropping your stride, would be my advice. Then forget them and carry on as normal.

I agree. They're jealous.

So, Tweedle dee and Tweedle dum have made an appearance on your school run? Seriously, look up the pictures of dee and dum and then, next time you see them, fix that image in your mind. Think of them as that duo of true idiots and if anything, you'll start laughing.

I agree. They do sound really silly. Or are they drunk. Just ignore.

I really wouldn't do this as I feel it would stoke the fire, in the same way that shoving an oxygen canister onto one might.

I wouldn't try to engage with or understand them at all, but dead pan filming of their behaviour might sober them up. If they opted to keep it going then I would simply take my cache of films to the police and argue that they were harassing me.

I'm sure this lovely Mum is right to trust her own intuition & instincts
She's the one living through these other mums regularly mocking her
She should know, what is going on & I think it's quite thoughtless to suggest these mums mockery is unrelated, & this innocent Mum, would be presumed to be narcissistic!
The Mum Whom opened up, was so distressed, she opened up to a bunch of strangers, (which can take immense courage) something is obviously going on at the school gate, towards her & she does not come across narcissistic in any way, shape or form-People should always trust their own instincts

Well, I'm glad it's never happened to you but people get the wrong end of the stick all the time!

For example I regularly walk my toy breed dogs and often have to cross the street to avoid others because one of mine is dog aggressive.
I can't tell you how many times this has resulted in eye rolls, tutts, and comments regarding me being a stereotypical hysterical owner all because big dog owners are so caught up in perceived injustices towards their dog they can't understand that my behaviour might have nothing to do with their bully or rottie or alsatian....I just don't want my dog to go for theirs!

That's why I say be sure the insult is def there before you say anything. Especially important if its people you will see regularly.

Yes it can be so that sometimes folk may get the wrong end of the stick
However, everything this Mum's took her time to describe, it's pretty obvious that the mockery is,,, aimed at her & at best it's unfair to try & imply this is one of them occasions, at worst, when others try to imply something you instinctively sense is aimed at your own self, it can be a form of gaslighting
When individuals are being bullied, whether indirectly or directly, the victim of the bullying, is usually spot on correct with their instincts
If you have never been a victim of underhanded, indirect bullying, maybe this might be more difficult to comprehend & empathise with - However, it's unnecessary to suggest this innocent Mum would be labelled weird Forevermore - Much more compassionate open-mindedness is essential, to encourage innocent folks, like this lovely, endearing, obviously very attractive Mum, to open up & seek the support they deserve

Do you know what?

I don't think any of it was aimed at you.

I think they're no different to teenagers who think they're being utterly hilarious and assume that others around them will think them slightly outrageous when everyone is just mentally rolling their eyes.

They just imagine themselves to be a bit kooky.