My boyfriend gets mad when we don’t have sex

[BeTicklishOtter]

my boyfriend has been saying that all I do is sit in my phone and never speak to him or spend time with him. I work 40 hours a week - the only time I really go on my phone is when I finally get into bed & he as well is just on his phone

so last night we decided to watch a movie together, 2 in fact because I never make time.

movie finished and he tries to have sex, I told him no that I’m tired & I couldn’t be bothered.

he then proceeds to call me a fat bitch that he doesn’t love me anymore that I’m boring and he will go and find someone better to watch this then took him self to sleep down stairs after shouting up that im horrible and he’s leaving me.

we literally had sex 2 days ago - we have sex like 2-3 times a week but all he ever does is say we don’t even have sex when we clearly do.

Please leave this man now.

Dump him.

What other response do you expect?

Surely your radar tells you this is 100% unacceptable and no decent man does this?

Are you living together or just sleeping over at his house or yours?

Leave him. He sounds dangerous.

This is not about your boyfriend.

It is about why you feel you are not worth better than this man who treats you with open contempt. I suggest you leave him and work on placing value on yourself and how you expect others to treat you.

Dump him before he destroys you. He isn't the man for you.

Ditch him - he is awful

Please leave this man. He sounds vile and clearly has no respect for you. How dare he call you a fat bitch. You will be happier without him.

He sounds horrible OP

I also suggest you consider therapy because the fact you even need to ask about this shows you have low self-worth and don't understand boundaries or what a close loving relationship looks like.

Do you have a habit of choosing violent or abusive men?

What on earth are you doing with this monster? Your self esteem must be awful if you think this is love.

Bin him, he's gross.

This isn't a one off. It will only get worse. How could anyone who loves you treat you that way? Please don't waste any more of your time on him.

Hi is a disgrace. Get rid of him without delay.

This is abuse, plain and simple. Please leave him, you can do better.

Leave. Don’t worry about him there’s plenty a mumsnetter be grateful 🙏 for him

He calls you a boring fat bitch and your AIBU is whether you should be having more sex with him?

Come on, OP, do you really need a bunch of internet strangers to tell you he’s an utter wanker and that you should bin him off immediately?

Surely you mean ex boyfriend?

Is that how you envisaged your life?

You'd be better off leaving now before the emotional cost becomes too high

To make it easier and safer for you tell him you agree with everything he said and you can't possibly expect him to stay with you a moment longer.. End things today.. Hopefully you don't live together..

Well, he told you he doesn't love you any more and he's leaving, so problem solved, really. Just make sure he goes. Do you live together?

If someone called me a fat bitch and that they didn't love me and could find somebody better, I'd show him where the door is. Why on earth would you want to have sex with someone like that anyway?

Ooh, it's a difficult one OP, stay and be abused verbally and eventually physically until you are a shell of a human....or split up.

Seriously, if you even need to ask the question perhaps you do need a bit of help making the first steps. Professional help is out there if you need it.

Accept his offer to find someone else. He's vile.

Out of interest, does he work?

Please leave him, this won’t get better, he won’t change and his behaviour is totally unacceptable