My boyfriend gets mad when we don’t have sex

[BeTicklishOtter]

my boyfriend has been saying that all I do is sit in my phone and never speak to him or spend time with him. I work 40 hours a week - the only time I really go on my phone is when I finally get into bed & he as well is just on his phone

so last night we decided to watch a movie together, 2 in fact because I never make time.

movie finished and he tries to have sex, I told him no that I’m tired & I couldn’t be bothered.

he then proceeds to call me a fat bitch that he doesn’t love me anymore that I’m boring and he will go and find someone better to watch this then took him self to sleep down stairs after shouting up that im horrible and he’s leaving me.

we literally had sex 2 days ago - we have sex like 2-3 times a week but all he ever does is say we don’t even have sex when we clearly do.

Awful man. Please leave him. You deserve so much better.

I hope you helped him pack his bags as he said he is leaving. Do you get that he wants you to beg him to stay and also have sex when you don't want to just to stop him name calling and insulting you? His threats to leave are empty threats otherwise he would be gone.

You deserve so much better than this. This boy is awful, he is immature and abusive. What is your living situation? Owned house or rented? Make moves to end this relationship and let him have his temper tantrum, but you need to see that this is not a healthy relationship.

Also consider why you think this is how relationships are? Because the healthy ones are not like this. They are kind, caring, supportive and devoid of abuse.

Why are you with this knob. You deserve more. Tell him to sling his hook.

Bloody hell. He is nasty and his logic is bizarre because calling you fat, boring and unloved is hardly going to inspire you to want sex with him.

Ugh. Get rid

That were my thoughts exactly: as soon as he uttered the words " you are a fat bitch" I would never have wanted, or felt comfortable having, sex with him again.

He didn't even have to tell you he didn't love you because if he did love you he wouldn't be calling you a fat bitch and trying to coerce you into having sex with him.

The relationship is over OP. You deserve much much better than a " man" like this

YABU not to leave the prick immediately. Come on OP he is a monster!

@BeTicklishOtter why is he not your ex????

@BeTicklishOtter whose house or flat is it? kids??? what age are you both?

Leave. It’s abuse.

( But also get off your phone cos that is bloody annoying …)

Speaking to a partner like that is not normal. It’s verbal abuse and you shouldn’t stand for it.

Tell him to go fuck himself.

Run fast. Run far.

Leave him.

Do you live together @BeTicklishOtter?

What has gone wrong in your childhood that makes you think it’s acceptable to stay with a man that is abusing you like this?

And yes, calling you names is abuse.

For whatever reason your self esteem is rock bottom and that’s why he is with you. A confident women would have ended this relationship the first time it happened.

I dread to think the damage done to the children if you were to get pregnant.

He sounds horrible. Get rid and raise your bar!

Why would you waste your time on this piece of garbage??

Obviously, tell him good riddance, don’t let the door hit you on the way out.

He’s abusive, and you shouldn’t put up with him - or anyone, ever - behaving that way towards you.

I would have got up and started packing for him. He would be gone by today if it was me.

I'm a bloke, and I can assure you that if I tried that sort of crap with my wife, I would EXPECT to be turfed out. He's a boorish, self-centred pig. You need to get shot of him ASAP. The fact that you are even questioning this shows that he has already destroyed your self-esteem. You deserve so much better than this.

I echo the thoughts of all the previous posters. Your post actually made me tearful. How dare he speak to you like this and how in the name of God does he think that calling you horrible names is going to make you want to have sex with him? Is he thick as well as a downright nasty piece of work? Please get away from him before he completely erodes your self-esteem. Any boyfriend worth his salt should be treating you like a queen and respecting you and your wishes. I really really hope you can see that he is no good for you (or anyone!) and if he carries on like this, he doesn't have a hope in hell of any woman wanting to get into bed with him, ever again. What a pig.

He’s a cunt. Leave him

Get rid. Right away. There is no excuse for what he said and it will only get worse. Much worse.

he then proceeds to call me a fat bitch that he doesn’t love me anymore that I’m boring and he will go and find someone better to watch this then took him self to sleep down stairs after shouting up that im horrible and he’s leaving me.

Single woman here is this ^^ normal? I would be out of there so fast if a man spoke to me like this.

You are worth so much more than this op.

This man is an arsehole, please leave him.