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My ex is a cunt. If I write to his solicitor will it cost him?

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1664Ex · 23/03/2025 16:24

The consent order says he has to cover half of uniform and associated education costs when agreed in advance. So he won’t agree anything in advance.

He wrote, via his solicitor that he would cover a single big uniform bill - she said she had told him to do it because it was the “right thing” but that he doesn’t technically have to pay. And so he didn’t pay. But she charged him for the letter.

So, currently he is ignoring everything. Even if I ask in advance. Just total no contact - the last time he was in contact it was to tell me that he would contact the police as my emails which are no more than every 2 months or so, and are entirely related to the kids, is harassment!😂

So if I write to his solicitor, will she charge him? Or can he just tell her to shred it and carry on ignoring?

[ Background info is he is a hugely well paid director of a public company. He pays at CMS rates and not a penny more. He won’t see the kids apart from on school holidays unless I drive them, or find a cab. They are all disabled, full EHCP and all senior school age. ]

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1664Ex · 12/04/2025 17:49

Update: he suddenly coughed up - so something worked.

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Mindymomo · 12/04/2025 17:55

Great update, let’s hope he continues paying.

BillyBoe46 · 12/04/2025 18:08

1664Ex · 12/04/2025 17:49

Update: he suddenly coughed up - so something worked.

That's great news.

1664Ex · 16/07/2025 17:06

Well there’s more!

So I received a letter from my local police force (different county to his) wanting me to come down to the nick to be interviewed regarding the ex’s accusation of harassment!

I suspect this actually goes back AGES but has taken this long to meander between police forces. More recently things have been civil so he really has nothing to gain by stirring this all up again.

I’ve agreed to speak to them voluntarily but have also asked for free legal representation and for an outline of exactly what he’s accusing me of.

Im bemused that someone’s ex wife requesting them to pay for new school shoes may, in my ex’s fucking loony head, be harassment because it upset him! What a waste of police time!

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Robin67 · 16/07/2025 18:08

Sorry you are having to put up with this crap. I hope the police view it in a sensible way and it goes nowhere.

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