Social worker is writing false reports

[ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom]

Hi so basically my social worker is writing false reports
as far as I’m aware the social workers have to write reports on what they’ve seen and not what they have heard is this correct?
so my social worker has written that I never have food in nor do I ever have gas and electric, I’ve met her 3 times and not once has she been in my house without me having any of that, I have all my receipts from food shopping every fortnight, and I also have my utilities app which shows me making regular payments and my gas and electric is never off
also my son had an operation end of January of this year on his left testicle as he had a cyst, we thought it was a twisted testicle, he had a minor operation and 2 weeks off school and he has been right as rain, as soon as he started comparing of pain I took him up to the hospital and within 2 hours of him complaining of pain he’s all ready gone down for his op in her report she’s wrote ‘Oscar’s operation was more then likely due to neglect’ how can she give a medical opinion she’s a social worker???! also how would my child having a cyst on his left testicle be because of neglect?! This is a common thing for young boys
so for that basis my kids have been placed on child protection I’ve tried to show her my receipts and my gas and electric app but she’s not having none of it can someone give me advice? Also she is siding with my kids dad who has never been in regular contact he doesn’t see his daughter only his son, has issues with drugs, and is abusive to his gf and her children, he also disappears for weeks/months at a time and constantly lets his kids down AIBU and if not what do I even do? I’m scared to complain incase she escalates things

Quick Google search - social workers are not always what they seem:
https://www.google.com/search?q=social+worker+convicted

I believe social workers should have body cams on so that there is no discrepancy when it comes to what was and wasn’t said.

Most of my colleagues would happily wear a body cam - it would be much safer for them than going into some homes without, and there would be a clear record of the level of care some parents think is acceptable, not to mention a record of the level of aggression they face on a daily basis.

You need to write an unemotional factual email to the head of the service and follow their complaints procedure. You need to escalate this immediately

there are lots of great social workers/teacher/police/nurses but sadly there are also some dodgy social workers/teachers/police/nurses who take advantage of their authority

Huh? It is the social workers who lead the children away after removal, but ignoring that, my comment was about the effect of a social worker turning up and what goes through a frightened parents head. But pretend you can't understand that if it makes you feel better. Go off.

Social workers can only remove children once a legal order has been granted, they can’t just turn up a take them away. They don’t ultimately make the decision to remove a child.

i have written an email to her manager and have all ready received a reply which to my reply sounds understanding and decent. Can’t believe that I’m actually being listened too

I'm glad that you've received a response from the manager. Social workers and their managers are human too... And believe it or not, their goal is to get the children off a plan, and not need any statutory intervention.

I know it's frustrating about having different people visit, but it's not realistic to only ever meet one worker, they will have annual leave, sickness etc. You wouldn't expect to only ever see the same health care professional. Hopefully you can get to know a couple from the same team so that you feel a bit more assured.

Changing social workers on request is rare, partly because they're not your social worker, they're the child's, and starting with a new worker usually means things take longer (they have to build a relationship again with the child and take time to pick things up) They wouldn't change the worker unless they felt the child really needed that. Obviously there are changes if social workers change jobs but we know that doesn't help and hence try and avoid unnecessary changes.

Raising concerns about this SW may build up evidence of a pattern of behaviour which other service users are experiencing.

In other words, you may not be the only one experiencing this behaviour.

I hope it works out okay.

I hope they are listening now. My friend had a horrible experience with a social worker after reaching out for support like we're constantly told to do if struggling. The social worker wanted to bring her violent ex back into the children's lives amongst other ridiculous things and accused her of all sorts. She did end up doing an official complaint and they did give her a new social worker, things have been better but they're still making her jump through all sorts of hoops and generally making the situation harder for her. There's no way in hell I'd ever reach out for support now. We both have SN need kids and the kids needs where why she reached out, she got zero help and they made her life harder. I know there are a lot of great SW out there but some of them are truly horrible human beings.

OP I have been an advocate for a familiy on CP.
In the time I have been this lady's advocate she has been on CP twice, and has had about 4 different social workers. Most have been fair and professional.
One particular SW was not. She took small things and blew them up into something they weren't and she over emphasised things that skewed the situation. She also did not recognise the changes that had slowly been put in place over the time I had known her. The lady I was an advocate for was getting upset (and she was likely to just shout which isn't helpful).
I was able to challenge for her and point out the things that the SW was ignoring and refer back to the positive reports (the school reports were very positive about the improvements she was making for example).

It definitely felt that she needed an advocate in that meeting, and that that particular SW was determined to push for more serious action. It was quite scary actually, how much power she had, when she hardly knew the lady, and some of the others in the room (me, school, HV) had known her for several years.
I advise that you get someone to come with you. Do you know anyone who has a professional background who could help you?

Also, contact the consultant who did your son's operation.
Tell him that a SW has stated it was the result of negligence, and ask him to confirm that 1. it wasn't due to negligence and 2. that your brought him in for treatment as soon as he was ill.

@RageQuit that was really kind of you

I'm glad you're being listened to. I agree with others that SW are human, and can be influenced to believe a narrative as easily as the rest of us (maybe less easily once experienced, but ultimately it can be easy to be taken in).

I hope that your complaint is upheld and social services look in to the errors in the report. If they stop investigating, keep asking for the evidence to their statements. if they don't have evidence, the statements should say, "the child's father reports that..." or similar.

Please don't take this as a reason to end the CiN support if it is stepped down, because it does sound as if this is helpful to you and your children.