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To think Adolescence was a little overblown with sketchy acting?

222 replies

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 14:34

I was interested in it and “enjoyed it”

but I thought it was a bit overblown and some of the acting…. Well, a bit shit really.

i feel like the only person on the planet to think this!

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Bellaboot · 22/03/2025 17:18

BruisedNeckMeat · 22/03/2025 15:05

I’ve never known a tv programme be promoted so relentlessly.

Totally agree!

Pigeonqueen · 22/03/2025 17:18

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 16:33

Oh this made me smile

if you don’t like it, you must somehow be inferior to me because I enjoyed it

you “thinking”? I wonder what that looks like

Edited

This sums it all up for me.

Dh and I found it extremely boring and tedious. Very drawn out and the whole social media / toxic masculinity thing wasn’t really explored in depth enough to actually make use of it in terms of teens viewing it (in response to so many people saying they want their teens to watch it).

But I feel like no one is allowed to say that because everyone leaps on them and accuses them of not understanding it / not being intelligent enough to “get it” or worse still “it’s sooooo important, how can you call it boring?” As if people who enjoyed it are somehow intellectually superior. We’re all different. It’s fine to enjoy it or not. But it doesn’t make someone stupid because they didn’t like it.

Dh and I watch a lot of true crime drama type stuff (obviously I know this wasn’t true crime) and there are LOTS of programmes which cover these sorts of issues in a better way. They just don’t get hyped as much!

528htz · 22/03/2025 17:25

It was okay with some good acting, but there wasn't enough examination of the motive and the whole toxic masculinity thing. Tate was mentioned briefly, but I still felt it was wishy washy regarding how the young lad had come to hate this girl so much that he killed her. I can't even remember why he did it now. Did we ever find out? I think it was overhyped with not enough depth.

Snugglemonkey · 22/03/2025 17:28

Baconmaple · 22/03/2025 15:21

I thought it was very tedious and drawn out while at the same time totally lacking any depth. You are left at the end of it with no clear understanding regarding the boy and his actions. First episode was quite good except for the arrest and then the rest was a total waste of time.

I finished having a really clear picture of his background and how toxic masculinity manifested itself in his family. In his life. I understood the perfect storm that ended up with the murder.

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 17:44

528htz · 22/03/2025 17:25

It was okay with some good acting, but there wasn't enough examination of the motive and the whole toxic masculinity thing. Tate was mentioned briefly, but I still felt it was wishy washy regarding how the young lad had come to hate this girl so much that he killed her. I can't even remember why he did it now. Did we ever find out? I think it was overhyped with not enough depth.

Oh yes just remembered a scene where I thought the acting was truly awful

the officers were at the school and one of the officers mentioned Tate, and that peculiar pastoral care woman said “oh yes I have heard the boys mention Tate” as though she was revealing something groundbreaking

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Moier · 22/03/2025 17:46

Filmed near me and Brad Pitt was there!

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 17:50

Moier · 22/03/2025 17:46

Filmed near me and Brad Pitt was there!

Brad Pitt? Must have missed him in it! 😂

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Baconmaple · 22/03/2025 17:55

Snugglemonkey · 22/03/2025 17:28

I finished having a really clear picture of his background and how toxic masculinity manifested itself in his family. In his life. I understood the perfect storm that ended up with the murder.

Really? I must be missing loads of subtle referencing then as to me it was woefully superficial. Oh no I'm bad at sport and girls don't fancy me and I've watched a youtube video oh no...

Pigeonqueen · 22/03/2025 17:58

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 17:50

Brad Pitt? Must have missed him in it! 😂

I think he was one of the producers.

WavyRavey · 22/03/2025 18:08

I thought it was great, I saw some people say they didn't think a lad that young would be like that but recently some 10 year olds at my sons school were looking up some VERY dodgy stuff in school time so nothing surprises me now.

Love Stephen Graham and will watch him in anything

ragandbonewoman · 22/03/2025 18:14

Bodumb · 22/03/2025 15:12

I found the execution of the warrant in the first scene, utterly unrealistic and all the school stuff a load of crap

Unrealistic in what way @Bodumb?

I found that to be one of the more realistic parts. Can’t believe all the school stuff? But then I'm not a teacher, I do have much experience in youth justice.

Snugglemonkey · 22/03/2025 18:20

Baconmaple · 22/03/2025 17:55

Really? I must be missing loads of subtle referencing then as to me it was woefully superficial. Oh no I'm bad at sport and girls don't fancy me and I've watched a youtube video oh no...

Yes, it would seem you have.

Baconmaple · 22/03/2025 18:22

Snugglemonkey · 22/03/2025 18:20

Yes, it would seem you have.

Please enlighten me.

Notaflippinclue · 22/03/2025 18:28

Agree not realistic - white kid 13 from 2 parent working family isn’t typical for this kind of crime, maybe 16 gang member knife carrying mental health etc etc, I think the producers chickened out because of the mood in the country at present

Jade520 · 22/03/2025 18:32

The lad going from losing the plot to pleading for her to like him in episode three was really impressive I thought. His ability to go from looking like a little, lost kid to a vicious, sneery little bastard had me sitting up and taking notice anyway.

Baconmaple · 22/03/2025 18:37

Yes the boys acting was very good, especially with such a thin story to go off.

Smallmercies · 22/03/2025 18:37

It started off well, but I became progressively disappointed and in the end found it very forgettable. So many storylines were started and then instantly dropped, and Stephen Graham only seems to have one mode of acting.

boymama82 · 22/03/2025 18:38

I was really disappointed, dragged out, boring and no ending!

latetothefisting · 22/03/2025 18:42

StretfordEnd · 22/03/2025 17:03

I thought that the murder was a bit unrealistic. It's still incredibly rare that a 13 year old from a two involved, loving, working, home owning parent family would stab someone to death in the UK, and if they did there would be signs relating to extreme behaviours, such as hurting animals or hitting his mother or sister, ruling the house. If he'd been going off the rails a bit, maybe. They could have looked at how families can't get help (like the Rudakabana family, multiple calls to the police and no effective action taken and a child clearly descending over years into mental illness, radicalization and hatred).

I feel like if they had gone for threats or stalking or online hounding of a girl and delved more into his attitude to women and where specifically that came from it would have been more realistic. Or made him 16, or given a relevant history.

why home-owning?
a) it was never actually specified whether they owned their home or not
b) are renters somehow more likely to be criminals?

in terms of being unrealistic, there are deaths every year in the UK caused by people who have absolutely no criminal history or background concerns - someone insults them/their partner, they punch them, it lands badly and the aggressor hits their head and dies, or they get road rage, try and intimidate another driver and something goes wrong, not to mention DV instances - although there is usually a pattern of escalation, it's not always. Sometimes people just snap, and if adults can, so can children. Jamie was pretty small and slight for his age - without the knife he might still have snapped and tried to hit her, but it would be very unlikely he would have killed her.

Pinkissmart · 22/03/2025 18:44

I enjoyed it, but as I said in another thread, I find it so hard to accept that the school didn't know what incels were or who Andrew Tate is. They mentioned the 80/20 thing several times as if it's shocking and new.

I can't believe that someone as wet as the teacher portrayed would be asked to lead the detectives around.

It had a pompous air of trying to teach us something but I think it could have done better.

Newmumhere40 · 22/03/2025 18:45

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 22/03/2025 15:04

It was certainly an original take on knife crime in the UK.

What.....I think you missed the point

Radish81 · 22/03/2025 18:46

Pinkissmart · 22/03/2025 18:44

I enjoyed it, but as I said in another thread, I find it so hard to accept that the school didn't know what incels were or who Andrew Tate is. They mentioned the 80/20 thing several times as if it's shocking and new.

I can't believe that someone as wet as the teacher portrayed would be asked to lead the detectives around.

It had a pompous air of trying to teach us something but I think it could have done better.

That teacher actress was appalling I thought

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Ellejay67 · 22/03/2025 18:49

I thought the acting was outstanding. I didn't think the story was well rounded. Threw in too many red herrings for no reason.

Maitri108 · 22/03/2025 18:51

I've obviously missed something as I don't understand the praise. I thought it was ok. If people have never heard of incels or children having unsupervised access to the internet, it's strange. It seems to have blown some people's minds.

Newmumhere40 · 22/03/2025 18:53

Bodumb · 22/03/2025 15:12

I found the execution of the warrant in the first scene, utterly unrealistic and all the school stuff a load of crap

Tell me you've never worked in a state school without telling me....🤣