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To find so many police bullies?

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Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 00:28

Is it just me who finds so many police just utter bullies?

I unfortunately had to call them today and the officer was just so arrogant at knowing it all (while knowing nothing and just completely ignorant) and then as I stood holding my door open for him to leave he grabbed hold of my knocker and yanked the door taking my arm with it hurting me and has broken my knocker.

I'm just so sick of it. I phoned the police to report his assault of me and apparently you can't report a crime a police officer has committed- I have to make a complaint. And no, they won't send a different officer round to take a statement from me (about what I originally phoned the police for.) - they will send him around to potentially assault me again - thanks for the understanding!

I'm told I have to make a complaint for inappropriate force - I mean what exactly do they consider appropriate force against a member of the public politely holding the door open for them? The mind boggles. There's no point in making a complaint as I tried it last time and 4 months later there's been no response! Noone can tell me when I may or may not get a response. They are literally a law unto themselves!

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Bluevelvetsofa · 22/03/2025 18:07

I think the point about police officers enjoying having power over others is undoubtedly an issue. If you are given powers of arrest in your job and if you are used to seeing the more unpleasant side of society, I imagine you perspective can become skewed and power driven.

A neighbour was a police officer and, apart from the aggressive behaviour towards the public, some of the things they did which were deemed to be amusing, were appalling, morally reprehensible and probably unlawful.

I hope there are caring and considerate officers and I hope there are those that treat others with respect, but it does seem that the police service attracts some whose motives are suspect.

Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 19:59

ThriveIn2025 · 22/03/2025 17:59

I went to a friends house after I was assaulted by my then husband (around 20yrs ago). She convinced me to go to the police and accompanied me to the station. I was interviewed by 2 male officers. They concluded it was my word against his. They did not take a statement from me. They did not photograph my injuries. They did not question him or remove him from my home. I was very much treated like a silly little girl.

So yes, I believe you OP and sadly not much has changed in 20 years.

I'm so sorry for your experience. It is making me even angrier knowing that I am far from in the minority at having experienced this.

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Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 20:01

Bluevelvetsofa · 22/03/2025 18:07

I think the point about police officers enjoying having power over others is undoubtedly an issue. If you are given powers of arrest in your job and if you are used to seeing the more unpleasant side of society, I imagine you perspective can become skewed and power driven.

A neighbour was a police officer and, apart from the aggressive behaviour towards the public, some of the things they did which were deemed to be amusing, were appalling, morally reprehensible and probably unlawful.

I hope there are caring and considerate officers and I hope there are those that treat others with respect, but it does seem that the police service attracts some whose motives are suspect.

I believe there are some caring officers but unfortunately they are in the minority.

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Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 21:07

I've just had an officer ring me to tell me they are putting a DVPO in place to give me 'some time to cool off'. When I asked what exactly I was meant to be cooling off from considering I perfectly calmly answered my door to get assaulted by my ex partner he got irate with me. I asked some questions which just got the response 'I don't know'. I've had to phone 101 to ask my questions and spoke to a friendly woman who I found myself saying to at the end of the call 'thank you for not shouting at me!'

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dickdarstardlymuttley · 22/03/2025 21:13

‘I unfortunately had to call them today and the officer was just so arrogant at knowing it all )while knowing nothing and just completely ignorant)’.

Can you elaborate?

Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 22:04

dickdarstardlymuttley · 22/03/2025 21:13

‘I unfortunately had to call them today and the officer was just so arrogant at knowing it all )while knowing nothing and just completely ignorant)’.

Can you elaborate?

It was just around mental health and the 136 power. Not understanding who can and cannot detain a mentally unwell person etc.

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Serencwtch · 23/03/2025 08:11

Sotired222 · 22/03/2025 22:04

It was just around mental health and the 136 power. Not understanding who can and cannot detain a mentally unwell person etc.

The 136 is to detain someone 'Found in a public place by a police officer'
They can't detain someone in a private property on a 136.
Police should no longer be attending mental health calls in peoples homes unless there is an immediate threat to life - they should be redirecting to ambulance service who can arrange AMPH assessment & admission that way.

Sotired222 · 24/03/2025 13:20

Yes, I know. The person was not in a private property. The police will do anything to not carry out this duty though including bullying women into taking a violent person having a psychotic episode into their home with their children. Most officers have a complete lack of understanding of 136 and how the mental health system works. For example will often claim that if they take someone to A&E and that they 'let them out' then 'they must be ok.' The ambulance service are unable to deal with people who are experiencing psychosis making them violent and a danger to themselves and everyone around them. This is a police job and police officers need the appropriate training.

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