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Feel this country has become rotten - benefits

392 replies

She11y · 20/03/2025 23:13

A studio apartment in my area is about £800 per month.
A minim wage job is around £1500 per month net.
After you've worked in a hard and demanding job - most minimum wage jobs are demanding - you've got £700 to pay for food, travel, bills, clothes.
You might end up with £100 left over each month. Working hard all your life with no hope of owning your own home or having any sort of financial stability.
No wonder people don't want to work. Make owninf a house affordable and over night 1/3 the people claiming benefits will stop.

My point is that a lot of people are on benefits because they're depressed at the hopelessness of their futures, and try to avoid working.

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MrsFinkelstein · 21/03/2025 10:36

hairbearbunches · 21/03/2025 10:08

Trade might give us the 'cheapest goods' but it comes at a massive cost. Other countries can and do (China, in particular) subsidise their production so it's not a level playing field.

Just the other day, Scotland awarded a contract to build 7 new ferries not to Ferguson shipyard in Scotland, but one in Poland. 900 jobs are now at risk. Big risk. How does that cheaper contract look once 900 people are claiming benefits and unable to get new jobs? It's utter bullshit. Labour said they weren't going to do this. It's the same old crap, probably done to keep Poland on side in Starmer's coalition of the willing (ffs, who came up with that name?) in regards Ukraine.

The middle classes laud France. France puts France first, it backs French companies and puts France first in everything it does. Britain? Britain couldn't back itself if it was the only country left on earth.

The ferry contract was awarded to a Polish firm because Ferguson completely ballsed up the last contract they were given. Ferries over budget, late delivery, not fit for purpose. The most recent ferry they just built is now back in for repairs because they found a cracked hull (it has only just been delivered). It's cost Scottish taxpayers (& UK) extra millions.

And the SNP are the governing party in Scotland, not Labour. It was the SNP that agreed on the contract.

The Polish firm have built ferries in use by CalMac before.

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 10:38

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:15

it's a start isn't it,how about they stop paying there own so much money and that would be a big start,stop sending OUR money to other countries unless it's a natural disaster,our country is failing so much and starmer is making it a whole lot worse,who ever voted for this conman need there head checking,I myself thought at first this guy knows what he's on about but never voted,so glad I never or I'd feel guilty he's in power,I know 4 people so far that have had their pip stopped since he's been in,see borris and sunak want that bad was they,il never get the chance to buy my own house especially now but strange thing is my rent is about 3 times more than paying a mortgage off would be for the home I'm in now,it's not fair,there stopping pip for certain. people to get them working,how about leave the disabled people alone and concentrate on the lazy ass druggys that don't wanna work or just pure lazy people,don't pick on disabled people makes him sound like a school bully picking on the vulnerable,piss eds and smack beds ain't disabled it's a lifestyle they chose so focus on these people so all other people that live a decent life can make something of there life's,but yh this country sucks right now and will only get worse,we need labour out and fast

Good grief. I don't think I even know where to start...

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:43

@ilovesootyat the beginning is always a good starting point

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 10:48

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:43

@ilovesootyat the beginning is always a good starting point

I'll begin by saying you know absolutely nothing about addiction.

RaininSummer · 21/03/2025 10:49

Single people on minimum wage cant really expect to have their own single accommodation really though. Shared housing is usually the way with this and then if you imprive your earnings or live with a parter it becomes affordable. Two people on min wage is 3000 then which obviously goes further.

Halfull · 21/03/2025 10:49

Silvertulips · 20/03/2025 23:38

Sadly, wages no longer cover the cost of living and a lot of people are grateful for additional benefits, but all this does is stop employers paying a decent wage.

Benefits shouldn’t exist for working adults, because they should be paid a fair wage - I think minimum wage has a lot to answer for, some one just starting out should not be on the same wage and someone with 20 years experience.

This is so true. Let’s be clear, benefits for low waged working people aren’t really a subsidy for them, they are a subsidy for employers enabling them to pay low wages. We need the work done by people on minimum wage, and not everyone will be able to do other jobs, nor would we want them to or the things they do won’t get done. So squeezing this group still harder is incredibly disrespectful and cruel. We shouldn’t need to subsidise people in a full time job, but we do, and then forget it’s not their fault the system works in this way.

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:50

@ilovesootyyh your right i don't,all I know is it's self inflicted where as a disability is not self inflicted,am I wrong? I'm guessing you know alot about it to get so defensive about,why should anyone with an addiction to drugs or alcohol be given extra money? so they have extra drugs and alcohol that's all they see it as

TheSassyTraybake · 21/03/2025 10:53

I think you’re doing a Trump on this - taking a hugely complex issue and making it seem very simple.

Housing being too expensive is a problem, but for those who have already joined the system of home ownership - either occupiers or landlords - can’t afford for house prices/rents to drop dramatically overnight. You could say so what - it needs to happen. But these people vote and it would take a very brave political party to attempt to get elected while alienating homeowners. So it needs to be a long term solution - saying slash rents is too simplistic and can’t happen overnight.

Benefits wise are there people who abuse the system? Who could work and choose not to? Yes. But stopping that is hugely complex. Lots of people who haven’t worked (in some cases their entire lives) wouldn’t be ready to start full time work overnight. Also once you have given benefits out taking them back or reducing them is cruel - people become reliant on that money. And again the politics of that is extremely problematic. It seems nice to give money to people who are struggling and that’s what voters like to hear. And successive governments have created a poverty trap - if you start working your benefits get cut so you’re not really any better off - so why bother. Also can’t take the money away and force people to work because again, that can’t happen overnight it needs long term thinking.

Unfortunately the nature of all governments is they’re only thinking at most 5 years ahead to the next election. So long term strategy is never achievable.

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 10:55

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:50

@ilovesootyyh your right i don't,all I know is it's self inflicted where as a disability is not self inflicted,am I wrong? I'm guessing you know alot about it to get so defensive about,why should anyone with an addiction to drugs or alcohol be given extra money? so they have extra drugs and alcohol that's all they see it as

I think you're so ill informed it's not worth my while engaging in debate with you.

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 11:00

@ilovesootyi don't worry about been miss informed I can see it with my owns eyes,begging people for money when we probably have less money than they do,anyone who turns to drugs and alcohol it is all self inflicted by themselves or someone they got close to encouraging them to do it,bad experiences in life I get that but turning to drugs and alcohol isn't they way forward is it then expect other people to pay for there addictions while people thay are trying to earn a proper living can't coz we miss out coz of these scum bags

frillygillymilly · 21/03/2025 11:01

House prices are crazy and the social contract has gone for the youth. You are not wrong in that respect.

Agree also wage stagnation

Secretmeetings · 21/03/2025 11:01

System is broken. I had a look on another forum. Shocked to read that someone was quoted as 'lucky' and 'happy' because they qualified for PIP. They were morbidly obese and needed a mobility scooter. that is not a genuine disability it is self inflicted. Less money and they would eat less food.

Another was awarded a £20K PIP back payment and the person wanted to also claim interest. Unbelievable.

Society is levelling down. A disgrace.

frillygillymilly · 21/03/2025 11:02

socio economic factors do impact health though

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 11:03

@Secretmeetingswell said

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 11:05

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 11:00

@ilovesootyi don't worry about been miss informed I can see it with my owns eyes,begging people for money when we probably have less money than they do,anyone who turns to drugs and alcohol it is all self inflicted by themselves or someone they got close to encouraging them to do it,bad experiences in life I get that but turning to drugs and alcohol isn't they way forward is it then expect other people to pay for there addictions while people thay are trying to earn a proper living can't coz we miss out coz of these scum bags

What job do you do where you're financing people whose lives you disapprove of?

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 11:08

Secretmeetings · 21/03/2025 11:01

System is broken. I had a look on another forum. Shocked to read that someone was quoted as 'lucky' and 'happy' because they qualified for PIP. They were morbidly obese and needed a mobility scooter. that is not a genuine disability it is self inflicted. Less money and they would eat less food.

Another was awarded a £20K PIP back payment and the person wanted to also claim interest. Unbelievable.

Society is levelling down. A disgrace.

Do you actually know that this person is morbidly obese due to overeating?

Secretmeetings · 21/03/2025 11:09

Nothing else was mentioned.

TheSassyTraybake · 21/03/2025 11:19

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 11:08

Do you actually know that this person is morbidly obese due to overeating?

I sympathise with lots of what you’re saying but if you’re about to go down the some people take medication etc excuses for obesity then let’s get real.

I’m sure there are other reasons for a small number of people but for the vast majority of people poor diet and overeating are the reasons they are obese. I don’t think we can solve a problem without at least being honest about the cause of it.

Pigsears · 21/03/2025 11:20

On NMW, take home pay is £1721 based on 37.5 hours of work per week.

So actually £221 per month more than you state.

Locutus2000 · 21/03/2025 11:28

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 10:55

I think you're so ill informed it's not worth my while engaging in debate with you.

All they want is a reaction, denying that is the most satisfying approach.

flapjackfairy · 21/03/2025 11:32

InWalksBarberalla · 21/03/2025 01:45

And? What do you think would happen to you partner if he was one of the vast majority of people in the world right now who live in a country without a benefit system, or the vast majority of people over human history anywhere. Yes the UK had a purple patch where there was more money than there is now but it was never going to last and a world where a government can support masses of unproductive people indefinitely is a fantasy land.

Well he would be a beggar on the streets most likely and may well end up dead at a young age. Is that what we should accept then ?

Bushmillsbabe · 21/03/2025 11:35

Itsyourwifeymacrid · 21/03/2025 10:50

@ilovesootyyh your right i don't,all I know is it's self inflicted where as a disability is not self inflicted,am I wrong? I'm guessing you know alot about it to get so defensive about,why should anyone with an addiction to drugs or alcohol be given extra money? so they have extra drugs and alcohol that's all they see it as

It's more complex than that. Some disabilities could be seen as self inflicted - someone eats and drinks too much, gets heart disease and has a stroke, someone does an extreme sport and fractures spine and ends up paralysed, smokes and gets COPD. Some addictions - such as heroin, can link to inappropriate pain relief prescriptions by drs following an injury - think the oxycodone crisis in US. A soldier gets PTSD following being in a war zone defending our country, can't get mental health support they need, so self medicates with drugs out if desperation.

It's not always so clear cut as 'unlucky' and 'self inflicted', there can be many complex factors at play. People need to be supported, whether that's with addictions or disabilities, to make positive change. If they refuse help after many attempts, that then becomes challenging, but help rather than punishment should always be first option.

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 11:38

TheSassyTraybake · 21/03/2025 11:19

I sympathise with lots of what you’re saying but if you’re about to go down the some people take medication etc excuses for obesity then let’s get real.

I’m sure there are other reasons for a small number of people but for the vast majority of people poor diet and overeating are the reasons they are obese. I don’t think we can solve a problem without at least being honest about the cause of it.

I do take your point here. However there are medical conditions that make obesity more likely and poverty and poor diets tend to go hand in hand too.

JoyousOpalTurtle · 21/03/2025 11:40

ilovesooty · 21/03/2025 11:08

Do you actually know that this person is morbidly obese due to overeating?

Let's not lie to ourselves and each other here, there is literally no other way to pack on so much excess weight you're morbidly obese other than overeating. Overeating means eating more calories than your body burns off. People who are morbidly obese don't need to disclose to anyone they got there by overeating, everyone already knows by looking at them.

cardibach · 21/03/2025 11:42

Silvertulips · 20/03/2025 23:38

Sadly, wages no longer cover the cost of living and a lot of people are grateful for additional benefits, but all this does is stop employers paying a decent wage.

Benefits shouldn’t exist for working adults, because they should be paid a fair wage - I think minimum wage has a lot to answer for, some one just starting out should not be on the same wage and someone with 20 years experience.

But minimum wage should cover all expenses, as you say. So it’s not minimum wage that has a lot to answer for - it’s still not high enough - it’s employers not paying more to experienced workers. Everything is way too much balanced to businesses making massive profits (and yes, I know this isn’t always true of small businesses).