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Mother's day lunch

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LoveFridaynight · 20/03/2025 10:13

This will be my first Mother's day since my mum died. It was less than 2 months ago so still quite painful.
Normally on Mother's day we each see our mum's in the morning and then meet up for a pub lunch.
Obviously things will be different this year and I've told DH I don't want to do a pub lunch, happy to cook or get a takeaway. I don't think I could bear to see loads of happy families together just yet.
MIL has suggested we all have lunch together this year (fine) expect now SILs husband wants to invite his mum too so it's been agreed (but not by me) to all meet at a restaurant as it will be a lot of people for someone to cook for.
I've told DH I'm not going. He is welcome to go with the kids but I don't want to. Perfectly happy to stay at home and order a pizza or something.
DH said he doesn't want to go without me but he would like to go. I just said it's his decision what he does but I'm staying home. I don't want to see MIL with her children or BIL with his mum.
I feel a bit upset that DHs family would suggest something where they all see their mum's apart from me. Not to mention all the other people who will be at the restaurant with their mums.
AIBU to say I'm not going? I know MIL will make it seems like I am but I'd like some outside opinions

OP posts:
MsBucket · 22/03/2025 22:46

@MakkaPakkasCave You can’t fault people for wanting to spend time with their mums. Why shouldn’t OP’s husband see his mum? He can easily do both, see his mum briefly and support OP.

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