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Help! She's standing on the toilet seat!!

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Crazyworksituatio · 19/03/2025 20:35

Help! I've no idea how to deal with this without offending. Since a new female employee has started working with us there are shoe prints on toilet seat. It's a corporate office but only a few females use this toilet so obvious who the culprit is. The lady is from India and new to country. She's very professional and I think this is a cultural difference but I'm horrified she thinks this is ok? What would you do??

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Riversof0tter5 · 20/03/2025 15:58

dialfor · 20/03/2025 15:46

2 bus loads of man all needing, and doing, a shit at the same time?

come on now

Maybe they had an hygienic orgy

Bumpitybumpbumplook · 20/03/2025 16:25

dialfor · 20/03/2025 15:46

2 bus loads of man all needing, and doing, a shit at the same time?

come on now

Goodness you are so smart catching me in that fat lie. Get a hobby.

jannier · 20/03/2025 16:25

Surely apart from your own risk of injury and breakages the other point is that however you go you don't leave it dirty no matter what your used to turn around and clean it up.

NPET · 20/03/2025 16:53

Tbrh · 20/03/2025 02:01

Public to me is any toilet that's not in someone's home (ie someone I personally know in some regard)

Yes agreed. I guess I think of college and work as like home because there are few girls/women using the toilets I use there (it's a mini-dorm toilet at college in the dorm I briefly lived).
But tbh I try not to use "public" ones as I've never been happy with hovering or squatting, especially if I need to do more than just pee.
(Sorry tmi but this thread is detailed!)

Tekknonan · 20/03/2025 16:55

We'd be a lot healthier if we had squat toilets - our higher ones are not designed for the way our guts are arranged. This is why so many if us get piles or constipation.

However, it isn't good to stand on the classic 'high' toilet because you can break the seat, they are not designed for it and it isn't hygienic. A proper squat toilet doesn't allow either the bum or the feet to touch the loo.

Notices are probably best, but as a PP has suggested, they should go in all toilets.

pinkgown · 20/03/2025 17:06

Tekknonan · 20/03/2025 16:55

We'd be a lot healthier if we had squat toilets - our higher ones are not designed for the way our guts are arranged. This is why so many if us get piles or constipation.

However, it isn't good to stand on the classic 'high' toilet because you can break the seat, they are not designed for it and it isn't hygienic. A proper squat toilet doesn't allow either the bum or the feet to touch the loo.

Notices are probably best, but as a PP has suggested, they should go in all toilets.

At my age I'd have to put my hand on the floor to get up from a squat toilet. I'll risk the piles!

RaininSummer · 20/03/2025 17:22

Thinking about this again today for some reason. How do you squat on a toilet whilst holding up your dress or even trickier how do you not pee all over your trousers and knickers? How do you wipe as surely your hands are holding up clothing and balancing?

WearyAuldWumman · 20/03/2025 17:25

RaininSummer · 20/03/2025 17:22

Thinking about this again today for some reason. How do you squat on a toilet whilst holding up your dress or even trickier how do you not pee all over your trousers and knickers? How do you wipe as surely your hands are holding up clothing and balancing?

It's manageable but awkward with a ground level toilet (for those of us not used to it) but I can say that the (western style) toilets in our Moscow hostel were always in a mess.

We used to try to use the loo first thing after the cleaner had been in, in the morning.

RatedDoingMagic · 20/03/2025 17:57

This was supposed to be quoting @RaininSummer but the site glitched and lost the quote.

Have you never done a wild wee when out on a ramble?

It's very easy. If you push everything that's like trousers/pants/shorts down to below the knee and then squat - WITH your back braced against a tree or wall, your clothing is around the length of your thighs further forward than your bum (possibly a bit less if the are diagonal) which is plenty in most circumstances. You can see from the "don't squat" image in the toilet notices earlier in this thread that the feet and bum are not too close to eachother although you do need to make sure that your feet aren't "downstream" if you aren't squatting over a hole. I never wear skirts but it can't be hard to just tuck them into a waistband or belt. Some music festivals have started having squatting urinals for women too.

KnickerlessParsons · 20/03/2025 18:32

RaininSummer · 20/03/2025 17:22

Thinking about this again today for some reason. How do you squat on a toilet whilst holding up your dress or even trickier how do you not pee all over your trousers and knickers? How do you wipe as surely your hands are holding up clothing and balancing?

Have you never had a wee behind a bush?

RaininSummer · 20/03/2025 19:04

KnickerlessParsons · 20/03/2025 18:32

Have you never had a wee behind a bush?

The only times I have tried that, I peed in my shoes hence the question.

barmychix · 20/03/2025 19:08

tachetastic · 19/03/2025 22:36

I am 50 years old, have several degrees, have held down many jobs and have lived in three countries and before tonight I never knew this was a thing.

We're all learning.

I’m confused what your degrees have to do with knowing about other countries toilet systems?

WearyAuldWumman · 20/03/2025 21:24

RaininSummer · 20/03/2025 19:04

The only times I have tried that, I peed in my shoes hence the question.

You do get better with practice, but it was a shock for me the first time I visited the relatives in ex-Yugo. (All the toilets were 'field' toilets. The only exception was that belonging to the one relative who lived in Belgrade.)

I was only 11 and refused to go for three days, I kid you not. By the time I got home, I had a kidney stone.

tachetastic · 20/03/2025 22:51

barmychix · 20/03/2025 19:08

I’m confused what your degrees have to do with knowing about other countries toilet systems?

What I have learned is never to explain your own jokes. Don’t worry.

RaininSummer · 21/03/2025 18:06

WearyAuldWumman · 20/03/2025 21:24

You do get better with practice, but it was a shock for me the first time I visited the relatives in ex-Yugo. (All the toilets were 'field' toilets. The only exception was that belonging to the one relative who lived in Belgrade.)

I was only 11 and refused to go for three days, I kid you not. By the time I got home, I had a kidney stone.

Oh no that is awful. I managed squat toilets when younger in Morocco but just cannot imagine balancing on a loo seat when your feet are quite close togather

carrotsandtomatoes · 21/03/2025 19:24

andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · 19/03/2025 20:44

No one has caught an illness through the skin on their bum cheeks. It's not gross, it's just culturally different.

It’s not gross if everyone dies it but it’s completely unhygienic if the bottom of shoes is being placed where people sit.

Wearing shoes in homes is disgusting but that’s a whole different conversation.

squatting is fine but not on the toilet seat. She should lift the seat and stand on the porcelain at least

Diorchristian · 21/03/2025 19:31

It's probably healthier squatting! I admire anyone who can get up on it and then squat that would be nigh on impossible for me 😂😂.

Op mention it to hr

Violinist64 · 21/03/2025 23:02

For those saying it is healthier to squat, it may be, but the mess that is left in toilets where squatting is the general custom is generally extremely unpleasant. Malaysian public toilets immediately spring to mind. They are always awash with water on the floor and left in a very unhygienic manner. I think l will stick to western style toilets.

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