DH served 35yrs in the RAF. He left school with a handful of qualifications, but the RAF made him, tbh. I never thought he’d leave, even in the months before his exit date he was enquiring about a service extension, it was turned down, and he was gutted. Saying that, he got an excellent job, through the resettlement process, earning more than we ever dreamed of, and within weeks he was happier than he’d been in years. He’d become completely institutionalised and was fearful of jumping ship. A few weeks after he left, he got his lump sum, and his pension kicked in which was great.
DS1 is in the army, he’s 30 and has been in 11yrs. He’s had enough. Out of the cohort who he joined with, there’s 3 or 4 left. He can leave and do whatever he wants because I refused to sign the paperwork for him to join at 16, despite that being what he wanted, so he has 11 GCSEs & 3 A levels. He, also, has the qualifications he’s gained in the army.
He has got to a very good rank, and earns a good wage, which is one of the main problems with him leaving tbh. All he has to pay for atm is his room in the mess and his phone. He knows what he thinks he wants to do but it will be years before his salary becomes comparable to what it is now so it’s a big decision to make.
All he ever wanted to be was a soldier, right from when he was tiny so it’s sad to see him so disillusioned. We had to appeal for him to go in because he suffered with migraines as a child, and that was a no no. They didn’t care about his hay fever, and still don’t, they prescribe him antihistamines because it’s been quite bad the past few years. I really thought he’d do a full career, but it seems not. He loved it at the beginning, he volunteered for everything and has been all over the world. Not anymore though.